339: Michele Rigby Assad | My Secret Life in the CIA

You're not sure if the speeding ticket you got driving across the country was given because you had out-of-state license plates, you were racially profiled, or there was an equipment failure of some kind, but you're pretty sure it wasn't for speeding. You want to fight it, but you're not sure what your legal options and obligations are. Friend of the show Corbin Payne, Esq. will explain how to fight an out-of-state speeding ticket the right way, and of course we'll try to do our best to answer a stack of other questions here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/301. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Interested in doing some prison time with Jordan for his birthday this February? It'll be here sooner than you know it! Reach out to prison@jordanharbinger.com for details if you want to go! When you're paying so much money and time for the privilege of being part of your best friend's wedding party, is it unreasonable that, with plenty of notice, the caterer is refusing to accommodate your vegan request? Recently married, your partner has been voicing concern and guilt for living so far away from family. But due to the nature of your job (which you love), you can't move back to your home state without having to give it up. How do you make an informed decision in this situation? Driving across the country, you were stopped in Texas and ticketed for speeding even though your speedometer says otherwise. You're not sure if you were flagged for out-of-state plates or racially profiled, but you'd like to fight it. What are your legal options? [Thanks to Corbin Payne, Esq. for helping with this one!] We often advise listeners to find competent legal advice, but how do you go about choosing someone? How do you know you will get a performer and not a shyster? [Thanks again to Corbin Payne, Esq. for helping with this one!] The well-paying job where you've worked for 13 years is undergoing a transformation and trying to get rid of as many employees as possible. Of course morale is low and you'd love to quit even to take less money elsewhere, but you've got a baby on the way and your wife wants you to hang in there until you're out of debt. What should you do? Need a little help being a great dad? Ryan's Holiday's See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

17 Jan 202047min

Simon Sinek (@simonsinek) is the best-selling author of Find Your Why and Start with Why. He returns to the show to discuss his latest offering, The Infinite Game, which offers a framework for leading with an infinite mindset in a limitless world. What We Discuss with Simon Sinek: Common public speaking gaffes and how to avoid making them. How Simon blocks time for himself in his calendar without feeling guilty. Finite games vs. infinite games: the metrics by which they're governed, the stakes for which they're played, and the mindsets required to master them. Why having a worthy rival (as opposed to competition) can be a healthy catalyst for personal growth -- and how you can select one. How friendship works as an equitable, not equal relationship. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/300 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

16 Jan 20201h 1min

Steve Elkins is a cinematographer and explorer whose discovery of and expedition to a legendary settlement in the rainforest of Honduras is chronicled in The Lost City of the Monkey God: A True Story by Douglas Preston. [Featured photo by Ryan Hartford of Ecliptic Media] What We Discuss with Steve Elkins: How did Steve and his team manage to only recently discover a legendary city in the Honduran rainforest that had been aggressively -- and fruitlessly -- sought out by disappointed locals and explorers for half a millennium? The countless natural and manmade dangers of exploring the mosquito-infested region of Honduras known locally as "The Gates of Hell" -- from venom-spitting snakes to quicksand to drug cartels. Why knowing an unhinged guy with a gun can come in handy when your producer needs to leave the expedition early and return to civilization for a family emergency. The logistics, legal considerations, and politics that go into being outsiders exploring the cultural heritage of another country. The details of what Steve and his team discovered, and what this discovery has brought to light beyond the mere satisfaction of archaeological curiosity. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/299 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

14 Jan 20201h 13min

Your dad is a pedophile. He's taken naked pictures of kids, including one of your cousins on your mom's side, and posted them online. He's been caught by the police, but he's been let go on some kind of probation. You don't know how to handle the situation. For some context, You're a high functioning autistic person. You're able to live on your own, take care of yourself, and hold down a full time job, but you have a lot of problems making and maintaining friendships and you have enough sensory issues that you don't like to leave your house any more than you need to. On the one hand, it would be a great relief to you if you never had to see or hear from your parents again. On the other hand, the number of people in your support network is already quite small, and you wouldn't want to lose contact with your sister, who has very severe mental health problems and is still living at home. What should you do? This is pretty dark and heavy territory, but we'll do our best to offer some real advice on this and much more in this Feedback Friday. And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/298. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Interested in doing some prison time with Jordan for his birthday this February? It'll be here sooner than you know it! Reach out to prison@jordanharbinger.com for details if you want to go! Your significant other paid for you to attend college and supported you financially as you started out in your career. Now that you're on track financially, you're having relationship issues. How should money factor into a situation like this? Years ago, your mother and sister found out your father was having affairs with multiple women. It was devastating at the time, but you all eventually moved on when he agreed to stop. Today, you saw him with one of those women. How do you handle this? Your dad is a convicted pedophile on probation. You're a high-functioning autistic person living on your own who would love to never see your parents again, but you don't want to lose contact with your sister who still lives at home. What can you do? Do the potential networking, career, and social benefits of living in a big, expensive city outweigh the increased cost of living? Your girlfriend has been getting therapy to improve in academia from an unlicensed "life coach" who sells her expensive (and ultimately useless) gadgets, and now has the gall to tell her you're manipulative, controlling, and patronizing for not being supportive. How can you lovingly steer your girlfriend away from this shameless shyster? How you can communicate a barter proposal in an attractive... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

10 Jan 202050min

Eric Thomas (@ericthomasbtc) is a motivational speaker, YouTube personality, podcaster, pastor, director of Breathe University, and author of several books, including The Secret to Success: When You Want to Succeed as Bad as You Want to Breathe. What We Discuss with Eric Thomas: How Eric Thomas went from homeless to PhD to become one of the world's top motivational speakers. How and why to get out of our psychological bubbles whether we're broke or millionaires. Why we do not have to accept life as it was given to us. How to break out of patterns and mindsets that no longer serve us. What taking responsibility for our own actions ultimately gives us (and what blaming others takes away). And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/297 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

9 Jan 202058min

Tasha Eurich (@tashaeurich) is an organizational psychologist, researcher, and New York Times bestselling author of Insight: The Surprising Truth About How Others See Us, How We See Ourselves, and Why the Answers Matter More Than We Think. What We Discuss with Tasha Eurich: How to identify and navigate the invisible barriers to self-awareness. Why thinking about ourselves isn't related to knowing ourselves. How to deal with the woefully un-self-aware people in your life. How to use mindfulness to become more self-aware, and how to practice it without mantras. Why no one is telling you the truth about how you're coming across -- and why that's dangerous. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/296 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

7 Jan 20201h 12min

Shep Gordon (@SupermenschShep) is a talent manager, Hollywood film agent, producer, and author of They Call Me Supermensch: A Backstage Pass to the Amazing Worlds of Film, Food, and Rock'n'Roll. He is also the subject of Supermensch: The Legend of Shep Gordon -- a documentary by Mike Myers that chronicles his life and times. What We Discuss with Shep Gordon: How do you create history rather than waiting for it to happen? Do you have to be a jerk to make it in Hollywood? What's Shep's coupon system? What's the most selfish thing you can do? Is fame toxic? And so much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/295 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

31 Dec 20191h 29min

You have a nephew who has a history of undressing, touching genitals, and dry humping smaller, weaker humans than himself. These humans either do not consent or are unable to consent. It's well known in your family that he can't be left alone with children. There have been numerous incidents with different witnesses and victims spread out over the years. Today this nephew is 20 years old and expecting a baby with his live-in girlfriend. You were horrified and began asking if this girlfriend knew about his history. No one seems to know if she's aware, but are strongly agreed that it's not any of your places to tell her. But you fear that if you don't tell her, no one will. Taking it upon yourself, what's the best way to deliver the news? And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/294. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Interested in doing some prison time with Jordan this February? It's filling up fast; reach out to prison@jordanharbinger.com for details! Your nephew has had a history of being sexually abusive, and now he has a kid of his own on the way. While the rest of your family wants to ignore the problem, how do you step up and tell the mother-to-be? As a frequent employee of the month, you recently negotiated a raise to your salary only to discover that you're making the same amount as someone who was recently hired and is already on probation for dropping the ball too many times. Should you say something? The Jordan Harbinger Show is banned in China, possibly for allowing guests to air anti-government opinions (and, to be fair, facts). Do Jordan and Jen ever worry about extended family who may still live there being in danger as a result? As your uncle's sole beneficiary, you were left with a house he wanted the family to enjoy after he passed. Your other family members feel they should be entitled to their fair share of what the house is worth, though they're happy enough to leave you holding the bag for the funeral, legal, bills, upkeep, and yard work. What should you do? Two months ago, you earned and accepted a job transfer within the company where you've worked for 14 years. Unfortunately, the department you're leaving is understaffed and overworked, and the status of your transfer has been postponed indefinitely. How can you continue to advocate for your transfer date without seeming like you have a bad attitude? Is it time to just find a new job? Life Pro Tip: Winter is in full force in many places, so be sure to keep a bag of cat litter (for traction under your tires if you get stuck in the snow), a shovel, a hat, gloves, a blanket or... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

27 Dec 201942min