Ask Uncut - My Husband Cheated, Brought Home An STI & Wants Forgiveness

Is confidence the key to effective communication? How are you meant to respond when someone says something incredibly rude? How can we use silence to out a liar? Jefferson Fisher is a trial lawyer who you might know as the guy who records videos from his car all about how to communicate during life’s everyday awkward situations and arguments! Jefferson amassed 5.8 million followers and has a new book out titled “the next conversation” and it’s his tried-and-true strategies to deal with difficult people and tough situations. Our favourite thing about Jefferson is that he provides word for word advice on how to navigate a lot of conflict and having the tool of ‘if someone says this to you, respond with this’ is incredibly helpful! In today’s conversation, we unpack: Where Jefferson learnt the art of storytelling How storytelling can determine the outcome of a court case Why you should never try to win an argument How you can park your ego and emotion during an argument so that you can get your point across in a way that will be listened to Jefferson’s tips to make a liar out themselves (remember he’s a trial attorney) How to spot a liar! What to say when someone says something rude to you Fluffy emails, filler words and over apologising are harming how we are perceived How to combat defensiveness You can find more from Jefferson on his instagram At his website And grab his new book “The Next Conversation” You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Hey Lifers! We’re all rev heads now. Officially on the F1 bandwagon; real housewives or documentary, you can decide. We have a quick catch up on our weekend! RIP Keeshia’s toe and Britt’s dignity after a trip to chemist warehouse and a case of mistaken identity. Laura has a small health update of something she’s been putting up with since last September. We desperately need better options when it comes to women’s health care and this is a little reminder to advocate for your own health. Is there a double standard when it comes to full frontals on our screens? Jason Isaacs is sick of being asked whether or not he wore a prosthetic penis in The White Lotus where his character, Timothy Ratliff, had his penis hanging out of his bathrobe while in front of his children. He said “It’s interesting that there’s a double standard for men. But when women are naked, Margaret Qualley, in ‘The Substance,’ nobody would dream of talking to her about her genitalia or her nipples. So, it's odd that there’s a double standard.” We speak about: Whether he has a point How women’s nudity has been used on screens How the media has approached female on screen nudity The difference between romantic/seductive full frontals and shock/comedic nude scenes Our thoughts about prosthetics being used on screen You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

18 Mars 53min

Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we discuss your deepest and dizzy dilemmas. We’re all feeling uncomfortable about Timothée Chalamet and Kylie Jenner’s tennis affection and we’re just hoping Timmy’s tummy is feeling better. Vibes for the week:Britt - Running Point on NetflixKeeshia - Salted Matcha Powder from T2 Laura - Similar Web - Competitive Landscape Analysis I WANT TO DO A NUDIE SWIM - BF AGAINST ITI live in Hobart and every year there is a big nudist swim to celebrate the winter solstice. You have to register, there's no photography allowed, you all wear robes and swim caps and drop them when you run into the water. Of course there's lots of nudity but it's absolutely freezing so not everyone is hanging out stark naked. I told my partner I want to participate in the swim this year and it did not go down well. He believes that it's a perverse event, full of voyeurs and doesn't understand why it has to be nude. I believe it's a celebration of the body in the basest form, and an act of rebirth in cold water. He doesn't understand why I would "put myself in a situation with pervs, and to parade myself like meat in front of lions". I find this language incredibly shaming, and it furthers the sexualisation of female bodies in a negative way. Am I the asshole for going ahead and doing it, regardless of his attitude. OVERTHINKING IG ‘FOR YOU’ PAGE FOR BF?My partner and I have been together 5 years, engaged, very much in love and happy in our relationship. We have an open phone policy meaning having no issues with being on each other's phone for whatever reason. On road trips, which have been frequent lately, my service cuts out regularly and I love a doom scroll through reels on Insta to pass the time. He’s happy for me to do this on his phone while mine is out of service. Everytime I open his insta, his ‘for you page’ is flooded with women who hold only fans accounts, posting pics of their enormous, wonderful tits/body. I say good for them in that regard and I have no shame on women who choose to do this.I have joked/bantered to him in the past about this and he has mentioned it is because Instagram has formed his algorithm based on the ‘average 30 year old male’. When I look on my ‘for you page’, my algorithm is formed by stupid reels, memes and animals that I engage in daily. Does Instagram form an algorithm based on age and gender or for what you show interest/consume in most frequently? I have no issue with him watching porn, however, for some reason, the idea that my partner may be frequently scrolling through or searching for posts related to only fans or women with body types that are polar opposites to my own leaves an unsettling feeling in my stomach and perhaps shatters my ego slightly. IS A SURNAME IMPORTANT?I’ve been my partner for six years and we have two beautiful kids. He’s the last one in his family to get married, and I always said to him that I would like to at least have the same surname as my children before my eldest goes to school. Our eldest child is enrolled to start school next year , and I don’t see us getting married this year. It makes me sad that we don’t all have the same surname because that’s always been something I wanted coming from a divorced parent family. Is it too much to put an ultimatum on him? Am I overthinking this? Does a surname really matter? I know how many women want to keep their maiden name however I don’t have a solid relationship with my dad so I’ve never really wanted his surname anyway. A surname to me solidifies the family unit. I also don’t really want a big wedding. I would be very happy to just sign a piece of paper. Thoughts? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

16 Mars 44min

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. Every week we live across the country at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials. What's on the show: Hailey Bieber was caught allegedly liking a shady post about Selena Gomez When did you accidentally like or follow? Laura's friend had a VERY unfortunate word mix up An investigation into why people love to go back to their exes (*cough* Ben Affleck) Lola has (almost) learned her ABCs and it is VERY cute When did you celebrate prematurely? Britt and Laura received a gift that feels a little.......too old for them There's a new study that says that you shouldn't wear pyjamas to bed You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

14 Mars 40min

Have you ever wondered “If I wanted to change my personality, would I be able to?” Or have you ever wondered if it was possible for someone else to truly change their personality? This was a question that today’s guest wondered about herself and so she went on a journey to find out whether it was really possible to change your entire personality! Joining the podcast today is Olga Khazan. Olga is a writer for The Atlantic, and the author of the new book Me, But Better: The Science and Promise of Personality Change. Olga spent a year experimenting with her own personality to see if she could become more extroverted, a lot less neurotic, and a little more agreeable. We speak about: Exactly why you might like to change your personality How much of our personality is ‘hard wired’ The ‘big 5’ personality traits: extroversion, neuroticism, agreeableness, conscientiousness, openness. How different aspects of our personality affects our relationships Making friends when you’re not particularly extroverted Can you change someone else’s personality? Do certain life stages encourage a personality change? What things can you do to change your personality? You can get Olga's new book Me, But Better You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

13 Mars 27min

Hey Lifers!Straight off the b̶a̶c̶k̶ bat, how do you feel about the sound of exhaust fans?Are they the bane of your existence or are you normal? We have a devastating update about Britt's hens entertainment and checks notes it is not appropriate to ask if the entertainment should come to our workplace. Noted.Ben has had his bucks party and it was a little less of a rager than what Britt anticipated. We ended up having a bit of a deeper conversation about what the 'rules' of hens/bucks parties are, the length of the 'leash' and being in a relationship with genuine trust and how that feels really different to previous relationships. Why are people hate-watching Meghan Markle’s Netflix Show Love, Meghan? Why do we hate watch or hate follow anyone?We unpack the how these factors play into why we might consume content from people that we really don't like: Confirmation bias. If you already think someone is awful, watching their content (and finding more reasons to dislike them) reinforces that belief. The need for comparison. Hate-watching gives us a way to feel superior. Schadenfreude—the joy of watching a train wreck Participation in a bigger conversation Algorithms LOVE outrage! We'd love to know if you hate follow or hate watch anyone/anything? Are they a celebrity/public figure or someone you know in your own life? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

11 Mars 56min

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack all of your deep and burning questions. Britt is broken from dancing and we decided it was the right time to have a bit of an intervention with her. She is upset by Laura and Keeshia going behind her back but they're sticking to their nostrils. Vibes for the week:Britt and Laura - Devil in the family on Disney plus Keeshia - Koala Luxe Mattress Then we jump into your questions! HOW DO I GET MY IDENTITY BACK AS A MUM?I want to start off by saying I absolutely love being a mum and I am grateful everyday that I have two beautiful girls. This didn’t come easy for my partner and I and had a few losses along our journey. My question is how do you find your identity after becoming a mum? My youngest is 12 weeks old and oldest is 2 and right now my life is consumed with being a mum. I feel a bit lost and find myself missing who I was before. I avoid mirrors when I can because I don’t recognise the person looking back at me. I want to be the best role model for my girls and I’m worried if I can’t find myself again I won’t be able to do this for them. During the labour of my second I was listening to random episodes of the Podcast to take my mind off the contractions. I didn’t realise I still had my headphones on when I started to push and my daughter was born to the sound of Britt's laugh! SHOULD I HOOK UP WITH HIM AGAIN AFTER I SH*T DURING SEX?My ex and I broke up in October. Recently, we’ve been reconnecting for a bit of company and casual fun. Last weekend, I popped over to his place for a chill lunch hangout, which of course eventually led to some steamy playtime. It was one of those really hot days, so we decided to have a shower session. Things got hot and steamy, and he started touching me in all the right places with his hand. As things really started to heat up I said “Fuck me!” He replied with a cautious “babe,” but when I turned back - I was hit with a shock I’ll never forget. His finger was covered in a thick smear of gooey, brown diarrhoea. It was my first time experiencing such an unsexy disaster, and needless to say, I was mortified. We quickly washed off, agreeing that “we can’t come back from this one.” Now it’s become a core memory I can’t shake. So here’s my dilemma: should I put the brakes on our casual escapades, or might a second round (with a strategic bathroom break this time) help us wipe the slate clean? HOW TO TELL MY HUSBAND HE HAS NEVER MADE ME COME?I’m a female, married and am in my late 20’s. I’ve always enjoyed sex, but as I’ve gotten older, my sex drive has declined. This has become a point of tension in my marriage, as my husband has always maintained his sex drive. In an effort to reconnect with my body and bring some excitement back into our sex life, I recently bought my first vibrator. While exploring, I made an embarrassing discovery—I’ve never actually orgasmed from my husband or most past partners, and I’ve always wondered if I even could. However, I did experience it once with a previous partner, which has made this realisation even more confusing. Now, I’ve learned that I can do it myself, and I don’t quite know how to process that. I love my husband deeply, and I know this revelation would hurt him. I don’t want him to feel inadequate, but I also want to be honest so that we can improve our intimacy together. How do I approach this conversation? HOLIDAY WITH FRIEND OR SEE LONG DIST POTENTIAL LOML?Last year I went on a uni exchange. In the last few weeks there I met a British guy who I genuinely believe could be my person. Since then we have kept in contact, and have met in Bali and again back in the uk for a few weeks later in the year. My dilemma now is that I have agreed to go on a cruise with my friend in April. For context with this friend: she has been my best friend for a few years but because of some things that happened last year, she now lives with my ex boyfriend (of four years) and a few other people who don’t run in my circle anymore. This has made our relationship challenging recently and this cruise (with her entire family) could really be a make or break situation for us. HOWEVER - I have just found out that this is the only time in the entire year (he studies med and gets little holidays) that my British boy would be able to come out and visit for a few weeks. Having the cruise smack bang in the middle of these weeks means that the trip wouldn’t be worth the money for him if I’m only going to be there half the time (we’re broke uni students!!!). SO my question is: how terrible of a friend am I, and/or will this ruin my friendship if I prioritise seeing the potential love of my life over this cruise with my best friend?Also a bit more context: she was SO excited when I told her I was going to come on the cruise, and has not been overly supportive of this British man I’ve been obsessing over. So I really feel like me doing this would be taken very personally and I’m worried that we potentially won’t fully come back from it. But it also feels like if I can take the opportunity to see him then I should. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

9 Mars 48min

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. Every week we live across the country at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials. What's on the show: Stung by a blue bottle Saving testosterone Shave your face The woman advocating for baby free weddings Influencer laws un California and the great exodus of influencers Tattoo regrets Red flags when it comes to their phone You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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