The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast2 Juli 2020

Episode 78: Al-Anon, Addiction, and Divorce with Dr. Elizabeth Cohen

This week, Dr. Elizabeth Cohen and I discuss how to cope when your partner has an active addiction. Underneath everything you are going through, there is so much fear and a lack of belief in yourself. Everything about a divorce is uncomfortable. Dr. Elizabeth Cohen helps people get a little more comfortable with something so painful.

When you're living with or divorcing a partner who has an active addiction, you may find yourself acting out different behaviors like the need to control every situation. You may become (or already be!) codependent, and you focus on their healing instead of your own. When you finally take the focus off of them and towards yourself you can begin to see light at the end of what may be a very dark tunnel.

Show Highlights

When women share themselves openly and honestly, the world begins to split open. (9:21)
Focusing on your growth and healing is how we change the world — and our circumstances. (11:06)
The issue with wanting to control a situation while being in denial about what the real problem is. (17:21)
Sublimating your own needs for someone else. (23:00)
Breaking the cycle of codependency. (24:15)
The core issue about a person abusing any substance is the difficulty sitting with emotions. (34:41)
A partner should never be responsible for healing the other. (38:36)
Some advice for those who are living with an active addict. (47:33)

Learn More About Dr. Cohen:
Dr. Cohen is the CEO and founder of the online divorce course and membership Afterglow: The Light at the Other Side of Divorce. This 14 week course teaches women how to heal, grow and thrive after divorce no matter how difficult the process has been. Dr. Cohen offers a monthly membership program to provide 1:1 coaching, expert support from divorce professionals and an engaged community of like-minded people. Dr. Cohen received her PhD in clinical psychology from Boston University. She was the recipient of the prestigious American Psychological Foundation Research Award for her doctoral research. She has been featured on the Tamron Hall Show, the Wall Street Journal, NBC News, Women's Health, Huff Post, Thrive Global, Daily Beast and Good Housekeeping. Dr. Cohen is a weekly contributor to Psychology Today with her "Divorce Course" column.

Resources & Links:

Dr. Cohen's website

Dr. Cohen on Instagram

Facebook The Divorce Doctor- Elizabeth Cohen,PhD

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