357 | Accept The Brain You Have with Terry Huff

"If you don't want your ADHD to disrupt your life, then don't say you can't do something." Listen as your host, Eric Tivers, and his guest Terry Huff discuss the important idea of accepting the brain you have, plus much more on this episode of ADHD reWired. Terry is a licensed clinical social worker and psychotherapist specializing in adults with ADHD; he is a blogger and the author of Living Well with ADHD, which came out in 2016. He has practiced in the Nashville area for 31 years and is the founder of ADD Nashville, a support group he founded in 2005. Terry leads workshops and has presented at international conferences on ADHD, and has had a personal meditation practice for over 25 years. Listen, as Terry discusses practicing meditation and how meditation can help you notice your mind. If you practice compassion meditation, you can strengthen the brain areas that are involved with empathy. Terry also shares a story about his wife and how it has been possible for her to stay by his side for the forty-plus years they have been married. Do you get frustrated with your ADHD? Terry shares some resets, tips, and techniques you can use to access more of your brain and learn to accept your brain with ADHD. Terry believes that if you wake up every morning and tell yourself you have ADHD, and you will possibly screw up today, you probably won't. You'll learn: [03:17] Welcome to the show, Terry! [03:55] Terry shares his background and his journey to where he is today. [06:32] Terry speaks about losing open awareness when he was on medicine. [08:47] Terry discusses practicing meditation and the type that helped him. [11:47] Listen, as Terry tells a story about a situation with a client that changed how he helped his clients. [15:02] The goal of meditation isn't to quiet the mind; the goal is to notice the mind. [18:46] "The moment that we accept ourselves exactly as we are in the moment we can begin to change," [21:02] People who practice compassion meditation seem to strengthen the brain areas that are involved in empathy. [28:03] Do you teach and guide people in meditation? [28:49] Terry defines cognitive therapy. [32:12] Be gentle with yourself; you didn't ask for this. [33:40] Terry tells people you have ADHD, act as if you know it. [35:41] Terry speaks about his wife and how she has always stayed right by his side during his ADHD journey. [37:21] Are there times that you get frustrated with your ADHD? You are not alone. [39:17] Terry shares an embarrassing story about himself. [41:45] Terry discusses why rewards and punishments don't work on people with ADHD. [42:49] Preventing the problems in your life that ADHD can cause you are the way. [47:59] Terry says to wake up every morning and tell yourself you have ADHD and why. [50:12] Accept that your memory isn't reliable, and it won't be a problem for you. [51:49] What are some concrete things that someone can do that is having trouble accepting their brain with ADHD? [54:32] Terry shares some resets you can do to access more of your brain. [56:48] Thank you for listening to the show! [57:30] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron click on our Patreon tap at www.ADHDreWired.com Connect with Terry: Terry Huff Living Well with ADHD Facebook | LinkedIn Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: http://www.audibletrial.com/ADHDreWired ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon. ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit coachingrewired.com to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT. You don't want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks. One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired. ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you'd like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.