Buffering | Ep #32

Most of us have been conditioned our entire lives with the messaging that we should just be happy and filled with pleasure at all times. When we don't feel happy all the time, we avoid the negative emotion by buffering from what is actually real.

In this episode, you'll learn the real reasons why you buffer, and what it is costing you. When we buffer, we give ourselves a false sense of safety and security, but we are missing the opportunity to understand why we are buffering in the first place. We miss what the uncomfortable emotion is that we are avoiding, and why it keeps showing up.

Learning to stop buffering is where life becomes really good. You stop needing false pleasure because you know how to create it with your mind. You aren't afraid to feel any emotion. You stop hiding from yourself and start creating the life you actually want.

More information at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/

© 2021 Andrea Giles

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