166: Inclusive Leadership: How Blindness Became Dr. Adams’ Superpower

In this episode of The Modern Man, I welcome Zack Blakeney, a spiritual porn recovery coach who empowers men to quit porn for good, heal the shame associated with it, and rise to the highest version of themselves. Zack is here to shed light on his dark, yet profound experience recovering from a 16-year porn addiction, and what you can do if you’re in a similar place. He addresses the impact that society’s shame around sex has on men, then gives you actionable steps and advice on how to quit porn for good and move forward in life without shame.   You’ll hear Zack’s insights on how to leverage the energy of “doing” instead of “trying” to quit your unhealthy habit and why that’s a crucial distinction. Plus, you’ll learn ways to rebuild your personal relationships (and your relationship with yourself) after porn addiction.   Are you using porn in a way that doesn’t align with you? Do you feel shameful or secretive about your porn usage? Zack has the framework you need to break free from your usage/addiction and feel like your best self.   Remember, things that you would call miracles are an everyday occurrence when you do the inner work.   “The things that we’re proud of, we openly talk about. The things that we’re shameful about, we hide. The hard part about this is that when we’re hiding things, it’s not like it doesn’t exist; it empowers it to take more control over us.” – Zack Blakeney   “For men that are trying to push themselves to the next level of who they are… you can’t get there until you start to confront the things that are preventing you from being that.”  – Zack Blakeney   Key Takeaways / What You’ll Learn: (00:52) About Zack Blakeney. (03:30) Is my porn usage a problem? Why do I feel shame around sex and porn? (12:14) Zack’s journey with porn addiction and porn-induced erectile dysfunction. (18:35) Rewiring Your Sexual Energy: What happens to the brain when you start to heal from porn addiction?  (21:26) Breaking down the 4 Walls of Dishonesty: How to rebuild your relationships after healing from porn addiction. (28:33) How Zack finally addressed his addiction and quit porn for good. (38:52) The intersectionality of guilt, shame, and identity. (40:14) Zack’s advice on healing porn addiction and moving forward in life. (46:03) How to connect with Zack Blakeney. (47:33) As a man, what has shaped your view of the world?   If you enjoyed this episode, please SHARE it with a friend, then RATE/REVIEW The Modern Man on Apple Podcasts or Spotify!   Resources Mentioned: Claim your FREE training – 3 Steps to Freedom & Healing From Porn Use: https://www.iambornfree.net/freetraining Join The Noble Knights: https://themodernman.gumroad.com/l/NobleKnights   Connect with Zack Blakeney: Visit his website to learn about the Born Free Transformation Program: https://www.iambornfree.net/getfreenow Follow him on Instagram: ​https://www.instagram.com/zackblakeney   Connect with The Modern Man: Visit our website: https://themodernmanshow.com Join our Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/244885633101820 Follow us on Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheModernMan8 Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themodernmanpodcast Subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnyA3-wtyv7xVqUbPyB0eOg

13 Dec 202354min

💼🚀 Alright, fellas... In this episode, we’re diving into the blueprint for sustainable success with 10 actionable steps. It’s time to foster the habits that steer you toward growth and development! 🔍🌱 Join me as I unpack these 10 key steps, each a pillar in crafting your path to sustainable success. From understanding your emotional control to honing exceptional listening skills, and from envisioning your goals to embracing the power of teamwork, these steps lay the groundwork for a journey of continuous improvement. 🎯 Prioritize, synergize, and reinvest in yourself – these are just a few steps from the playbook. ⚙️🏆 Tune in for insights & strategies to developing habits that lead to lasting growth. Get ready to step into your power and fuel your journey towards becoming a high-value man! #SustainableSuccess #GrowthHabits #ModernMan Free eBook Here: Mastering Self-Development: Strategies of the New Masculine: https://api.leadconnectorhq.com/widget/form/MI8IYd7wpmYAsDAcqiMW ⚔️JOIN THE NOBLE KNIGHTS MASTERMIND⚔️ https://themodernman.gumroad.com/l/NobleKnights 🤝CONNECT WITH THE MODERN MAN**🤝 Visit our website: https://themodernmanshow.com/ Join our Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/themodernman Follow us on Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheModernMan8 Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themodernmanpodcast/ Subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://studio.youtube.com/channel/UCnyA3-wtyv7xVqUbPyB0eOg)

11 Dec 20236min

In this episode of The Modern Man, I’m joined by Eric Taylor, the “anti-dusty” husband, girl dad, and content creator who’s helping men shake off the dust and become the men they’re meant to be. Today, Eric talks about his experience recovering from addiction, overcoming fear and imposter syndrome, and realizing what it means to be a man, husband, and father after growing up without a dad.   Listen to Eric break down his definition of a dusty man, the benefits he’s seen from his healing journey, and how he’s showing up as an (anti-dusty) example for his two young daughters. Eric also shares how he gained healthy coping skills and genuine confidence as a man who used to be held back by fear and doubt.   “That dust is ignorance, it’s laziness, it’s arrogance, it’s all the lack of self-control that came with not addressing your true emotions and your true self as a man,” Eric says. So, tune in, shake off the dust, and get to moving forward as the men you were born to be.   “The scariest things were doubt and fear before, but now I know what I’m working for, I know what I’m living for, and I’m going to give my all to it.” – Eric Taylor   Key Takeaways / What You’ll Learn: [00:50] About Eric Taylor. [05:30] Healing is a process and fear is a disease. [10:03] The noticeable benefits of starting a healing journey. [14:49] How does being a husband and father help you heal and be a better man? [19:35] “Set your standard and demand it.” [21:10] What does it mean to be dusty? How can men be anti-dusty? [24:19] As a father, how do you show up as an example for your daughters? [28:30] Eric’s mission as a content creator. [33:35] How to connect with Eric Taylor. [34:37] As a man, what has shaped your view of the world?   If you enjoyed this episode, please SHARE it with a friend, then RATE/REVIEW The Modern Man on Apple Podcasts or Spotify!   Resources Mentioned: Join The Noble Knights: https://themodernman.gumroad.com/l/NobleKnights   Connect with Eric Taylor: Visit his LinkTree: https://linktr.ee/girldad_e Follow him on Instagram: ​​https://www.instagram.com/girldad_e Follow him on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@girldad_e Subscribe to his YouTube channel:https://www.youtube.com/@GirlDadE/featured   Connect with The Modern Man: Visit our website: https://themodernmanshow.com Join our Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/244885633101820 Follow us on Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheModernMan8 Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themodernmanpodcast Subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnyA3-wtyv7xVqUbPyB0eOg

6 Dec 202341min

🧠 I touch on the topic of creativity and innovation in this episode of The Modern Man Podcast! 💡 In this video, I explore the power of creative thinking and how innovation fuels personal growth. I touch on: 🚀 The Benefits of Creativity for Personal Development 🌟 Understanding Innovation & Its Impact 💭 Mind Mapping: A Tool for Creative Exploration 🎨 Techniques to Boost Your Creative Juices 🛠️ Practical Ways to Foster Innovation in Daily Life Jump into today’s episode and learn how to apply these strategies today! 🚶‍♂️💥 #GrowThroughInnovation #EmbraceCreativity #ModernManPodcast 📖 Free eBook Here: Mastering Self-Development: Strategies of the New Masculine: https://api.leadconnectorhq.com/widget/form/MI8IYd7wpmYAsDAcqiMW 📖 ⚔️JOIN THE NOBLE KNIGHTS MASTERMIND⚔️ https://themodernman.gumroad.com/l/NobleKnights 🤝CONNECT WITH THE MODERN MAN🤝 Visit our website: https://themodernmanshow.com/ Join our Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/themodernman Follow us on Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheModernMan8 Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themodernmanpodcast/ Subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@TheModernManPodcast

4 Dec 20236min

In this episode of The Modern Man, I welcome Mitch Mathews,former D1 and NFL athlete turned entrepreneur, husband, and father of two daughters. Today, Mitch and I are talking about the challenges of navigating life after sports and how to findpurpose and alignment in your next chapter of life. He also shares his candid thoughts on what masculinity really is and how he hopes it will evolve into the future.   Tune in as Mitch highlights the parts of himself he’s had to leave behind as he became a business leader, husband, and father, as well as the qualities and mindsets that made life after his athletic career so successful and fulfilling.   “I like the journey that I’m on as a husband and father. The qualities I want to be known for are different than what made me a good football player and I’m totally okay with that… Life is very seasonal. You have to reinvent yourself.” – Mitch Mathews   Plus, don’t miss Mitch’s powerful insights on how to make big life decisions, find a healthy balance between competition and collaboration, and reap the benefits of positive self-talk. We’ve got ALL the gems for you in this episode!   Key Takeaways / What You’ll Learn: [00:50] About Mitch Mathews & his mission. [03:34] Advice on finding your next chapter. [06:10] Insights on masculinity and becoming a husband, leader, and father of two girls. [10:30] How to balance competition and collaboration in athletics and business. [14:40] Mitch’s experience doing 29029 Everesting (a mountain climbing challenge). [20:08] What do you learn from suffering through hard challenges? [23:51] Advice on making decisions with your heart vs. your head. [30:00] Mitch’s focus for the future: Finding stronger alignment in life. [36:14] How to connect with Mitch Mathews. [37:22] As a man, what has shaped your view of the world?   “You only learn the really important lessons when you’re at the brink of collapsing and that’s what you bring back to your common day, all those important lessons… and that’s when you get the really big gains.” – Mitch Mathews   If you enjoyed this episode, please SHARE it with a friend, then RATE/REVIEW The Modern Man on Apple Podcasts or Spotify!   Resources Mentioned: Join The Noble Knights: https://themodernman.gumroad.com/l/NobleKnights   Connect with Mitch Mathews: Follow him on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mitchmathews10 Email him: mitchmathews10@gmail.com   Connect with The Modern Man: Visit our website: https://themodernmanshow.com Join our Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/244885633101820 Follow us on Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheModernMan8 Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themodernmanpodcast Subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnyA3-wtyv7xVqUbPyB0eOg

29 Nov 202345min

🚀 Welcome to the ’Mastering Self Development’ series! In this episode, we unravel the secrets of the Willpower Instinct for the modern man on the quest for personal growth. Discover scientific tips, proven methods, and the 15 essential rules to amplify your willpower. It’s time to rewire your brain and amplify your personal development by strengthening your willpower. This segment is part of our comprehensive eBook series, ’Mastering Self Development: Strategies for the New Masculine.’ Join us on this empowering journey toward cultivating unstoppable willpower! 💪📘 📖 Free eBook Here: Mastering Self-Development: Strategies of the New Masculine: https://api.leadconnectorhq.com/widget/form/MI8IYd7wpmYAsDAcqiMW 📖 ⚔️JOIN THE NOBLE KNIGHTS MASTERMIND⚔️ https://themodernman.gumroad.com/l/NobleKnights 🤝CONNECT WITH THE MODERN MAN🤝 Visit our website: https://themodernmanshow.com/ Join our Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/themodernman Follow us on Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheModernMan8 Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themodernmanpodcast/ Subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@TheModernManPodcast #themodernman willpower, #self-improvement, #increase willpower meditation, #the 15 rules of willpower, #how to improve willpower, #rewire your brain to improve willpower, #scientific tips to increase willpower, #increase willpower scientifically proven, #ways to increase willpower, #increase your willpower, #strengthen willpower, #willpower steps, #willpower research, #unstoppable willpower, #personal development

27 Nov 20235min

In this episode of The Modern Man, I welcome the inspiring Chris Grainger, Host of The Lion Within Us podcast and humble leader of The Lion Within Us community. Chris and I are talking about spiritual leadership, being the leader you’re meant to be, and trusting your faith to guide you to joy, purpose, and fulfillment.   Chris highlights the types of connections you need to feel strong and purposeful in life, the traps we commonly fall into as men how to avoid them, and what it truly means to live for your family. Plus, Chris sheds light on what he’s learned and gained from losing his daughter and navigating the intense grief of losing a child.   Are you craving a sense of contentment in life? Are you ready to give purpose to your pain and find joy and fulfillment, even in life’s darkest moments? Press ‘play’ and join us on the journey.   You don’t have to be a preacher to have a mission. Stick to your faith, step courageously forward, and show up each and every day the best way you can. As long as you do that, you’ll be on your way to true contentment.   “You can get very easily wrapped up in busy and feel good about yourself… and at the end of the day, you feel like you accomplished something, but I always challenge people, did you do what God called you to do today?... cause that’s a different ball game.” – Chris Grainger   Key Takeaways / What You’ll Learn: [01:28] About Chris Grainger & his mission. [03:10] Who is “the man that God called us to be”? [04:05] 3 traps we fall into & how to avoid them. [06:11] The experiences Chris has overcome that gave him the conviction to be a great leader. [09:41] Why so many men struggle after high school/college. [12:57] How to find joy, purpose, and fulfillment in dark times. [18:40] True Contentment: How do I feel content, peaceful, AND still be ambitious? [24:00] What men lack in health, wealth, and Self. [27:57] What it looks like to tap into the lion within you. [31:43] How to connect with Chris Grainger and join The Lion Within Us community. [33:17] As a man, what has shaped your view of the world?   “The only permanent joy that we can ever get is when we have that relationship with Christ. And that’s it. Once we get something like that, the rest of it falls into place and you can find joy and you can find opportunities.” – Chris Grainger   If you enjoyed this episode, please SHARE it with a friend, then RATE/REVIEW The Modern Man on Apple Podcasts or Spotify!   Resources Mentioned: Join The Noble Knights: https://themodernman.gumroad.com/l/NobleKnights   Connect with Chris Grainger & The Lion Within Us: Visit his website: https://thelionwithin.us Follow him on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelionwithin.us Connect on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-lion-within-us Subscribe to his YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCdJvO1RgXCkVjbmpmbyAR-Q   Connect with The Modern Man: Visit our website: https://themodernmanshow.com Join our Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/244885633101820 Follow us on Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheModernMan8 Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themodernmanpodcast Subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnyA3-wtyv7xVqUbPyB0eOg

22 Nov 202338min

In this episode of The Modern Man, I welcome AJ Asgari, a pharmacist, entrepreneur, real estate investor, husband, father, and CEO and founder of Drugstore2Door. Today, AJ and I talk about the greatest lessons he’s learned about becoming an entrepreneur, investing in real estate (and yourself), and navigating business growth as a family man.   AJ shines a light on what you need to do to turn your ideas into a successful business, find and keep momentum in your entrepreneurial pursuits, and balance your side hustle with quality family time. He also shares the challenges he had to overcome while transitioning through multiple different industries as a rising entrepreneur.   If you’re looking to start investing your money wisely, turn your knowledge into results, or finally take action on your big ideas, tune in (and then share with a friend!) because AJ is giving advice you need to hear. Let’s grow!   “I could always go for faster, but it was an accumulation of 15 years prior to starting this tech company that led us to nailing a real problem, creating a solution, and then getting our hands really dirty in building it out.” – AJ Asgari   Key Takeaways / What You’ll Learn: [00:54] About AJ Asgari. [03:11] From fat kid to pharmacist: How AJ realized he could be something more. [06:51] Applied knowledge = results. [12:28] The challenges of transitioning through different industries as an entrepreneur. [19:18] How to start investing in real estate, even while you’re in debt. [22:20] Investing/entrepreneurship advice for risk-averse people and family men. [32:24] About AJ’s mission: Making healthcare accessible. [38:00] How to connect with AJ Asgari. [39:09] As a man, what has shaped your view of the world?   “Try to make most of your days fun or happy or light because you don’t know when your last one’s gonna be. So, no matter how big the problem, how big the challenge, how down and out you feel, you’re not here long so it’ll pass.” – AJ Asgari   If you enjoyed this episode, please SHARE it with a friend, then RATE/REVIEW The Modern Man on Apple Podcasts or Spotify!   Resources Mentioned: Join The Noble Knights: https://themodernman.gumroad.com/l/NobleKnights   Connect with AJ Asgari: Visit his website: https://ajasgari.com Follow him on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ajasgari Follow him on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ajasgari Connect on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/a-j-asgari-a4693a69 Connect on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/arrash.asgari Subscribe to his YouTube channel:https://www.youtube.com/@drugstore2door21   Connect with The Modern Man: Visit our website: https://themodernmanshow.com Join our Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/244885633101820 Follow us on Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheModernMan8 Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themodernmanpodcast Subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnyA3-wtyv7xVqUbPyB0eOg

15 Nov 202345min