Talking About Mental Health with Kids

Mental health challenges are common and chances are, you or someone you care about lives with this challenge. In this episode, we spoke to Leslie Cohen-Rubury, a psychotherapist, LCSW and podcast host of, "Is My Child A Monster", about how to support your child and educate them about mental health as well as address mental health concerns in the family. Cohen-Rubury discusses strategies for parents to support their children when exposed to unhealthy mental health episodes, the significance of teaching emotional intelligence, modeling healthy behavior, and fostering connection and how to have a relationship with a family member with a mental illness.

Here are some takeaways

• Include age appropriate mental health discussions as you teach your child about emotional intelligence, using developmentally appropriate language and resources.
• If your child is witness to unhealthy behavior, validate the child's feelings and provide emotional support. Studies show that having an ally during bullying or potentially traumatic experience has a positive impact. Put your arm around the child, let them know you are their ally.
• Work to see the positive intention in the person's behavior, also known as dialectic thinking or perspective. Leslie said, "I want to teach my child that there can be two opposing ideas, perspectives or thoughts that can coexist."
• An experience can leave a lasting traumatic response if we avoid facing the impacts of the experience and if we do not process the impact of the experience. Watch for your child avoiding places or people as signs that they may be experiencing some unresolved feelings about experiences. To support your child, try to foster communication techniques so they feel comfortable sharing the experiences, such as the game Roses and Thorns. Most importantly, when your child is sharing, try to listen, rather than react.
• When should a parent share a personal or familial history of mental illness? It's okay to have everyday language around emotional intelligence and mental health challenges from the start. As your child gets older, you can ask if they would like to learn and understand more. For example, "Do you want to know why you can't wear your shoes in their house?"