365: Benjamin Hardy | How to Break Free from Self-Limiting Beliefs

Richard Clarke (@ghsrm) is the former National Coordinator for Security, Infrastructure Protection, and Counter-Terrorism for the United States, and is the co-author of Warnings: Finding Cassandras to Stop Catastrophes. [Note: This is a previously broadcast episode from the vault that we felt deserved a fresh pass through your earholes!] Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/620 What We Discuss with Richard Clarke: What is the Cassandra Coefficient? Discover how to use the Cassandra Coefficient to filter signal from noise when it comes to warnings. Understand how to spot your own cognitive biases and what you can do to diminish their effect on your decisions. Learn to persuade people to see things from your perspective and motivate them to take action. Find out what someone at the top levels of government does when their personal politics don’t agree with those of the current administration. And so much more… Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Miss the conversation we had with Gift of Fear author and security legend Gavin de Becker? Catch up with episode 329: Gavin de Becker | The Gift of Fear Part One here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

3 Feb 20221h 1min

Danny Gold (@DGisSERIOUS) is a journalist, documentary filmmaker, long-form writer, and co-host (with Sean Williams) of the Underworld podcast, which covers organized crime around the world -- from Balkan warlords to Brooklyn wiseguys. What We Discuss with Danny Gold: How coming from a family of Holocaust survivors inspired Danny to pursue journalism and keep an eye on the world's most unsavory and unreported misdeeds. What it's like to get caught red-handed trying to secretly record a violent human trafficker on his own turf. How Danny finds ways to relate on a human level to people who may be responsible for committing unfathomable atrocities. Why assuming everything is going to go wrong -- and preparing accordingly -- is the best way to survive as a freelance reporter in the field. How even the darkest shadows cast by the human experience can bring out the brightest and best facets of humanity. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/619 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Miss our conversation with elite counterterrorism undercover agent Tamer Elnoury? Catch up with episode 572: Tamer Elnoury | Undercover with a Muslim FBI Agent here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

1 Feb 202255min

Your fiancée knows her weed habit triggers your own addictive tendencies, but keeps it in her daily routine anyway. Now she's giving you flak for your recent lapse in sobriety, and this is making you wonder if getting married next month is really the best move for both of you. What should you do? We'll try to find an answer to this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/618 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Should you proceed with the marriage next month when your fiancée refuses to quit her weed habit even when she knows it triggers your own addictive tendencies? Your mother's always fawned over babies, but expresses indifference once they get older. As a result, you feel like you were neglected through most of your childhood and never fully developed. Now, at age 30, you've discovered you were conceived via a sperm donor, and suddenly the dots connect. How should you approach your mother about this? Your international long-distance relationship of several years was disrupted by COVID. And even though you've both agreed to date other people, you still hold onto hope that you might someday be able to work things out and resume a life together. Is this at all realistic, or is it just time to move on? You don't mind having a reputation for being nice, but it seems to be a green light for some people to habitually take advantage of you. How can you find the right balance between kindness and assertiveness? This past year, you've been surrounded with reminders of the impending death of loved ones, and what’s to come once they’re gone. How do you stop planning for the inevitable and start enjoying the time you have with those close to you while you still can? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Miss the interview we did with sleep doctor Matthew...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

28 Jan 202244min

Daniel Levin is an attorney, political commentator, and author of Nothing but a Circus: Misadventures Among the Powerful and Proof of Life: Twenty Days on the Hunt for a Missing Person in the Middle East. What We Discuss with Daniel Levin: How the Syrian regime kidnaps westerners and blames the opposition, keeping them in captivity -- often for years -- as bargaining chips. How Daniel became the go-to person for hunting down a missing person in Syria when no government, embassy, or intelligence agency would help. What proof of life means in a kidnapping scenario, and how someone in search of a missing person goes about finding this. How people use leverage to get what they want from one another in a place where no one does a favor without wanting something in return. The nuances of negotiating with criminals. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/617 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Miss our episode with FBI hostage negotiator Chris Voss? Catch up with episode 165: Chris Voss | Negotiate as If Your Life Depended on It here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

27 Jan 20221h 25min

Martin Kove (@MartinKove) is a prolific actor best known for his portrayal of the evil karate sensei, John Kreese, in The Karate Kid trilogy and Netflix's Cobra Kai series. Be on the lookout as he hosts the upcoming Kicking It with the Koves podcast with his kids Jesse and Rachel. What We Discuss with Martin Kove: How Martin nailed his audition for The Karate Kid by channeling his anger at not having ample time to prepare for it. Why we need more role models for leadership and personal responsibility in popular culture -- in the western genre, if Martin had his way. How Martin finds common ground with the hard-to-love characters he sometimes portrays in order to make them relatable. Does playing villains for months on set ever rub off on Martin's real-life behavior (and does this tend to work for or against him)? How does Martin look so young and stay in shape as a 74-year-old? And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/616 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Miss the show we did with Jonathan Haidt — the social psychologist who studies the American culture wars and is widely considered to be one of the world’s leading experts on the psychology of morality? Catch up with episode 90: Jonathan Haidt | The Danger of Good Intentions and Safe Spaces! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

25 Jan 202255min

You'd love to invite your dad to your wedding, but he has a habit of getting drunk at gatherings and making a spectacle of himself. Is there a way to politely request sobriety as a condition of his invitation? We'll try to find answers to this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/615 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Your dad loves to hit the sauce and cause a scene whenever there's a gathering, which makes you hesitant to invite him to your wedding. Is there a way to politely request his sobriety for your special day? Your job burdens you with cripping depression and dissatisfaction that even the fattest of paychecks can't outweigh, but quitting now would have a dire impact on your career. How can you summon the motivation to power through this soul-sapping, meaningless job for the time being? With as little awkwardness as possible, how can you get your coworker to understand that the Ukrainian model Internet "girlfriend" he's never met in person is scamming him to the tune of $1,000 a month? Is it wrong to continue a relationship with someone whose romantic past triggers suicidal ideation in you, courtesy of your recently diagnosed borderline personality disorder? Your enthusiasm for weed has outlived the reasons you once had for using it as a coping mechanism. How can you quit it in secret before it hurts your career, love life, and relationship with your aggressively judgmental family? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Missed the episode we did with Annie Duke — World Series poker champion and author of Thinking in Bets: Making Smarter Decisions When You Don’t Have All the Facts? Catch up by listening to episode...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

21 Jan 202250min

Shawn Achor (@shawnachor) is one of the world’s leading experts on the connection between happiness and success, and is the author of Big Potential, Before Happiness, and The Happiness Advantage: How a Positive Brain Fuels Success in Work and Life. What We Discuss with Shawn Achor: What did Shawn have to teach Pentagon bigwigs about happiness? The science behind the contagiousness of happiness. The importance of mirror neurons. What is the 10-5 Way, and how can it improve your life? At what point in her career was Oprah most depressed, and why should you care? And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/614 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Miss our conversation with Arthur Brooks about the merits of learning to love your enemies (especially during these divisive times)? Catch up by listening to episode 211: Arthur Brooks | How Loving Your Enemies Can Save America here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

20 Jan 202249min

Ray Dalio (@RayDalio) is the founder of Bridgewater Associates — the largest and best-performing hedge fund in the world — and author of New York Times bestseller Principles: Life and Work. His latest book is The Changing World Order: Why Nations Succeed and Fail. What We Discuss with Ray Dalio: What an investor like Ray Dalio is uniquely poised to observe about the ebb and flow of history and the repeating patterns that make the future somewhat predictable. Why transitional (and often painful) cycles -- like recessions, pandemics, and wars -- are necessary to reset and change the rules. How studying these cycles as symptomatic of larger problems is the best way to heal and grow from their discomfort. What the current state of political polarization in the United States bodes for our collective future. How our rivalry with China differs from our Cold War rivalry with the Soviet Union and what Ray sees as our best way of managing it. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/613 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! If you missed the last time Ray Dalio was on the show, make sure to catch up with episode 491: Ray Dalio | The Changing World Order here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

18 Jan 20221h 15min