378 Beyond Exhausted? Strategic Incompetence Might Be to Blame

378 Beyond Exhausted? Strategic Incompetence Might Be to Blame

Do you feel like you are the only person in your life who knows how to do anything correctly?

Have you ever asked your partner or your teenager to do something, and they come back with "But you do it so much better…" or "I don't know how…" OR wait so long to start that you just end up doing it?

What if the people in your life are pretending to be less competent than they are to get you to do more than your share? Let that sink in.

If you are overworking, overdoing, and, if you're honest, resentful and burnt out, you might want to learn about strategic (or weaponized) incompetence.

In today's podcast, I break down this manipulation tactic and share how you can begin to step back from overfunctioning and move towards a more equitable distribution of labor in your life.

Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/378

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