121: How to Be More Resilient with Sarah Sherwood

Being able to bounce back from the inevitable hard times in life is an essential skill. The recovery period between something that happens and how we come through on the other side is known as resilience.

We often see resilience as a hard skill... something that we gain when we go through experience that toughens us up. I know I typically thought of it this way too, making "thick skinned" and resilient synonymous. My guest today has a different perspective on resilience.

Sarah talks about resilience as having a softer quality and the result of how we integrate the most horrific, embarrassing, shame filled, disappointing, experiences... integrating those into our story in a way that strengthens us but doesn't make us hard.

As a certified Life Coach, Spiritual Director and Somatic Experiencing® Practitioner, Sarah empowers people to rebound and recover from the damaging effects of stress, trauma and chronic illness/disease. Her clients stop the stress cycle, double their energy and break their limiting patterns and habits. Becoming resilient – emotionally, mentally and physically – they live free from anxiety, stop doubting themselves, and find courage to take action on their dreams, regardless the difficulty and challenge they've endured. Sarah believes that obstacles and failures are part of the path to reach our fullest potential. Therefore, we must master how to become resilient instead of shrinking back from pain or resistance.

Today we are going to unpack what resilience is and how it can actually have more of a soft, integrated quality to it. We also going to get into how shame and resilience are related.

In this episode you'll learn

• Ways to reframe your thoughts so you avoid feeling unnecessary shame
• Strategies to remove negative feelings by rewiring your patterned thoughts and beliefs
• How to gain self control and change your outcomes by learning to tolerate uncomfortable emotions
• Ways to find your North Star when life seems off-center
• How to identify and stop negative emotions before they rise up and overtake you
• Why it's important to hold emotional space for others without always trying to fix their problems
• How to view your challenges and obstacles as forces working for your higher good
• Strategies to develop more emotional resiliency in your children