206: How To Stop Self-Sabotage So You Can Quit Pornography and Repair Your Relationship

206: How To Stop Self-Sabotage So You Can Quit Pornography and Repair Your Relationship

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Podcast Description: If you’ve ever wondered, “Why do I keep going back to porn even when I don’t want to?” — this episode is for you.

In today’s conversation, we’re uncovering why so many men sabotage their progress when trying to quit porn, even when they’re motivated, committed, and know what’s at stake. Whether you're struggling with porn addiction, trying to break the habit of watching porn, or working to rebuild trust after betrayal, this episode dives into the root of why you keep slipping—and how to stop.

You’ll learn:

Why you keep relapsing during porn recovery even when you really want to change

The emotional and psychological patterns that lead to self-sabotage during addiction recovery

What’s actually happening when you feel triggered, overwhelmed, or disconnected—and how that leads back to porn

How to work through the internal stories like “I’m never going to change” or “This is just who I am”

How men use porn as a way to escape feelings like shame, rejection, failure, and not being enough

Why many men unintentionally destroy the intimacy and trust they’re trying to rebuild with their wives

The real reason your past efforts to quit pornography haven’t worked—and what to do differently

Tools that actually work to build lasting freedom from porn, heal your marriage, and create long-term change

How to stop numbing, hiding, and isolating when you're in emotional pain

Real client stories of men who broke free from long-term porn habits, repaired emotional connection, and finally felt proud of who they were becoming

If you’ve tried porn blockers, accountability groups, or even therapy—but still feel like something deeper is keeping you stuck—this episode will help you identify the real reason for your porn struggles and finally give you a clear path forward.

This is for men who are serious about:

How to quit watching porn

How to stop masturbating to porn

How to recover after cheating or lying about porn use

How to rebuild trust after porn addiction in marriage

How to stop watching porn without white-knuckling

How to heal shame after pornography use

How to fix your relationship after betrayal

What to do when your wife doesn’t feel safe after porn

How to build emotional safety in marriage

And most of all—how to become the man you want to be

This episode offers a proven path to breaking free from porn, getting unstuck, and healing your relationship—from the inside out.

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The 90-Day Blueprint to Heal Your Marriage After Pornography Addiction

The 90-Day Blueprint to Heal Your Marriage After Pornography Addiction

Restoring the trust, connection, and love in your marriage is possible after pornography addiction has caused hurt and betrayal. Once couples know exactly what to do and what the steps are, they can start to find relief from the pain in a single conversation. Those conversations need to be followed up with more action, consistency, and continued conversations for healing, but you can get the tools and direction you need in just 90 days and continue to implement them long after a course or program is finished. In this episode, I break down the stepping stones in the healing process, to help you know what areas to focus on so you can find that relief and connection together. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? 
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

22 Apr 202229min

The 90-Day Blueprint to Overcome Pornography Addiction

The 90-Day Blueprint to Overcome Pornography Addiction

Is it possible to overcome pornography addiction in just 90 days? With the right tools and approach it is. Listen to this episode to discover the exact blueprint and approach to finding freedom.  In this episode, I break down the most overlooked element in the healing process, which keeps people stuck for years spinning their wheels and feeling discouraged.  For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? 
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

26 Mars 202229min

A Couples Success Story: 3 Key Tools That Saved Their Marriage From Divorce

A Couples Success Story: 3 Key Tools That Saved Their Marriage From Divorce

The road to healing a marriage can feel hopeless and overwhelming, so I brought on a couple, John and Ann, who went from separation and almost divorcing twice to now feeling more connected and secure together than ever. They share their struggles of trying to overcome the impact of a pornography addiction, what specific things helped them the most, how they could grow closer together in their marriage, and the most effective thing that he did to help her with her triggers. Instead of getting stuck in old cycles of defensiveness, frustration, and avoidance, they now can have conversations together, work through triggers and pain, and know exactly how to reconnect whenever something comes up. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? 
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

25 Feb 202242min

Overcome Shame, Guilt, and Regret with Sathiya Sam

Overcome Shame, Guilt, and Regret with Sathiya Sam

When a man struggles with a pornography addiction, he often feels shame, guilt, and regret because of his decisions.  In order to find freedom, working through these negative emotions is critical.  Today’s episode I have Sathiya, a man who is overcome pornography addiction himself and now helps other men find freedom as well, and he shares his approach for overcoming these negative emotions, finding forgiveness of self, and ultimately achieving freedom from addiction.  You can find more information about Sathiya, along with his new book here: https://www.sathiyasam.com/   For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? 
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

10 Feb 202229min

The Key to Overcome Pornography Addiction Without 12-Step, Accountability Partners, or Filters on Devices

The Key to Overcome Pornography Addiction Without 12-Step, Accountability Partners, or Filters on Devices

Traditional pornography addiction recovery typically takes 3-5 years, according to established therapists in the industry. The problem is that most people don’t want to spend that long fighting such an exhausting battle. The problem with the traditional way of overcoming porn addiction is that it’s centered on managing the symptoms instead of resolving the core issue. Things like group attendance, accountability, filters, using willpower to fight urges, all of these old methods are ineffective and eliminating the root of addiction. In this episode I share with you the most important thing you need to address if you truly want to find freedom from pornography addiction once and for all. Once you address the root problem and resolve it, freedom from addiction can take less than 90 days. And I define freedom as it no longer be a part of your life, you don’t think about, you don’t have to fight against urges or temptations, you just feel normal and can live your life without feeling afraid of it returning or constantly being on the lookout for triggers that you should avoid. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? 
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

27 Jan 202220min

The Traditional Way of Seeing Addiction Can Harm You – Try This Instead

The Traditional Way of Seeing Addiction Can Harm You – Try This Instead

In the traditional way of overcoming addiction and restoring a marriage, the husbands is often seen as the bad guy. The message is that he is the problem, there’s something wrong with him, he’s in a one-down position and is less-than. When he gets that message, he often feels discouraged, not good enough, and always in the hole, never able to heal and move forward. His wife often feels disconnected from him, very unsafe, and unable to bring her wall down. There’s a much more empowering and effective way to see pornography addiction recovery, healing trauma, and restoring the marriage. In this episode I share with you some specific examples that can help you see and experience interactions with your spouse differently, which can help you to move forward and beyond the pain instead of feeling manipulated, not good enough, and unloved. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? 
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

10 Jan 202225min

Struggling With Self-Worth? Here Are Some Powerful Tools to Help

Struggling With Self-Worth? Here Are Some Powerful Tools to Help

So many people struggle with feeling low self-worth and the depression / anxiety that accompanies it.  In this episode I share some powerful strategies to help you increase your self-worth and how to experience feeling more love for yourself.  For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? 
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

23 Dec 202132min

The Best Response to Increase Connection and Safety When She‘s Triggered

The Best Response to Increase Connection and Safety When She‘s Triggered

So many women I work tell me that almost everything can be a trigger – the movies, tv shows, going out to eat, women in the grocery story, billboards, you name it.  It’s overwhelming to constantly feel on guard and anxious because any of these triggers sends her into fear and uncertainty, and sadly, so often their husbands don’t know how to respond to help her. In this episode I share one of the most common triggers that women experience and exactly how to diffuse it, and how her husband can help in the process. The more involved he is, not only does it help her work through the triggers faster, but it strengthens her trust in him and increases the safety and connection they both feel. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? 
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

17 Dec 202126min

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