271: Ryan Holiday | Stillness Is the Key

Dan Heath is a Senior Fellow at Duke University's CASE center, which supports entrepreneurs who are fighting for social good. He is the co-author of four New York Times bestsellers, and his latest book is Upstream: The Quest to Solve Problems Before They Happen. What We Discuss with Dan Heath: How many problems in our lives and in society are we tolerating simply because we’ve forgotten that we can fix them? Why are we more often stuck in a cycle of response downstream of problems rather than upstream where we might prevent them from happening in the first place? What lessons can we learn about upstream versus downstream thinking by examining our current pandemic crisis? What the federal response to Hurricane Katrina tells us about an ounce of prevention being worth a pound of cure. Upstream versus downstream thinking regarding the healthcare debate in the US. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/350 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

12 Maj 202054min

You've never thought of yourself as a doormat, but you've just found it easier to meet people halfway and go with the flow rather than waste your energy on something stupid or trivial. So how do you pick your battles -- especially while everyone who's been following the advice of medical professionals to stay home during the pandemic is feeling a little cooped up and abrasive right now? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/349. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: How do you choose your battles and resolve conflict without being a doormat -- especially while everyone's a bit on edge during this long, long pandemic? You feel you should have strong stances on certain issues, but you don't want your bias to stop you from weighing the evidence that informs those stances. Is it wrong to not take a stand on issues because you honestly don't have all the information? Your friend married an African man with old-world views of gender roles, so she works full time and maintains the house because he won't help with "women's" work. Quarantine has almost broken her. How can she get him to stop thinking in the 19th century and join her in the 21st? You're an introvert about to move to an unfamiliar city to take up an exciting, challenging new job with a bigger paycheck. What are the most important things to keep in mind during this hard reset? You're a jack of all trades with no clear idea of what to do with your life, and you tend to get bored after doing one thing for a while. What might you do to focus and choose a path that will keep you occupied over the long haul? Your job hunt lost momentum as the reaction to COVID-19 started gearing up. You know this pandemic will pass, but what should you do to find the gainful employment you want after this is over? Life Pro Tip: When you have to go out and press elevator buttons and other switches, use a lighter -- then light the lighter to disinfect itself. No need to waste tissues or gloves! Recommendation of the Week: One Child Nation A quick shout out to Josh the Tradesman! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

8 Maj 202037min

Thomas Kostigen (@kostigen) is a New York Times bestselling author and journalist. His latest book is Hacking Planet Earth: How Geoengineering Can Help Us Reimagine the Future. What We Discuss with Thomas Kostigen: What is geoengineering, how is it being used today, and what forms will it take with rapidly developing technology? Why those who stand to be the first victims of climate disenfranchisement certainly won't be the last. How soon we need to act, and to what degree, if we want to avoid the worst effects of climate change. How we can use geoengineering to catalyze a solutions-based society that will reduce and eliminate these effects. In what ways have we geoengineered the world in the past, and what does this tell us about the transformative power of industry and the role Thomas believes it should play in current and future geoengineering efforts? And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/348 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

7 Maj 20201h 4min

Brian Keating (@DrBrianKeating) is a professor of physics and astronomy at the University of California San Diego, host of the Into the Impossible podcast, and the author of Losing the Nobel Prize: A Story of Cosmology, Ambition, and the Perils of Science’s Highest Honor. What We Discuss with Brian Keating: What compelled dynamite inventor Alfred Nobel to annually reward outstanding contributions for humanity, and how would he feel about the way Nobel prizes are awarded today? What is an ethical will, and why should you make sure you have one in place sooner rather than later? How accolades like the Nobel prize and the Academy Awards have taken on outsized importance in their respective fields in spite of being selected arbitrarily by an anointed few — with sometimes deadly consequences. How Brian turned around surface losses like getting fired from an academic dream job and missing his shot at the Nobel prize from disasters into catalysts of great happiness. How you can have a chance at winning a fragment of the 4.3-billion-year-old supernova that created Earth and the hemoglobin in your blood! And much more… Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/347 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

5 Maj 202052min

Did your long-term significant other really dump you because they believed you were "faking" the symptoms of COVID-19 coronavirus, or was the lily-livered sidewinder just looking for a convenient excuse to end it? This and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/346. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Beware of COVID-19 and work-from-home scams! Did your significant other really dump you because they believed you were "faking" the symptoms of COVID-19 coronavirus, or were they just looking for a convenient excuse to end it? Living in a pricey metropolis with zero job leads until the pandemic blows over, does it make sense to move back to small-town life with the parents to save money for now? (Thanks to Professor Scott Galloway for weighing in on this one!) Your detail-oriented teenager wants to start his own business doing odd jobs. How do you help him get the word out while ensuring he's not getting shorted because of his age? You feel a strong connection to someone who is still reeling from a bumpy past and isn't ready for a relationship right now. If timing is the underlying factor, how much space should you give them before trying again? You're a project manager on paternity leave, and company policy doesn't allow your team to fill you in on what's been going on in your absence or for you to check email until you return. How can you ensure your reintroduction to the workplace goes smoothly? After building up a wide range of experiences for over a decade, you've become decent at a few vastly different skills. Should you combine these skills or just focus on becoming world-class in one? You're in cybersecurity and you've toyed with the idea of doing a PhD in another country for years -- largely because it sounds cool and you like academia. But as a non-necessity in your field, is it worth the hassle? Life Pro Tip: On a Zoom call but not talking? Please mute yourself! Recommendation of the Week: Operation Odessa A quick shout out to Bretton Murphy for letting us know about The Purple Heart Project (PHP)! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

30 Apr 202040min

Jim Kwik (@jimkwik) hosts the Kwik Brain podcast and is the author of Limitless -- Upgrade Your Brain, Learn Anything Faster, Unlock Your Exceptional Life. What We Discuss with Jim Kwik: Why it's a L.I.E. that your intelligence is fixed and the person you were at age eight is the same person you are today and the same person you'll be tomorrow. Why genius is not born, it’s built -- and it leaves clues. The limitless model: a three-part framework for not only accelerated learning, but for unlocking human potential. A formula for sustainable motivation that drives consistent action. How changing the dominant question you (perhaps unknowingly) ask yourself every day can redirect the focus and trajectory of your life. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/345 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

30 Apr 202058min

Jonna Mendez is a former chief of disguise in the CIA's Office of Technical Service, and co-author of The Moscow Rules: The Secret CIA Tactics That Helped America Win the Cold War. What We Discuss with Jonna Mendez: What was it like to work as a heavily surveilled CIA operative in the Soviet Union at the height of the Cold War? Why did the United States have to rebuild its embassy in Moscow from the ground up in the early '90s? How aspiring artists like Jonna and her late husband Antonio (played by Ben Affleck in Argo) got involved in working for the CIA. How the CIA recruits brilliant scientific minds to develop cutting-edge solutions when it can only offer a fraction of compensation offered by the private sector. The evolution of how disguise has come to be used in the intelligence community since the '70s, and the role Jonna has taken in its progress. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/344 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

28 Apr 20201h 22min

You have a family history of addiction, and now your clinically depressed little brother is using drugs and alcohol to a degree that goes well beyond rebellious teenage mischief. With parental guidance being nonexistent, can you do something, or is your brother a lost cause? We'll try to address this and more here on Feedback Friday. And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/343. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Your father has definite ideas of how your educational future should play out and where your career should be headed, but you've chosen otherwise. How do you break the news without breaking his heart? Every time you find a new interest, you initially obsess over it. But after a few months, you lose interest and move on to something else. How can you stick to something long enough to get results? How do you build your network without some contacts getting the wrong idea about your romantic interest/disinterest? You have a family history of addiction, and now your clinically depressed little brother is using drugs and alcohol to a degree that goes well beyond rebellious teenage mischief. With parental guidance being nonexistent, can you do something, or is your brother a lost cause? How can you obtain mentorship or establish great networks when you're financially incapable of hiring a coach or attending high-value networking events? How do you identify what you have to offer to the person from whom you want mentorship? What should you do if you have nothing to offer for the time being? Self-quarantining, you want to start a podcast as a way to step outside your comfort zone and become more social. Using Six-Minute Networking tips, responses from potential guests have been positive. What further advice do we have for a new podcaster? Life Pro Tip: Go start your car and drive it around for 15-20 minutes if it's been a while! Recommendation of the Week: Operation Toussaint A quick shout out to Igor Pavic from Washington for being the first person to report bugs on our brand new website! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

24 Apr 202051min