257: Overcoming Accidental Accomplice to Fraud | Feedback Friday

Your unstable roommate physically attacked you over an argument about laundry, and then she filed a protection from abuse order against you! Now even your family doesn't seem to believe your side of things, and abuse hotlines seem to dismiss you immediately because of your Y chromosome. Even though you're in debt, should you get a lawyer to defend you in case she tries to extort you through the legal system? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, we banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/355. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: After seven-and-a-half years, we're losing a J! :( When an unstable roommate tries to kill you and then convinces your family and friends and the legal system that you tried to kill her, is it time to get a lawyer even on your tight budget? [Thanks to Corbin Payne for weighing in!] You're self-conscious about being Asian American during this pandemic, and your sister is even getting racist verbal abuse hurled at her in high school. What is the right attitude and perspective for you both to carry during this trying time? What's the least awkward way to respond when someone self-deprecates themself in comparison to you? You were recently selected for a diplomatic job in the Balkans with the Army, and despite your aversion to firearms, you'll be required to carry one. How do you mentally prepare for this compromise of your pacifist ideals? You're one semester from college graduation, but nobody in your family knows your GPA is disappointingly low. To top it off, your three younger siblings are set for Ivy League schools and you feel like an unemployable fraud in comparison. How can you improve your outlook? Recommendation of the Week: Kill Chain: The Cyber War on America's Elections A quick shout out to Mercedes! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

22 Maj 202044min

ZDoggMD (@ZDoggMD) [aka Zubin Damania] is a physician, assistant professor, comedian, Internet personality, musician, founder of Turntable Health, and host of The ZDoggMD Show. What We Discuss with ZDoggMD: No, COVID-19 wasn't cooked up in a lab somewhere to wreak havoc on the world's populace at the behest of elite politicians and scientists. No, COVID-19 is not "activated" by wearing face masks designed to protect you and others from the spread of pathogens. No, Dr. Anthony Fauci wasn't responsible for destroying Judy Mikovits' career and covering up her (discredited) contributions to medical science. No, Italian vaccines aren't to blame for causing COVID-19 symptoms in otherwise healthy people. No, Jordan Harbinger and Dr. Zubin Damania are not shills for the Illuminati. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/354 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

21 Maj 20201h 11min

Jordan shares the seedier side of his origin story -- from hacking phones and buying pizza with fake credit card numbers to catching online predators and understanding the fundamentals of social engineering -- with Jack Rhysider (@JackRhysider) of Darknet Diaries. [Featured art by habblesthecat] What Jordan and Jack Discuss: What Jordan learned about the mysterious workings of the adult mind when he hacked into telephone calls as a youngster. How the allure of easy fraud through technology put Jordan on the FBI's radar -- when he was still in middle school. How Jordan traded his ability to build a private security company's website for hardcore martial arts training. What Jordan did to help the FBI catch pedophiles online at a time when cybercrime wasn't yet taken seriously. The third-path advice from Jordan's law firm mentor that changed the way he looked at work forever. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/353 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

19 Maj 202047min

Out of work since late last year, you were finally making progress on the job hunt until COVID-19 locked everything down. Now you've been making connections and finding opportunities on LinkedIn that seem promising. The problem is, your spouse is nervous that anything you post there will somehow hurt your chances for getting a job; it seems her resentment that you're not working -- added to the constant proximity of quarantining responsibly -- puts the world through a very negative lens and anything you say is stupid. So now she's monitoring your LinkedIn account from hers and picking fights with you every time you post anything there. Should you find another place to live for now while pursuing work, or should you just let your spouse control your online life and make that pursuit more difficult? We tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/352. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: How do you know if the work from home/side hustle guru you're following on Instagram is a scam artist or the real deal? Sadly, your spouse is simultaneously resentful that you don't have a job and embarrassed that you post to LinkedIn looking for one -- and it causes fights that last for days. Should you find your own space for a while or let them control your online life? Your significant other passed away in front of you at home, and now you're dealing with PTSD on top of grief in the very place where it happened. What can you do to move forward? With the biological clock ticking, are you selfish or stupid to try for a child in the middle of a pandemic? Laura Gassner Otting recommended cutting off toxic people in your life who don't support or "cheerlead" for you. Sadly, you've never been the cheerleading type -- should you worry that you've been a toxic person all along without knowing? You're a South Indian with a supposedly hard-to-pronounce name. You don't mind people mispronouncing it (because the effort is respectful), but you do mind the "cutesy" nicknames foisted upon you by people you barely know. How can you get people to take you seriously enough to use your actual name? When the family relies on you so much, how can you find the time to get a place of your own and become independent for the first time in your young life? Life Pro Tip: Buy domains for your name, your kids' names, and the names of any businesses or anything you own (for a discount at our sponsor hover.com/jordan). If you can, set up a small website (quickly and easily... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

15 Maj 202048min

General Martin Dempsey (@Martin_Dempsey) is a retired Army general who served as the 18th chairman of the Joint Chiefs for four years during the Obama administration, and the author of No Time for Spectators: The Lessons That Mattered Most from West Point to The West Wing. What We Discuss with General Martin Dempsey: Why learning how to follow is as much of a skill as leadership. That character is built over time based on a series of small decisions that we make during the uncertain moments when things don't go our way. How someone who wanted to grow up and become a Supreme Court Justice detoured into a 45-year career in the military. How an assignment that seemed like a career-ending punishment led General Dempsey to take on his most purposeful, important role. How to be a trusted advisor -- whether it's to a CEO or the President. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/351 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

14 Maj 20201h 3min

Dan Heath is a Senior Fellow at Duke University's CASE center, which supports entrepreneurs who are fighting for social good. He is the co-author of four New York Times bestsellers, and his latest book is Upstream: The Quest to Solve Problems Before They Happen. What We Discuss with Dan Heath: How many problems in our lives and in society are we tolerating simply because we’ve forgotten that we can fix them? Why are we more often stuck in a cycle of response downstream of problems rather than upstream where we might prevent them from happening in the first place? What lessons can we learn about upstream versus downstream thinking by examining our current pandemic crisis? What the federal response to Hurricane Katrina tells us about an ounce of prevention being worth a pound of cure. Upstream versus downstream thinking regarding the healthcare debate in the US. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/350 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

12 Maj 202054min

You've never thought of yourself as a doormat, but you've just found it easier to meet people halfway and go with the flow rather than waste your energy on something stupid or trivial. So how do you pick your battles -- especially while everyone who's been following the advice of medical professionals to stay home during the pandemic is feeling a little cooped up and abrasive right now? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/349. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: How do you choose your battles and resolve conflict without being a doormat -- especially while everyone's a bit on edge during this long, long pandemic? You feel you should have strong stances on certain issues, but you don't want your bias to stop you from weighing the evidence that informs those stances. Is it wrong to not take a stand on issues because you honestly don't have all the information? Your friend married an African man with old-world views of gender roles, so she works full time and maintains the house because he won't help with "women's" work. Quarantine has almost broken her. How can she get him to stop thinking in the 19th century and join her in the 21st? You're an introvert about to move to an unfamiliar city to take up an exciting, challenging new job with a bigger paycheck. What are the most important things to keep in mind during this hard reset? You're a jack of all trades with no clear idea of what to do with your life, and you tend to get bored after doing one thing for a while. What might you do to focus and choose a path that will keep you occupied over the long haul? Your job hunt lost momentum as the reaction to COVID-19 started gearing up. You know this pandemic will pass, but what should you do to find the gainful employment you want after this is over? Life Pro Tip: When you have to go out and press elevator buttons and other switches, use a lighter -- then light the lighter to disinfect itself. No need to waste tissues or gloves! Recommendation of the Week: One Child Nation A quick shout out to Josh the Tradesman! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

8 Maj 202037min

Thomas Kostigen (@kostigen) is a New York Times bestselling author and journalist. His latest book is Hacking Planet Earth: How Geoengineering Can Help Us Reimagine the Future. What We Discuss with Thomas Kostigen: What is geoengineering, how is it being used today, and what forms will it take with rapidly developing technology? Why those who stand to be the first victims of climate disenfranchisement certainly won't be the last. How soon we need to act, and to what degree, if we want to avoid the worst effects of climate change. How we can use geoengineering to catalyze a solutions-based society that will reduce and eliminate these effects. In what ways have we geoengineered the world in the past, and what does this tell us about the transformative power of industry and the role Thomas believes it should play in current and future geoengineering efforts? And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/348 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

7 Maj 20201h 4min