205: It’s In Your Hands: Building Emotional Resilience with Dr Jane Foster

205: It’s In Your Hands: Building Emotional Resilience with Dr Jane Foster

In this powerful and uplifting episode of The Penis Project Podcast, Melissa Hadley Barrett is joined by Dr Jane Foster, an educator and author who’s spent more than 40 years helping people understand and manage their emotions.

Jane’s groundbreaking “steering-wheel” metaphor teaches us that while we can’t control life’s bumpy roads, we can control how we steer through them. Her simple, evidence-based approach to emotional resilience encourages us to replace judgment and blame with choice and responsibility.

Together, Melissa and Jane explore how our emotions, stress responses, and everyday habits shape mental and physical well-being — from coping with anxiety and overwhelm to managing relationship challenges and recovering from life’s rough patches.

In This Episode, We Cover:

  • How emotional resilience begins with understanding your “steering wheel” — you choose how you respond.
  • Why rough roads (stress, setbacks, grief) are vital for personal growth.
  • The importance of shifting language: swapping “good and bad” for “rough and smooth” to remove self-judgment.
  • Jane’s research on how simple daily SMS reminders transformed emotional well-being — and even saved lives.
  • The concept of TEPS and PETS: identifying everyday triggers (TEPS) and creating healthy coping strategies (PETS).
  • How partners can use this model to communicate better and manage intimacy challenges after illness or surgery.
  • Practical tools for dealing with overwhelm, from mindful breathing to setting boundaries and creating space for recovery.

Key Takeaways:

  • You can’t control the road, but you can control your steering.
  • Emotional resilience is a skill — built by practicing calm responses on life’s rough roads.
  • Reframing our language reduces guilt and self-criticism, improving relationships and mental health.
  • Stress, anger, and anxiety aren’t “bad” — they’re part of a healthy pulse of life.
  • Small daily actions (your PETS) can prevent emotional overload and support long-term well-being.

Expert Insight from Melissa Hadley Barrett

  • Melissa reflects on how Jane’s approach can be applied in men’s health — especially for those recovering from prostate cancer or experiencing sexual dysfunction. Learning to recognize emotional “rough roads” and respond with awareness can make a huge difference to physical recovery, relationship harmony, and confidence.

Resources & Links:

  • Dr Jane Foster Website: emotionalresiliencetraining.com.au Book: It’s In Your Hands – Your Steering Wheel, Your Choice (available via website & Audible) Follow Jane on Instagram, Facebook & LinkedIn

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71. Wonky Willys - more on Peyronies with Dr Jo (Causes, treatments, and resources)

71. Wonky Willys - more on Peyronies with Dr Jo (Causes, treatments, and resources)

Did you know that 1 in 6 men develop Peyronies after Radical prostatectomy?     So for today’s episode, we will talk about it - Peyronies disease... but instead of a patient’s, it will be FROM a physiotherapist’s point of view. And for this one, we will be talking to our resident physio, Dr. Jo.     Dr. Jo will discuss the causes, the old (fad) treatments, the newest discoveries (focus shockwave plus Dr Jo’s research), theories why this happens (‘Neuropraxia’ and trauma), herbal supplements that MAY help, and a few more useful information you can use and/or share in case you know a friend/loved one that has it.     You’ll also get to learn about Neoman (your next fave channel) and online resources that help with ‘traction’.     The takeaway that we wish everyone applies; if you notice a change of shape in your penis or in your partner’s, don't be afraid. Please show it to your health professional. The sooner we get to it, the better. Please get help.    Don’t forget to also check the full show notes to see the full list of resources mentioned in this episode.     Enjoy listening! And if you can spare a minute or two to share and comment so we get to help more willy wonkies. The lesser wonkies, the better. 😉     Resources mentioned in the podcast:   Herbal supplements that MAY be some assistance as mentioned by Melissa  L-Arginine (1000mg); 2 capsules twice daily - this is an anti-oxidant and Nitric Oxide Synthase (NOS  acetyl L-Carnitine (500mg); 2 capsules twice daily - this is an anti-oxidants and Nitric Oxide Synthase (NOS Curcumin; 400-600mg per day – this is an anti-inflammatory and antifibrotic agent.  Traction Devices as mention by Dr Jo  https://www.andropeyronie.com  https://www.restorex.com/  Dr Jo’s paper  https://www.rehabiljournal.com/articles/peyronies-disease-and-the-role-of-therapeutic-ultrasound-a-randomized-controlled-trial.html  Video Resources:   Video of Neoman - Manual traction using a sock: Manual Traction for Peyronie's Disease - Demonstration  If you want more videos from Neoman, his channel is below: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCjX1naIryWc6pennKOHWbgg/featured    If you feel The Penis Project is valuable to you then, please review and subscribe as this will ensure more people get to hear what we have to say. ---------- Websites: https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Men’s health only https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders http://www.menshealthphysiotherapy.com.au/ http://prost.com.au/   Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett YouTube: Melissa Hadley Barrett Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   Music David Mercy https://open.spotify.com/artist/1HbvnltKu4XbWTmk0kpVB9?si=D1xP5dDVQK-zzNU3rViRWg   Producer Thomas Evans: The SOTA Process https://www.instagram.com/thesotaprocess/ https://open.spotify.com/show/4Jf2IYXRlgfsiqNARsY8fi

1 Feb 202228min

70. Your Weight Loss Guide - Kendall Gow - RSHealth Clinic’s newest NP

70. Your Weight Loss Guide - Kendall Gow - RSHealth Clinic’s newest NP

Today, we talk with Kendall Gow.     Kendall is RS Health's newest nurse practitioner - who not only specialises in all things related to Prostate Cancer, Diabetes, and Erectile Dysfunction but also an expert in Medical Weight Loss Management.    For this episode, Kendall discusses and explains the importance of weight management, how weight affects the pelvic floor, and a few more information regarding weight (and sandwiches) that you'll surely want to remember.    Kendall has worked in general and surgical nursing with a primary focus on Urology and Gynaecology. She has also been working as a Credentialled Diabetes Educator since 2017. She has continued to study over the years and currently holds a Bachelor of Health Science degree in Nutrition (Edith Cowan University), Post Graduate qualification in Nutrition, Post Graduate qualification in Diabetes Education, and a Master of Nursing.    Enjoy listening!     To book an appointment with Kendall, just click here or send an email to admin@rshealth.com.au. Feel free to also head to this link to read Kendall’s article on obesity and ED.   If you feel The Penis Project is valuable to you then, please review and subscribe as this will ensure more people get to hear what we have to say. ---------- Websites: https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Men’s health only https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders http://www.menshealthphysiotherapy.com.au/ http://prost.com.au/   Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett YouTube: Melissa Hadley Barrett Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   Music David Mercy https://open.spotify.com/artist/1HbvnltKu4XbWTmk0kpVB9?si=D1xP5dDVQK-zzNU3rViRWg   Producer Thomas Evans: The SOTA Process https://www.instagram.com/thesotaprocess/ https://open.spotify.com/show/4Jf2IYXRlgfsiqNARsY8fi

26 Jan 202214min

69. Father of Men’s Health Physiotherapy: Meet “Peter Dornan”- talking Pudendal Neuralgia & Prostate Cancer

69. Father of Men’s Health Physiotherapy: Meet “Peter Dornan”- talking Pudendal Neuralgia & Prostate Cancer

In today’s podcast, we interview the ‘’Father of Men’s Health Physiotherapy ‘’– Peter Dornan AM from Brisbane, Australia. Recently confirmed as the ‘’Champion of Prostate Cancer’’, Peter shares his very personal story - 25 years in the making. He reveals his battle with a prostate cancer diagnosis as a 52 year old fit, healthy, health professional and the impacts it had on him physically and psychologically at a time when there was minimal support. Now 77, Peter continues to challenge the status quo and is a world leader in pelvic health issues in men, including pudendal neuralgia and pelvic pain. Not only does Peter continue to work full time, but Peter is also an author, sculptor, saxophonist, and teacher, as well as being Dr Jo’s long-term men’s health mentor. A softly spoken man – Peter’s dedication to the men’s health field is both inspirational and humbling. Listen, then look him up and share him widely. An Order of Australia Medallist and Queenslander of the Year 2020… no finer man has graced our podcast series… And he’s even on Twitter! Links: www.peterdornanphysiotherapy.com.au Article: https://www.thesenior.com.au/story/6490631/its-time-to-drop-our-ivory-tower-of-manhood-says-qlds-senior-of-the-year/ Twitter: @DornanPeter   ---------- If you feel The Penis Project is valuable to you then, please review and subscribe as this will ensure more people get to hear what we have to say. ---------- Websites: https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Men’s health only https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders http://www.menshealthphysiotherapy.com.au/ http://prost.com.au/   Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett YouTube: Melissa Hadley Barrett Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   Music David Mercy https://open.spotify.com/artist/1HbvnltKu4XbWTmk0kpVB9?si=D1xP5dDVQK-zzNU3rViRWg   Producer Thomas Evans: The SOTA Process https://www.instagram.com/thesotaprocess/ https://open.spotify.com/show/4Jf2IYXRlgfsiqNARsY8fi

18 Jan 202231min

68. ’’How To Shame the Devil”, by “Ros Thomas”. A book with a voice for men in #metoo

68. ’’How To Shame the Devil”, by “Ros Thomas”. A book with a voice for men in #metoo

Today, we talk with Ros Thomas.   Ros is a Perth-based author and former journalist of 25 years who has written a long-running weekend column for The West Australian Newspaper.   Together with Dr Jo and Melissa, Ros will talk about the inspiration of her very 1st novella 'How to Shame the Devil', what moved her to start writing ~ again ~ and to remind us all that 'it's never too late to become who we want to be or to start again'.   Themes of the book relate to sexual consent, and the #metoo movement in the context of yesteryear vs the 2021… the aging process and life reflections from the viewpoint of a nursing home…   Are you wondering how this book relates to men? Just click the button below to know and start listening!     To check out Ros's book and buy your copy, feel free to visit here: https://www.nightparrotpress.com/product/how-to-shame-the-devil/?moderation-hash=c719b3e95e0405f977270fcd96dcfc89%23comment-11448&unapproved=11448   ---------- If you feel The Penis Project is valuable to you then, please review and subscribe as this will ensure more people get to hear what we have to say. ---------- Websites: https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Men’s health only https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders http://www.menshealthphysiotherapy.com.au/ http://prost.com.au/   Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett YouTube: Melissa Hadley Barrett Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   Music David Mercy https://open.spotify.com/artist/1HbvnltKu4XbWTmk0kpVB9?si=D1xP5dDVQK-zzNU3rViRWg   Producer Thomas Evans: The SOTA Process https://www.instagram.com/thesotaprocess/ https://open.spotify.com/show/4Jf2IYXRlgfsiqNARsY8fi

12 Jan 202254min

67. Foreskin Restoration following Circumcision with “Tim’’

67. Foreskin Restoration following Circumcision with “Tim’’

Our first episode of the new year will be about restoration - foreskin restoration. For this topic, we talk with Tim. Tim will talk about his experience, the reason why he reached out to us, and few 101s about foreskin restoration, namely; devices, groups, and orgs. Plus a few more interesting topics you'll surely enjoy! Few resources for you: hhttps://15square.org.uk/   ---------- If you feel The Penis Project is valuable to you then, please review and subscribe as this will ensure more people get to hear what we have to say. ---------- Websites: https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Men’s health only https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders http://www.menshealthphysiotherapy.com.au/ http://prost.com.au/   Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett YouTube: Melissa Hadley Barrett Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   Music David Mercy https://open.spotify.com/artist/1HbvnltKu4XbWTmk0kpVB9?si=D1xP5dDVQK-zzNU3rViRWg   Producer Thomas Evans: The SOTA Process https://www.instagram.com/thesotaprocess/ https://open.spotify.com/show/4Jf2IYXRlgfsiqNARsY8fi

7 Jan 202247min

66. Ball pain, vasectomy, fertility and more with “Dr Trenton Barrett”

66. Ball pain, vasectomy, fertility and more with “Dr Trenton Barrett”

And botox in your penis and bladder?   Today, we talk with Dr. Trenton Barrett. Dr. Barrett is a urologist, with specialty on male genito-urinary complaints as well as sexual health. And his subspecialty interest is in female urology, andrology, and male infertility. Dr Barrett talks about Azoospermia, which is a medical term used when there are no sperm in the ejaculate, as well as its causes, what can be done for this type of cases, procedures, and more. He also talks about Oligospermia, which is a term for low sperm count and how it's different from Azoospermia. Dr Barrett also answers the question of whether procedures relating to the scrotum/testes (ie vasectomy) can cause erectile dysfunction or not, and whether varicoceles are the possible reason for pain during sex/orgasm (for those experiencing it). He also brushes upon testicle pains, diagnosis, and its possible treatments (ie botox). Yes, you heard it right, botox can also be injected to the bladder (has been done since the 80's) for overactive bladders! Further, Dr Barrett and Melissa discuss vasectomies (and even reversals), what's true and what’s not. Spoiler alert - there shouldn't be a crippling pain. A few more topics discussed are penile implants and injections. This is a fully-loaded episode with tons of golden nuggets that not only talk about the penis but also the bells around! Have a listen as we believe you will enjoy and learn a lot about these topics!   ---------- If you feel The Penis Project is valuable to you then, please review and subscribe as this will ensure more people get to hear what we have to say. ---------- Websites: https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Men’s health only https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders http://www.menshealthphysiotherapy.com.au/ http://prost.com.au/   Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett YouTube: Melissa Hadley Barrett Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   Music David Mercy https://open.spotify.com/artist/1HbvnltKu4XbWTmk0kpVB9?si=D1xP5dDVQK-zzNU3rViRWg   Producer Thomas Evans: The SOTA Process https://www.instagram.com/thesotaprocess/ https://open.spotify.com/show/4Jf2IYXRlgfsiqNARsY8fi

21 Dec 202131min

65. From hard conversations to a Clear Mind: Meet “Craig Aird”

65. From hard conversations to a Clear Mind: Meet “Craig Aird”

Today's episode is something for everyone especially FIFO workers and their partners.   Meet Craig.   Craig will share his story of how at 16-years old, he was diagnosed with cancer and how this experience helped him be the person and coach that he is today. Together with his wife, they own Clear Mind Studio – a health space for everyone but in particular FIFO couples. Listen as he shares his inspiring story – he was diagnosed with cancer at 16 years old, saved his sperm for his future. He has radically changed his career path to help others drawing from his own experiences to do so.   Craig's wisdom is: Hard conversation, easy life Easy conversation, hard life We hope you enjoy this inspiring story.   Helpful links: https://www.clearmindstudio.com/ ---------- If you feel The Penis Project is valuable to you then, please review and subscribe as this will ensure more people get to hear what we have to say. ---------- Websites: https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Men’s health only https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders http://www.menshealthphysiotherapy.com.au/ http://prost.com.au/   Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett YouTube: Melissa Hadley Barrett Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   Music David Mercy https://open.spotify.com/artist/1HbvnltKu4XbWTmk0kpVB9?si=D1xP5dDVQK-zzNU3rViRWg   Producer Thomas Evans: The SOTA Process https://www.instagram.com/thesotaprocess/ https://open.spotify.com/show/4Jf2IYXRlgfsiqNARsY8fi

14 Dec 202147min

64. Meet “Russell” and his implant – for continence and a dripping penis. (Artificial Urinary Sphincter)

64. Meet “Russell” and his implant – for continence and a dripping penis. (Artificial Urinary Sphincter)

For today's episode, we have a celebrity podcaster – RSHCs’ very own Sharon Stephen. Our guest is Russell - who according to Melissa sounds like Elvis. Russell suffered incontinence( continuous leakage) after his radical prostatectomy - even after obedient adherence to pelvic floor exercises. After trying everything - Russell met Dr. Jessica. To know what caused Russell's incontinence and the solution that was provided, have a listen to the podcast!  --- ---------- If you feel The Penis Project is valuable to you then, please review and subscribe as this will ensure more people get to hear what we have to say. ---------- Websites: https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Men’s health only https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders http://www.menshealthphysiotherapy.com.au/ http://prost.com.au/   Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett YouTube: Melissa Hadley Barrett Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   Music David Mercy https://open.spotify.com/artist/1HbvnltKu4XbWTmk0kpVB9?si=D1xP5dDVQK-zzNU3rViRWg   Producer Thomas Evans: The SOTA Process https://www.instagram.com/thesotaprocess/ https://open.spotify.com/show/4Jf2IYXRlgfsiqNARsY8fi

7 Dec 20211h

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