Bad Marriage Advice that's Killing Your Intimacy (Intimacy Series)

Bad Marriage Advice that's Killing Your Intimacy (Intimacy Series)

We've all been given some bad marriage advice from well-meaning folks. But what if that bad marriage advice is ruining your intimacy? My guest, Monica Tanner, and I discuss what helpful marriage advice couples should focus on instead. Monica shares wisdom from her upcoming book, Bad Marriage Advice, and how this relates to intimacy. Let's stop the crazy cycle and lean into the hard truths and practical steps needed to create lasting intimacy and connection in marriage.

Key Takeaways:

  • Bad Marriage Advice (And Why It Backfires):
    You'll laugh and commiserate about the terrible marriage clichés we’ve all heard—like "happy wife, happy life," "don’t go to bed angry," and more.
  • The Power of the Pause:
    The wisdom of taking a break during heated moments instead of forcing a late-night resolution.
  • Intimacy Isn’t Automatic—It’s Cultivated:
    Intimacy was not always present in our marriages and has required time, personal growth, and intentionality to develop.
  • Debunking the “You’ve Changed” Myth:
    Change is natural. The key is staying curious and engaged with your partner’s growth rather than resenting natural changes.
  • From Lazy Communication to Loving Curiosity:
    You just have to listen to this one to grab the nuggets
  • Collaboration Over Compromise:
    Using real-life examples, Monica and Dana model what it looks like to approach differences (early bird/night owl dynamics, for instance) with teamwork rather than resentment or forced compromise.

Quotable Moments:

  • “At the root of all the bad marriage advice is lazy communication.” – Monica Tanner
  • “There is no greater investment of your time than building a marriage that is healthy and whole.” – Dana Che

Resources Mentioned:

Follow Dana Che on the socials!

Instagram

Facebook

YouTube

Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE/FOLLOW the podcast! Then, give it a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ rating and leave a great review!

Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/

Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Avsnitt(402)

8 Conversations You're Likely Avoiding in Your Marriage & How It's Widening the Distance (Tried and True)

8 Conversations You're Likely Avoiding in Your Marriage & How It's Widening the Distance (Tried and True)

From unmet expectations to trust issues and loneliness in marriage, this episode exposes eight conversations you're likely avoiding in your marriage and how it's causing the disconnection gap to widen...

30 Dec 202531min

When Marriage is Harder Than You Ever Expected (Tried and True)

When Marriage is Harder Than You Ever Expected (Tried and True)

If you’ve found yourself disappointed, grieving unmet expectations, or questioning whether your relationship is supposed to feel this tough, you're not alone. It's a struggle that many couples face bu...

23 Dec 202526min

Savers vs Spenders: How Couples Handle Holiday Gift-Giving

Savers vs Spenders: How Couples Handle Holiday Gift-Giving

I’m joined by my husband, Shaun, to discuss the sometimes complicated world of gift-giving in a relationship. If you’ve ever found yourself debating with your spouse or partner over how much money you...

16 Dec 202525min

Holiday Affection Dip: Simple Strategies to Protect Your Affection

Holiday Affection Dip: Simple Strategies to Protect Your Affection

It's the most wonderful time of the year—unless your relationship is in trouble. We're taking an honest look at how affection can ebb and flow in your relationship—especially during busy seasons like ...

9 Dec 202528min

The 'Seven C's' of Creating More Resilience in Your Relationships

The 'Seven C's' of Creating More Resilience in Your Relationships

Do you struggling with bouncing back after hardship? Are you often tempted to quit things when they get hard? This episode highlights the critical role of resilience in relationships and personal grow...

2 Dec 202529min

Gratitude That Heals: Reframing Relationships in the Hard Seasons

Gratitude That Heals: Reframing Relationships in the Hard Seasons

Gratitude isn’t just for the easy, feel-good times in your marriage. In this episode, we discuss how to practice real thankfulness—especially when things feel tense, unresolved, or even painful—and so...

25 Nov 202524min

Kicking P*rn Use for Good & How Shameless Connection Leads to Recovery

Kicking P*rn Use for Good & How Shameless Connection Leads to Recovery

I know p*rn isn't a topic that we like to discuss. It brings guilt, embarrassment, pain, and shame. But it's a topic we MUST discuss if we want to have authentic and whole relationships. Parents, your...

18 Nov 202535min

My #1 Solution for When Trust Breaks

My #1 Solution for When Trust Breaks

In this special episode, you'll learn how to heal your broken heart and rebuild your marriage after infidelity. Many affair-recovery programs are run by those who never experienced infidelity first-ha...

14 Nov 202515min

Populärt inom Samhälle & Kultur

en-mork-historia
podme-dokumentar
gynning-berg
svenska-fall
p3-dokumentar
aftonbladet-krim
skaringer-nessvold
hor-har
killradet
mardromsgasten
creepypodden-med-jack-werner
kod-katastrof
flashback-forever
rss-brottsutredarna
blenda-2
vad-blir-det-for-mord
historiska-brott
rss-nemo-moter-en-van
rss-sanning-konsekvens
rattsfallen