We Choose Our Responses & They Define Our Lived Experience w/ Yale Director of Emotional Intelligence Marc Brackett

Matthew Pollard first wrote "The Introvert's Edge: How the Quiet and Shy Can Outsell Anyone," as it was his life story, an introvert who initially failed miserably at sales. He taught himself to succeed and he did so to a dramatic degree. But it wasn’t by becoming something he was not, but by leveraging his natural strengths. I was sent his second book that is coming out currently, "The Introvert’s Edge To Networking: Work The Room, Leverage Social Media, and Develop Powerful Connections." It caught my attention because I am an absolutely introvert, and I do not...like traditional “networking”. In this discussion you’ll hear why introverts don’t just have a chance to shine with sales and networking, but we actually have an edge, and not by becoming extroverts. I brought Matthew on because I think this is sorely needed information that will empower so, so many of you. And yes, extroverts will do well to listen to this episode. They will actually do well to do just that...listen. More. You can get the first chapter of The Introvert’s Edge To Networking at theintrovertsedge.com/networking Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

28 Dec 20201h 4min

Of course as the New Year is upon us we have many people making resolutions and thinking of goals, but this was a simple question to discern what is most on our hearts to make better in our life. As Tom Ziglar has shared, far more people relate to solving a problem rather than having a goal, which points to a reality of behavioral psychology, that we react and respond more readily to pain than desire. Hearing the variety of submissions I think will help raise your own awareness of what is most on your heart to make better in your life and open your eyes, ears, and heart to feelings you may not be fully cognizant of. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

23 Dec 20201h 4min

Jess Ekstrom is the renowned founder of Headbands of Hope and was my guest in episode 845 where we talked about the strategy of optimism. This is my habits show she began by citing coffee as her first priority habit of the day which will endear her to many of you as it did me! But then she hit on something very close to home for me, in saying she’s come to realize the value of seeking calm and clarity before she lets her day get rolling. She often wakes with anxiety and angst in the morning with so many thoughts swimming in her head and used to try and address it by doing things, but knows that doesn't calm her. So even unplugging for 10 minutes to focus on breathing, then making sense of her thoughts by writing them down because then they don't seem so scary. She shares how long she went with her goal to get to zero, cross everything off the to do list and be calm, but says, “I've never been at zero." I'll always be getting there, there's never an arrival. I think right there, so many of you will resonate as I did and will want to hear more from Jess. On the note of morning writing, I highly encourage you to visit brightpages.com, her new online, guided journal. Sign up and use code ZIGLAR and she’s giving us all a free month. Her book, Chasing The Bright Side - Embrace Optimism, Activate Your Purpose, and Write Your Own Story was the muse of our first show together and you can find it wherever you get books.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

21 Dec 202029min

I know a lot of you would love to have great counsel and personal guidance, for your businesses and business ideas, but time and money and who to trust is an issue. Again, I asked, “If you were given $10,000 to spend on business coaching, what are the top one to three issues you would want wise counsel on?” Tom Ziglar joined me to talk through your comments and it was really insightful to hear the areas people wanted help with most. We gave a good bit our guidance and resources and as business coaching is a key service Tom and Ziglar provide, we sourced that, but as you’ll soon hear, the main offering was to help you find the best solution, whether Ziglar provides it or not. Tom even gave out his email address! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

16 Dec 20201h 4min

“Optimism isn’t a mood, it’s a strategy,” quipped Jess Ekstrom in our talk. This is a very candid walk through an amazing amount of mistakes and corrections that led Jess to found the wildly successful company, Headbands of Hope. A favorite part of the discussion for me was Jess sharing how some of her earlier business endeavors were easier to embark on because she didn’t have the “wisdom” to think about it too much, and today as the successful and aware business woman she’s more prone to analyze and question too much, something I believe is a pitfall of aware and intelligent people. This show will massively bolster your confidence in trying things, and will, as the title says, give you a strategy of optimism as a primary methodology. Jess has recently launched an online, guided journal that I’m excited about, at brightpages.com. Sign up and use code ZIGLAR for a free month. Her book, “Chasing The Bright Side” is an inspiring romp through her story of ups and downs and purpose and success. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

14 Dec 20201h 8min

I listened to a clip from Zig Ziglar about how he works at his goals and it got me to thinking about where we do and don’t generally work at personal growth. We may set goals but do we really work on them daily, like a task? If I want to get faster on my mountain bike, I work out. I go on rides, short, long, slow, hard. I am consistent. I track my progress. Am I this diligent with my goals? With what I say is most important in my life? So I posted this question on Facebook, “If I snooped through your home, office, and car, what evidence would I find of you pursuing personal growth?” And honestly I had it in mind to wonder, is there enough evidence to convict you of? I just posted the question moments ago and I see Facebook notifications dinging my computer. I think it will be an interesting show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

9 Dec 20201h

95% of the time I ask an influencer what their most valued daily routine is, they answer with the morning. In this show my guest from episode 841, Jonathan Milligan, does the same. However he goes further than devotions and exercise to further safeguard his morning time for creative work, leaving the afternoon and lesser energy for creativity for admin work. Jonathan is the author of “Your Message Matters” which made for a powerful show. He shares the concept here of Maker Mornings and Manager Afternoons. As with any guidance there are of course exceptions. You may find yourself doing creative work late at night or other times, but by far and large we do find the brain is well prepped for creative thinking earlier in our days. Jonathan shares a lot of behind the scenes info on how he runs his growing business and keeps himself where he needs to be with healthy habits and routines. Find Jonathan and his incredible book, “Your Message Matters,” at yourmessagemattersbook.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

7 Dec 202027min

Do you know? I asked The Ziglar Audience and received over 400 comments. Real comments. And they fell into seven categories. To discuss it, Tom Ziglar and I brought in Ziglar’s Spiritual Director, Janie Seltzer. Janie is a very frequent personality on the Ziglar Facebook page which has over 5.5 million followers. Her Facebook lives are extremely popular as she brings true hope and inspiration to everyone. This is a timely show as our current culture is experiencing more fear, anxiety, and uncertainty than possibly ever in most of our lifetimes. I want to give a special call out to you creative minds out there. Those moved by beauty and lyrics and poetry. Janie Seltzer has a new book titled Even If - The Transforming Power of Perfect Love, and it’s far from your normal inspirational book. Take the profound counsel from Zig Ziglar and marry it with art and poetry and you find the messages flowing in from other perspectives of your brain. In this show you’ll hear some tremendous hope and inspiration from Janie, and you can connect with her more and get her book, Even If, at janieseltzer.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

2 Dec 20201h 1min