21: Rest and soften = MORE pleasure and better orgasms

You experience more pleasure when you rest. If you tend to overlook the importance of rest, this is for you. When you slow down and relax you enter into a rest and digest state, your body softens, you soften, and are more receptive so you will find it easier to let in and enjoy happiness AND pleasure -both sensual and sexual.

Sounds great, right? However, most people struggle with the idea of resting because we have been told that the more we do the more we deserve. Which, at least in terms of PLEASURE, is a complete lie. You deserve pleasure, you deserve to rest and be with yourself every single day of your life.

This episode, inspired by one of Erika's clients, touches on the importance of being present in your body and making space for all the responsibilities of life but also for all the pleasures, from a grounded and conscious state of being to experiencing more pleasure and satisfaction.

"When we enter into this rest and digest relaxed body brain soft state of being we feel an almost automatic or very natural, easy access to connection with sensual energy, we feel and perceive energy in the body, it is easier to be present in the body" [15:58]

"Fuck yes to extreme relaxation and softness because it is such a bridge to sensuality and to energy, an energy phenomenon that you can experience. And when you get a little bit more knowledgeable in this or experienced with this [...] then you can start directing energy inside and playing with energy in a really fantastic way" [20:04]

In this episode:

1. The difference between Fight or Flight and Rest and Digest, and their impact on your pleasure.

2. The importance of allowing yourself to be fully present and listen to the sensations in your body and the stimuli around you.

3. Why and how rest allows for more pleasure and better orgasms.

4. How to make space for conscious, intentional, and sustainable rest in your everyday life.

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