28: James Fallon | How to Spot a Psychopath

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: How hard should you push your spouse toward a life-changing decision that seems obvious to you as the right one? How do you avoid becoming your old boss' free financial advisor just because you happened to give him some good investing advice once? How far does loyalty go toward a friend from whom you've grown apart? How should you evaluate LinkedIn connection requests? Are you being too narrow by only limiting connections to people you've met in the real world? Should you stay put in your high-stress job in your high-stress city because it encapsulates everything familiar, or should you move your family to a place where work-life balance is actually a thing but you'd be starting all over again? How many sides are there really to a love triangle when one doesn't want anything to do with the other two? Should you keep working for a boss who thinks you're wonderful one day and the next wants to fire you? You've got a better job offer and it's time to leave notice with your covert narcissist of an employer. But why's it so hard to break up with such a bad situation? Recommendations of the Week: Magic for Humans and Shin Lim Magic on Penn and Teller: Fool Us. Quick shoutouts to Andrew Lopez and Blaz Stefe! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

14 Sep 201838min

Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) joins us for this deep dive into vulnerability -- what it really is, why it can't be faked, and how to spot it in ourselves and others to make real connections while avoiding manipulation by those who don't always have our best interests at heart. What We Discuss with Gabriel Mizrahi: How to resist the pervasive Cult of Vulnerability that exists even in the most well-meaning of circles today. Why vulnerability doesn't respond to exercises, requests, or expectations, no matter how hard you try. What happens when you try to force vulnerability -- from yourself or someone else. How to tell the difference between authentic and strategic vulnerability. When being vulnerable is appropriate and when it isn't -- and how to ensure we're calibrating it accordingly. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

13 Sep 201852min

Jocko Willink (@jockowillink) rejoins us to discuss his latest book, The Dichotomy of Leadership: Balancing the Challenges of Extreme Ownership to Lead and Win. What We Discuss with Jocko Willink: What happens when we take the "extreme" part of extreme ownership too literally. Why otherwise positive characteristics can be detrimental to progress when we forget the importance of balance. When to take responsibility, and what the limits of this actually are. Why we should stop being the easy button for those we manage and lead. The concept of leadership capital: how to build it, when to use it, and when not to use it. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

11 Sep 20181h 12min

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Boxcutter Guy got married! Congratulations? Love always finds a way. Can a digital nomad who's away for three months out of the year have a healthy relationship with someone who can't travel often and doesn't handle periods of separation well? Why does Jordan study Mandarin? You've been invited to lunch with an executive in your company. How can you make a lasting -- but natural -- impression? Confused about what qualifies as talent stacking (aka skill stacking)? Here's some clarification, courtesy of Ed Latimore. What's your best next move to break out of your post-college rut: teaching abroad or joining the military? Looking for a mentor? Don't forget to apply The Generosity Principle as Jordan taught in this three-part Instagram series: Part 1, 2, and 3 and Six-Minute Networking. What are some steps you can take now, while you're making pretty good money, to work toward your goals? You might be great at forgiving other people, but how can you forgive yourself -- or help someone else forgive themselves? Recommendations of the Week: Empire and Martha & Snoop's Potluck Dinner Party Quick shoutouts to Ankie, Emilie, and Benjamin living in Norway and American Dream University! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

7 Sep 201838min

Isaiah Hankel (@isaiahhankel) is an expert on mental focus, behavioral psychology, and career development. His new book is The Science of Intelligent Achievement: How Smart People Focus, Create, and Grow Their Way to Success. What We Discuss with Isaiah Hankel: Why busy people are easily manipulated. Why 50% of your friendships are fake. How to defend against negativity without becoming negative. How to go on a relationship fast and why you should. How to make the most of your daily productive time by tracking emotions and predicting feelings. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

6 Sep 201853min

Jonathan Haidt (@JonHaidt) is a social psychologist who studies the American culture wars and is widely considered to be one of the world's leading experts on the psychology of morality. He is the co-author of The Coddling of the American Mind: How Good Intentions and Bad Ideas Are Setting Up a Generation for Failure. What We Discuss with Jonathan Haidt: Why should we be preparing the child for the road and not the road for the child? How the concepts of safe spaces and trigger warnings are making our society less safe and less prepared for the real world. What we should be doing instead to prepare ourselves and our kids for reality. Cognitive distortions and how we become victims of our own flawed mindsets. The three fundamental untruths being perpetuated by academia and the media and how we can fight these influences. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

4 Sep 20181h 16min

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: You need to increase your salary so you can adequately provide for your family, but you're not sure your current employer will go for it. Is it time to let go of your dream job? How can you ease the overwhelming loneliness of being on your own for the first time when you're anxious and miss your old life -- especially when the job that moved you to the big city just isn't as interesting as it used to be? Can a man from a blue collar background and a woman who grew up used to the finer things in life build a life together that allows him to feel like a provider without disappointing her expectations? When you're the youngest in a family business that isn't doing so well, how can you tell the other partners -- who once were your mentors and idols -- to level up their mindset and work ethics or else everything will crash and burn? Or is it just time for the family business to crash and burn? What should you do about this habit you have of talking over people? How can you promote yourself without, in weatherman parlance, sending the eye-rolling barometers into the storm zone? How can you learn to have a fluid conversation with people when you're constantly feeling less than? Recommendation of the Week: Zion Quick shoutouts to Simon from Montreal and Timm! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

31 Aug 201843min

Charles Ryu (@freshprinceofpyongyang) escaped from North Korea -- twice -- and now works with Liberty in North Korea to fight for the rights and freedom of those who have been left behind. This is part two of a two-part episode. Check out part one here! What We Discuss with Charles Ryu: The risky train ride that began Charles' escape to freedom. How the swift current of a freezing river likely saved Charles' life. What Charles did once he got to China with no money, food, or water. The chance encounter with a good samaritan and the circuitous path that led to the United States. Why winding up in a Thai prison was the best day of Charles' life up to that point. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

30 Aug 20181h 27min