The Best Response to Increase Connection and Safety When She‘s Triggered
So many women I work tell me that almost everything can be a trigger – the movies, tv shows, going out to eat, women in the grocery story, billboards, you name it. It’s overwhelming to constantly feel on guard and anxious because any of these triggers sends her into fear and uncertainty, and sadly, so often their husbands don’t know how to respond to help her. In this episode I share one of the most common triggers that women experience and exactly how to diffuse it, and how her husband can help in the process. The more involved he is, not only does it help her work through the triggers faster, but it strengthens her trust in him and increases the safety and connection they both feel. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
17 Dec 202126min
Everything is Always My Fault
When people are working through the process of overcoming pornography addiction, healing from betrayal trauma, and restoring their marriage, there are obviously ups and downs. It’s easy for couple to fall back into old patterns of arguments and fighting, lack of trust, and issues with their sexual relationship, so in this episode I shared the strategy and approach to addressing these three common situations that are barriers to creating a fulfilling relationship. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
3 Dec 202126min
How to Quickly Diffuse a Fight Before It Even Begins
When working to repair your relationship after the effects of porn addiction, learning how to stop fights and diffuse them is critical. The more couples fight, the more alone and disconnected they feel, and if you don’t know how to effectively come back together, the relationship continues to suffer. In this episode I share exactly how to diffuse a fight (every time) and prevent things from escalating. Learning this one skill will help you not only have a strong relationship together, but will open the door to resolving each of the problems that you experience in your marriage and work through them effectively. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
18 Nov 202127min
If You Can‘t Deeply Feel God‘s or Your Spouse‘s Love, Here‘s What Helped Me
I was a teenager and had a hard time feeling love - from family, friends, and from God. I believed they loved me, I knew intellectually they did, but I had a hard time feeling it. For many people I work with who are affected by a pornography addiction, they have a hard time feeling and experiencing love because they don't feel worthy, have low self-esteem, or have a hard time feeling in general. In this episode, I share exactly how to increase your ability to feel love so you can more fully feel satisfaction and fulfillment as a result of deeper connection with God and your loved ones. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
4 Nov 202128min
Consider This Before You Begin or End a Separation
Many couples get the advice (or consider for themselves) that they should separate for a number of reasons.. Maybe there is too much hurt, betrayal, dishonesty, or fighting? But separation can have unintended harmful effects on an individual and a marriage, so in this episode I share the most important considerations before you decide about how to approach a separation.
22 Okt 202132min
How to Instantly Reduce The Rate of Slip Ups in Porn Addiction Recovery
As men are learning how to quit porn, one of the most helpful things in their process is their ability to avoid slips. It's such a discouraging experience for both people when he ends up slipping back into old patterns. It affects the trust she has in him, it affects his confidence, and it feels like a big disappointment overall. In this episode I share with you my proven framework to instantly reduce the rate of slip ups. I also share how this framework applies to any other goal that someone wants to achieve, whether it's to become a better parent, progress spiritually, heal the pain of betrayal, and anything else someone is striving to accomplish. Pornography addiction can be overcome by getting the tools necessary to resolve it, and in this episode I share 2 effective strategies that will help. Porn addiction recovery is
7 Okt 202126min
How to Get Over the Past Without Sweeping It Under the Rug
If the past continues to be brought up, it means that it's not fully resolved. Unless you address the hurt in the proper way, it's likely to continue to fester and resurface. In this episode, I share the specific framework to help couples resolve hurts so they can leave the past behind them without sweeping it under the rug. As men are learning how to stop watching porn, healing the damage from the past is a critical step in the progress of the marriage and being able to move forward with closure. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
24 Sep 202129min
How to Identify Your Triggers for Porn Addiction [Don‘t Miss This Step as You Heal]
One of the most critical steps in porn addiction recovery is being able to identify your triggers. Without knowing exactly what's causing the addiction, you're doomed to continue to repeat the pattern over and over. Once you can uncover the core trigger(s), you can then actually resolve them so they don't continue to pull you back towards the addiction, and that is when men experience true freedom. This ultimately helps a man overcome porn addiction for good. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
10 Sep 202131min
