Ask Uncut - “I Have A Crush On My Husband’s Brother”

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Laura - Baby Name App and Hask Argan Oil Serum
Keeshia - No Filter Podcast - How Sally Hepworth Survived Her Divorce
Britt - Liberty Lost podcast

Then we jump into your questions!

I HAVE A CRUSH ON MY HUSBAND'S BROTHER
For context, my husband & I live in Australia, both of our immediate families are overseas. We’ve been together for 13 years, married for 8 and share a 2 year old daughter. I love him! We have ups & downs like any normal couple. Right now, my brother in law is visiting from overseas with his 7 year old daughter and is currently staying with us for 2 weeks. His wife will be joining him at a later part of the holiday in another city so we won't be seeing her at all. Ever since dating my husband, every time I see his brother, I do feel like I want to impress his brother. This is the first time he has come to Australia. I feel like this crush is getting more intense. I even have this sexual fantasy with him in my head, I feel horny and try to put out the fire by banging my husband instead (good for him I guess). I can’t explain it. Not that it’ll ever lead to anything, but the fact I constantly want to impress him drives me crazy. What should I do?

NO GREETING IN WORK EMAIL- RUDE?
I work in a professional field and on the daily, I receive emails from people who address me at the start of an email with JUST my first name. For example, the email writes - Sally Body of email* - No, “Good Morning,” no “Dear,” not even a damned “Hi” !! I want to know what people's thoughts are on this? I know it’s something small and probably insignificant but I find it incredibly rude and also condescending! It’s not hard to put a tiny greeting to ensure the rest of the correspondence is pleasant. It actually happens so much these days I find myself responding to them in the same way, or sometimes not even addressing them at all, which is crazy considering I don’t know these people and whatever we’re talking about shouldn’t warrant a rude interaction. I guess I’d like to know if people realise this is something that does come across rude or if I am being overly dramatic and it shouldn’t bother me at all?

FRIEND ASKED ME NOT TO BE PREGNANT FOR HER WEDDING
I am just wondering if I could get ANY advice on this situation I’ve been put in recently, I really don’t know how I should be feeling. A bit of a backstory, I am a mum to a beautiful one year old boy. At the start of the year my best friend got engaged and I’ve been asked to be a bridesmaid (which I obviously said yes to). Recently, the bride to be (late next year) has asked me to make sure I’m not pregnant again as the dresses she’s picked for the bridal party won’t ‘go’ with pregnancy. I am so conflicted as we had a conversation at the start of the year about my hopes to have a second baby next year! WHAT DO I DO?! Is this an acceptable thing to ask someone?

PARTNER AND I HAVE DIFFERENT MONEY VALUES
My partner and I are both nearing 30. We’ve been together for 4 years and currently living together for 2 years. I’ve always known a rough figure of his savings and vice versa however have recently just discovered that those savings have significantly reduced. We grew up very differently surrounding finances and savings. He has lived out of home for 10 years, has lived the whole uni/party life, grew up with a single mum and a bit of travel. I have lived out of home for 5 years, lived with both my parents prior to that and have always been taught about savings and I have travelled a lot. I have always had a “do not touch” account and have stuck to it to put towards my future (house/travel/ kids etc) as that’s really important to me. I proudly have 6 figures of savings.
He has had a similar account however he withdraws from it. I only recently re-discovered his total savings is a 4 figure number which is a lot lower than expected. This obviously shocked me. I feel like I’m making more of an effort to plan for our future. Can this work? Will I resent this and his inability to save even for our future together? Is this something I can even have a say about?

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