Gay Hookup Culture, Pretty Dicks & Settling Down (ft. Jeff Perla)
In Bed With Alexa: Have Better Sex25 Sep 2025

Gay Hookup Culture, Pretty Dicks & Settling Down (ft. Jeff Perla)

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Jeff Perla, host of Oh Dear I’m Queer, for a candid, funny, and unfiltered conversation about queer sex, dating, and intimacy.

We discuss:

  • Morning hookups, blowjob confessions, and the idea of “nut clarity”
  • Seeing Jeff's nudes & live reactions
  • Snapchat vs. Instagram, hookup apps, and why Jeff made hoe cards while Alexa makes hoe friendship bracelets
  • Bold ways of flirting IRL
  • Fire Island and Hamptons stories, including Jeff’s secret hookup with “Chad,” a DL late-blooming bi guy
  • Sex toys, magic wands, vibrating cock rings, and why toys aren’t just for women
  • Gay hookup culture, Grindr chats, and whether there’s really a “top shortage”
  • Therapy insights: Jeff wants to settle down and went to therapy to see if he's the problem
  • Bi men in gay spaces, biphobia, and the fear of being “left for a woman”
  • Girls’ gays vs. gays’ gays, and the tension over women in gay bars
  • Eating disorders, body image, intermittent fasting, and gay pool party pressures
  • Open relationships, monogamy fears, and rules like “our bed is our bed”
  • Family dynamics, supportive siblings, grandma’s vibrator advice, and parents learning about OnlyFans
  • What makes a “pretty dick,” hygiene, cut vs. uncut, and why enthusiasm matters most in oral sex
  • Grindr bios, faceless profiles, and navigating hookup app etiquette


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