The Five Buckets of Love: Building the Foundation for a Healthy Relationship Ep. 144

Do you find yourself constantly trying to earn love? Staying in relationships where you're always proving your worth? In this episode, we dive deep into one of the most painful beliefs that keeps us stuck in the wrong relationships: "I am not enough." This isn't about blaming your parents—it's about understanding how childhood experiences shaped your sense of self and how those early messages still run the show in your adult relationships. From conditional love to emotional invalidation, we'll explore the common patterns that create this deep-seated belief of unworthiness. But more importantly, you'll learn practical tools to break free from these patterns, including a deep dive into reparenting yourself and working with your nervous system when you're triggered. What You'll Learn Why "I'm not enough" shows up in almost every difficult breakup 6 common childhood patterns that create feelings of unworthiness The difference between emotional validation and healthy socialisation How your nervous system gets activated in relationships Practical reparenting techniques that actually work Why you can't think your way out of triggered states How to practice emotional abundance instead of scarcity Concrete homework to start shifting these patterns this week Book a free consultation: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation

14 Juli 16min

In this episode of Breakup to Blessing, we're diving into one of the most common (and haunting) post-breakup questions: "Will my ex come back?" If you've found yourself obsessing over their social media, reading into every detail, or feeling stuck in the in-between, this episode is for you. We explore: ✨ Why letting go is not the same as giving up ✨ The two roads you can take after a breakup — and how to know which one you're on ✨ How holding on keeps you stuck (and how to break that cycle) ✨ What actually helps people move on in a healthy, empowered way ✨ How choosing yourself creates momentum, confidence, and even attraction ✨ And why your worth has nothing to do with whether they come back or not This episode isn't just about whether they'll return — it's about who you become while you're waiting for the answer. Spoiler: that version of you? She's magnetic. And she's who you've been waiting for all along. 💬 If this episode resonates and you're ready to take the next step, book a 1:1 Breakthrough Session with me — 60 minutes dedicated to your healing, clarity, and next steps. → Book your session here Wanting to work with Sylvia? Book a Free 30minute consultation If you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to rate, review and share Breakup to Blessing — it helps the podcast reach more people who need it. — Follow & Connect: IG: @sylviasuwan Web: www.sylviasuwan.com

6 Juli 17min

In the final episode of my 3-part attachment series, we're diving into what secure attachment actually looks and feels like — and why, if you've experienced insecure relationships, it might feel unfamiliar or even "boring" at first. We explore the key traits of securely attached people — how they communicate, navigate intimacy, handle conflict, and show up in emotionally grounded ways. I also talk about how secure partners can feel confronting to those who are anxiously or avoidantly attached, and why calm, consistent love can feel like a red flag when your nervous system is used to chaos. Whether you're trying to understand secure love for the first time, or you're working on becoming more securely attached yourself, this episode will help you reflect on what real emotional safety looks like in relationships — and how you can begin to create it. In this episode, we cover: Why secure can feel "boring" to the anxious or avoidant The key behaviours and mindsets of securely attached people What secure communication really looks like (hint: no games, no chasing) How secure people respond to conflict, space, and vulnerability What it feels like to be in a relationship with someone secure How to move toward secure attachment — even if it's not your starting point Want more support? Breakthrough Sessions are open for just one more week! These free one-on-one calls are designed to help you get clear on where you are, what's keeping you stuck, and how to start moving forward with intention. Click here to book: https://calendly.com/sylvia_suwan/breakthrough-session Or send me a DM on Instagram with the word "breakthrough" and I'll send you the link https://instagram.com/sylviasuwan

29 Juni 14min

Are you constantly worried your partner might leave? Do you replay texts, second-guess your worth, or feel like you love harder than others? If so, this episode is for you. This week on Breakup to Blessing, we're diving deep into anxious attachment — what it looks like, where it comes from, and how it quietly shapes the way you connect with others. I unpack the core fears that drive anxious patterns, including the fear of abandonment, overthinking, people-pleasing, and the need for constant reassurance. I also explore: How anxious attachment develops from early relationship experiences The anxious/avoidant dynamic — and why it feels so magnetic yet painful What an anxious/anxious cycle can look like The subtle but powerful ways anxious attachment shows up in dating and long-term relationships And most importantly: how to start healing from the inside out I'm not giving you cookie-cutter advice — I'm sharing deeper, longer-lasting strategies to build emotional safety within yourself, stop over-functioning in relationships, and move toward secure, grounded love. Whether you're single, dating, or in a relationship — understanding your attachment style is one of the most transformational things you can do for yourself and your future connections. 💬 Book your free breakthrough session If you're ready to take the next step and want clarity, guidance, or support for the next 6 months of your personal growth or relationship journey, you can book a free one-hour breakthrough session with me by booking here, or just DM me the word "breakthrough" on Instagram https://instagram.com/sylviasuwan ✨ Don't forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode, and share this with someone who could use it.

22 Juni 24min

In this episode of Breakup to Blessing, we're diving deep into avoidant attachment—what it really looks like, where it comes from, and how it shows up in relationships. If you've ever experienced "the ick," felt overwhelmed by emotional closeness, or found yourself pushing people away without really knowing why, this one is for you. We explore: The connection between avoidant attachment and the "ick" Why avoidants may idealise partners early and then suddenly devalue them The push-pull cycle of anxious-avoidant relationships (and why it's so common) How avoidant/avoidant couples often mistake emotional distance for compatibility Practical steps you can take to move toward secure attachment and deeper intimacy Whether you're single, dating, or in a relationship, this episode offers self-reflection tools and healing strategies to support your journey toward healthier, more fulfilling connections. 📌 Mentioned Episode: [Episode 37 – What Attachment Style Are You?] (DM me "37" on Instagram @sylviasuwan if you want the direct link!) Episode 37: Listen on Apple Podcasts Listen on Spotify Book a free consultation: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation Emotional labeling practice How to plan vulnerability in conversations Challenging black-and-white thinking Micro-commitments that build emotional safety

15 Juni 23min

Have you ever found yourself stuck in the same relationship patterns, even when you know better? Or wondered why certain triggers in love feel so intense—like you're reliving something old? In this episode, I explore how unresolved past experiences—especially from childhood and previous relationships—can quietly shape the way we show up in love. From emotional triggers to attachment styles, I unpack the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways our past can get in the way of building safe, fulfilling connections. We'll talk about: The hidden patterns that often go unnoticed Why your nervous system reacts the way it does in relationships Common signs your past might be running the show How to begin breaking free from protective behaviours that no longer serve you This is a reflective, gentle, and honest conversation that invites you to look inward with compassion—not criticism. Whether you're single, dating, in a relationship, or navigating healing after a breakup, this episode offers insight and hope. 🗝 Key Takeaways: Our earliest relationships shape how we relate, connect, and protect ourselves Emotional triggers in relationships often point to old wounds—not just current problems People-pleasing, avoidance, or hyper-independence are often protective responses Healing is possible through awareness, self-compassion, and safer relationships 💬 Journal Prompts or Reflection Questions: What relationship patterns do I keep repeating? When do I feel most emotionally reactive in love—and what might that be connected to? What would it look like to show up as my authentic self in a relationship? Join Breakup to Blessing: https://sylviasuwan.com/program Book a free consultation: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation

8 Juni 19min

In this heartfelt episode, I explore one of the most powerful, yet often overlooked foundations of a meaningful life: emotional health. Whether you're navigating a breakup, parenting, building a business, or simply trying to stay grounded in a chaotic world — this episode is for you. I share my personal journey of learning (sometimes the hard way) that emotional health isn't just "nice to have" — it's everything. It's what determines the quality of your relationships, your capacity to grow, and your ability to truly enjoy life. We'll talk about: What emotional health really means Why it's the key to showing up as your best self How to start investing in your emotional wellbeing today What happens when we ignore our inner world Practical steps for building emotional resilience and inner peace If you're in a season of change, heartbreak, or simply feeling overwhelmed — this episode will speak directly to your soul. You'll walk away with insights and tools to start tending to the part of you that truly matters: your emotional self. Take a breath, slow down, and tune in. Your healing begins here. 📝 Mentioned in this episode: Start With Why by Simon Sinek The power of nervous system regulation Signs your emotional health needs attention Tools like therapy, journalling, meditation, boundaries & self-awareness 💛 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend or leave a review on Apple or Spotify — it helps more people find this work. Join Breakup to Blessing https://sylviasuwan.com/program Book a free consultation with Sylvia https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation

1 Juni 15min

What happens when the life you planned doesn't unfold the way you imagined? Maybe you're not where you thought you'd be by now. Maybe a breakup, job change, or unexpected twist has thrown your story off track. In this episode, we explore the pressure of sticking to life "scripts"—the timelines and plans we think we should follow—and what happens when reality doesn't match the plan. I share a personal story about how letting go of a rigid idea opened the door to something even better. You'll also hear why clinging to old plans can keep you stuck, and how making space for change can actually lead to more alignment, freedom, and joy. Whether you're grieving a path that didn't unfold or you're feeling stuck because your life looks different than you imagined, this episode is here to remind you that your worth isn't tied to a timeline—and that sometimes, the best stories come from the plot twists we never saw coming. In this episode, we cover: Why we cling to life plans—and how that can hold us back What to do when your path changes unexpectedly The importance of checking in with old dreams and seeing if they still fit A reframe for those moments when you feel like you're "behind" How the "wrong" turn can lead you exactly where you need to be If this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend, leave a review, or hit follow so you never miss a moment of Breakup to Blessing. Connect with me: Book a free consultation: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation

25 Maj 11min