Yes, please...6 Dec 2022

34: The importance of imperfect pleasure and sex

Today Erika is debunking one of the reasons why a lot of women are not having amazing sensual and sexual experiences, solo or partnered: The strive for perfection in sexual encounters, even if it's unconscious. If you tend to be too harsh with yourself and/or if you are in a long-term relationship, this episode is for you.

Have you ever had the following thoughts? In order to have delicious sex and orgasms it all needs to be spontaneous and beautiful, the environment and mood must be ideal, there can't be any tension and you must get wet and horny immediately, If yes, that internal pressure on your body and pussy is blocking you from unparalleled sexual experiences and orgasms because it doesn't let you be fully present and get really intimate.

When you are in a long term relationship, it is not uncommon to leave the sexual experiences just for "when they happen." IF they happen, there are strict expectations around them, and many times the turn on comes AFTER, but it is hardly ever maintained as a constant state of mind. Intimacy is about connecting, not perfection.

Tune in and learn how to set the ground for consistency, maintain your turn on, and eventually unlock unparalleled sexual pleasure and orgasms.

"This need for it to be perfect and the conditions to be perfect, and the environment to be perfect. So, recogize this inside yourself and notice how that prevents you form intimacy. Intimacy with yourself, intumacy with a lover with a partner. And intimacy doesn't have to be perfect, intimacy is about connecting..." [06:09]

In this episode:

What is the big myth preventing you from experiencing sexual pleasure and orgasms.
What's the enemy of delightful sexual encounters in long-term relationships.
How to shift your mindset and "live" on the edge of having a fulfilling sexuality.

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