How to Optimize Your Chances of Pregnancy if You are Type A

Monika Friedman joins us today as we're digging into what a Type A wishes she knew when she was TTC.

There was a time that I couldn't imagine doing anything without a plan.

What I know today is that my planning was a way to have some form of control over an uncertain situation. When I was TTC, I had a plan A, B, C, D – if it didn't work I planned to quit my job and travel around the world with my husband.

And while planning has served me well – I'm a get it done kind of person – it has also caused me a lot of frustration, increased my impatience, and left me feeling exhausted (and somehow always behind).

If you're anything like me (and most of my clients are Type A) the uncertainty of the TTC journey may be driving you crazy.

You've probably tried everything, put on your research hat (yep Dr. Google can be a slippery slope), and are feeling more overwhelmed than ever.

What if there was a way to move forward and take ACTION, but on your own terms and with a sense of peace, calm, and knowing that the soul of your baby was waiting for you.

How would you approach the journey to have your baby differently?

I'm excited to welcome Monika Friedman to the podcast. Monika is part of my team here at Fab Fertile. She is one of our Fertility Coaches and an integral part of our Couples Coaching program - which uses functional lab testing, diet, and lifestyle changes to dramatically improve conception.

If you are struggling with infertility...your body is desperately trying to tell you something...focusing on your health will either help you get pregnant naturally or if you do need to go to the fertility clinic it will improve your chances of success.

Monika is a Fertility Coach helping professional women increase their chances of getting pregnant with less anxiety and more joy along the way. She is a 4-time IVF warrior, a yoga teacher, and a working mom with an MBA and 15 years of corporate experience under her belt.

In this episode you'll learn:

1) How being a Type A has served you and where it has left you feeling impatient, frustrated, and overwhelmed – especially as navigate the fertility journey.

2) We discuss Monika's personal breakthrough and how she learned to let go of the impatience and control so that she could approach this journey on her own terms.

3) Tips for a Type A to slow down.

4) How to set boundaries at work – especially if you feel overworked or are in a demanding stressful job

5) Why takes a few steps back actually allows you to take a giant leap forward so that you can prepare for a successful pregnancy.

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TIMESTAMPS: 06:47- INTRO TO MONIKA FRIEDMAN & TODAY'S TOPIC 07:25- DEFINITION OF A 'TYPE A' PERSON 07:51- THEMES WE SEE & THE IMPORTANCE OF AWARENESS

• Taking the judgment out of being type A
• "We are our own fiercest critic"
• Sarah and Monika's personal stories with being type A
• Speaking to yourself like you are speaking to your best friend

12:27- "MINDSET FIRST" AND MONKIA'S FERTILITY JOURNEY

• "My fertility journey was a transformational journey for me."
• How she found peace with herself
• Understanding kindness and forgiveness for yourself
• A breakthrough she had on an airplane bathroom floor
• "Infertility was the best teacher I ever have but never asked for."

18:38- REFRAMING HOW WE SEE THE SILVER LINING

• Challenging your mind to take the path less traveled
• A visual technique to use for a powerful reframe
• Responding vs. reacting to triggers

22:45- REACHING OUT FOR SUPPORT FROM FERTILITY EXPERTS

• "It's courageous to ask for help."
• The power of "feeling into your body."

25:18- THE LIFESTYLE OF A "TYPE A"

• Monika's story of overworking and under eating (and how that affected her fertility)
• "Forgiveness is a key piece to my fertility journey"
• Working out as a coping mechanism.
• "Fertility works by its own rules."

31:25- RECOGNIZING UNHEALTHY TYPE A PATTERNS 32:58- EVERYTHING MONKIA TRIED ON HER FERTILITY JOURNEY

• The toll different treatments had on her body
• Dealing with infertility PTSD and the financial toll of treatments
• The importance of the functional approach

41:44- WHAT ARE THINGS WE CAN DO TO SLOW DOWN?

• Ways to say "no", and setting time in the calendar for yourself
• Asking yourself "What will make me happier this hour?"
• Breath practice for the morning and mindfulness practices
• How can you make these moments count?
• Educating people around you on what you need.
• Issues around overworking and slowing down
• Ask yourself "How do I want to show up as a mom?"

49:22- PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION

• How can we make progress while taking pressure off ourselves?

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As you may know, I was diagnosed with POF/POI at 28 and had both my children with donor eggs. Years later I discovered the root cause of my infertility was food sensitivity, gut infection, and chronic stress. I know that what you place on your fork every day does matter for your fertility - it's the first place we start with our Fab Fertile Method. Starting Monday, Jan 11th I'll be hosting the Fertility Diet Challenge LIVE in the Fab Fertile Support Group. The Fertility Diet Challenge is about taking ACTION with your partner. You'll be eligible for prizes, personalized support from my team, and insight into how diet is impacting your health/fertility. Join the free Fertility Diet Challenge here>>>>>https://www.fertilitydietfreebie.com/

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