208: "If He Relapses Again, I'm Done."  (How to Protect Your Marriage the Right Way)

208: "If He Relapses Again, I'm Done." (How to Protect Your Marriage the Right Way)

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Podcast Description:

Is your relationship on the brink because of your husband's porn use? If you've said, “If he watches porn again, I’m done” — or you’re a husband who’s trying hard to stop watching porn but keep relapsing — this episode is for you.

So many couples are stuck in the cycle of porn addiction, where trust is shattered and safety feels impossible. The husband feels shame and pressure to never mess up again. The wife feels exhausted and betrayed. And despite trying everything — accountability partners, internet filters, even cold showers — the porn habits keep coming back.

In this episode, I reveal why most porn recovery methods fail — and why porn relapses aren’t just random slip-ups. They're the last domino in a chain of emotional stress, disconnection, and unresolved shame.

You’ll learn:

  • Why your husband’s porn relapse isn’t the root problem — and what is

  • How to stop relying on willpower and start healing from the root cause of porn use

  • What it actually means to “do the real work” to stop watching pornography for good

  • How couples can rebuild trust after porn betrayal — without compromising safety or standards

  • What wives can look for to know if he’s genuinely changing, not just staying “clean”

  • How to set boundaries around the work being done — not just whether he’s “acting out”

Whether you’re a man trying to overcome porn addiction or a wife who feels like she can’t stay if he watches porn again, this episode will give you the clarity, tools, and hope to move forward the right way.

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When people have a hard time following through on creating a good habit or breaking a bad one, there's always a reason. In this episode, we dive deeper into the reasons why we don't do the things that we say we want to do, and I share with you some strategies to help you dissolve any blocks or barriers that have prevented you from being successful. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? 
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

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Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

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Can Sex With a Spouse Trigger the Pornography Addiction?

When it comes to bringing sex back into the relationship, one of the main questions that people have is “will that trigger him back into the addiction?” If men struggle with a porn addiction or a sex addiction, it can be difficult for a wife to feel comfortable with intimacy. There are a lot of fears and reservations when it comes to sexual intimacy because of the damage that is done in that area of the relationship by the addiction. In this episode I share how are you can know when the time is right to bring back sex, how you can gauge the timing, and what to do if triggers arise. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

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When trust is damaged because of pornography addiction or lying, it's hard to know when it's safe to open up and trust again. Knowing what to look for will help you to measure whether or not there's progress being made, and it helps him to know where to spend his energy in the rebuilding phase and gaining her trust back. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? 
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

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Sometimes people start to lose the love they have for their spouse, especially as pornography addiction and betrayal trauma negatively affect the relationship.  The good news is that if you know how to create, shape, and reignite love, you can rekindle it regardless of how long you've been together and even if you've gone through lots of rough patches. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? 
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

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The road to overcome porn addiction and rebuilding your marriage can feel long and painful. The sting of betrayal and the web of the addiction can cause people to lose hope and sight of a better future. I’m joined in this episode by TC Jolley, who is a strong woman who healed from betrayal trauma as a result of her husband’s addiction. Their marriage is strong and connected, and they are individually in a solid place, and she shares some of the key factors that allowed her to thrive and heal individually and in the marriage For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? 
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

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When people want to make changes in their lives, create new habits, routines or put systems in place, but it can be hard to be consistent! In this episode I share some strategies that can help you to be successful as you create habits and get them to stick, without needing willpower or superhuman discipline. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? 
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

16 Juli 202129min

If Her Wall Stays Up Despite His Best Efforts

If Her Wall Stays Up Despite His Best Efforts

When a woman experiences betrayal in a relationship due to porn addiction, it’s normal for her wall to go up to protect herself.  Without there being safety or security in the relationship, she protects herself from continued hurt and being impacted by the addiction and dishonesty. Sometimes women aren’t quite sure how to let the wall down and what indicators she should look for, and despite his best efforts, it feels like the relationship hits a plateau and doesn’t know what to do. In this episode, I share one of the most brilliant insights from a client about how to open the door to healing and growth. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? 
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

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