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LeVar Burton (@levarburton) is an award-winning actor famous for iconic roles from Kunta Kinte in Roots to Geordi La Forge on Star Trek: The Next Generation, and the host of long-running PBS series Reading Rainbow and the LeVar Burton Reads podcast. What We Discuss with LeVar Burton: How LeVar went from pursuing a vocation in the priesthood to acting in a miniseries that changed the national dialogue about slavery forever. What LeVar's Roots experience taught him about the power of television for education and engagement and how it paved the way for his involvement with Reading Rainbow. The questions LeVar asks parents who want their kids to read more. What it was like to act in Star Trek with the most expressive parts of his face covered and a head full of technobabble vocabulary. How LeVar avoided melting down in spite of international attention from an early age and what he's done to stay relevant over 40 years in show business. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/213 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Build Your Network with Travis Chappell is a podcast for aspiring professionals who want to grow their inner circle and sharpen their relationships. Listen here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

18 Juni 20191h 6min

Are you a germaphobe if it creeps you out when your spouse and in-laws don't wash their hands after using the bathroom, or is your disgust actually reasonable and justified? If getting divorced and burning down the house aren't options, we'll tell you how to live with unwashed loved ones on this Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/212. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Thanks to an accidental glance at their phone, you suspect one of your parents might be cheating on your other parent. What do you do now? You've noticed your significant other and in-laws don't wash their hands after using the bathroom. As a germaphobe, how do you reconcile love with the disgust you're feeling? Though your trustworthy significant other insists the condoms you found in their car were bought before you agreed to stop using them, it's bothering you. Should you let the issue go? How can you deal with the anxiety of starting your own business and accepting the risks and potential setbacks while giving it your all? How do you intentionally work your way toward connecting with super influential people like Reid Hoffman when you're just getting started in your networking efforts? Your stay-home spouse admitted recently that they are lonely. How do you foster friendships as an adult -- especially when you have infants to take care of? The VP of your company wants to advance you, yet worries you may be too young or inexperienced for a higher-up position. What can you do to convince them you're ready for the position? You have a somewhat manipulative boss who is taking a new job and wants to bring you along. Should you take this as an opportunity to continue your professional relationship, or is it just time to move on from his erratic reign? Life Pro Tip: If you can't decide between two items of clothing (like two different jackets), have someone take photos of you with them on (front and back), and then look at the photos. Recommendation of the Week: The Black Godfather A quick shoutout to Jodie! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD,... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

14 Juni 20191h 14min

Arthur Brooks (@arthurbrooks) is a social scientist, Washington Post columnist, president of the American Enterprise Institute, and author of Love Your Enemies: How Decent People Can Save America from the Culture of Contempt. What We Discuss with Arthur Brooks: Why happiness relies on being mindful of what you have right now instead of comparing yourself to others who have what you want. A disheartening statistic: One in six Americans has stopped talking to a family member or close friend entirely because of politics. How gratitude can be used as an anesthetic for contempt. Why a healthy society elevates authoritative leaders in search of cooperation for the greater good over coercive leaders who bully their way toward short-term results. Why we should commit not to be -- or interact with people who hide behind being -- anonymous on the Internet. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/211 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Build Your Network with Travis Chappell is a podcast for aspiring professionals who want to grow their inner circle and sharpen their relationships. Listen here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

13 Juni 20191h 31min

Howie Mandel (@howiemandel) is a comedian, actor, host of Deal or No Deal, judge on NBC’s America's Got Talent, and coauthor of Here's the Deal: Don't Touch Me. What We Discuss with Howie Mandel: Why Howie believes it's important for us to be open about our struggles no matter what they are. How being impulsive helped Howie understand the power of "now" and set him on his current career path. Why Howie believes more of us would be ahead and happier if we learned to live in the moment instead of fretting over consequences. What Richard Pryor taught Howie about honing an act and controlling an audience like a conductor -- not always going for laughs, but impact. The real secret to staying married for 40 years. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/210 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Happier with Gretchen Rubin is a lively, thought-provoking podcast in which the best-selling author and her cohost (and sister) Elizabeth Craft share practical, manageable advice about happiness and good habits. Lend it your ears here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

11 Juni 20191h 29min

You'd love for your teenager to listen to this show and learn some life advice by proxy instead of having to endure it in real time like you did, but it seems unlikely. Why are teenagers so stubbornly opposed to parental wisdom? We can't say for sure, but we do have some tricks for making them follow good advice against their own bratty proclivities. And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/209 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: When your main squeeze is giving you the turd degree for having one crappy day, perhaps something else stinks about your relationship. Should you dump them? Your professor drops your final grade if you don't bring a doctor's note for absences, but doesn't suffer consequences when they miss a class. Should you bring up this double standard? Your significant other failed classes early in school thanks to social anxiety, but has since improved. Is it dishonest to prop up a low GPA on a resume by specifying the higher GPA of their major? How do you impart what you've learned from this show to your teenager, who is unlikely to listen to the show directly? Is it worth cultivating one-sided friendship with people who seem only interested in talking about themselves and their problems? Life Pro Tip: It might seem common knowledge, but make proper backups of all your data — not once a year but at least once a month. Recommendations of the Week: Business of Being Born and Good Fortune A quick shoutout to Jackie Jones! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Find out what “Good Game” really means from a trio who's taken the sports business by storm: Rick Fox, Jace Hall,...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

7 Juni 20191h 2min

Reid Hoffman (@reidhoffman) is a cofounder of LinkedIn, investor at Greylock Partners, host of the podcast Masters of Scale, and coauthor of Blitzscaling: The Lightning-Fast Path to Building Massively Valuable Companies and The Start-Up of You: Adapt to the Future, Invest in Yourself, and Transform Your Career. This is part two of a two-part episode. Check out part one here! What We Discuss with Reid Hoffman: Why surviving a horrible childhood isn't a prerequisite for developing grit -- and what you can do to learn resilience. What it takes to gather the data points necessary for unpacking the secret subtext of indirect feedback. How we can steer into good crises to strengthen relationships and better our circumstances. What running Dungeons & Dragons and RuneQuest campaigns taught Reid about complex human motivations and the power of heroic collaboration. Aligning goals between employers and employees of any generation with Star Wars-inspired rotational, transformational, and foundational tours of duty. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/208 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! In the Big Questions podcast, Cal Fussman uncovers the heart, head, and soul of his guests in thoughtful, deep, and entertaining conversations. Give Big Questions a little bit of your time here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

6 Juni 201955min

Reid Hoffman (@reidhoffman) is a cofounder of LinkedIn, investor at Greylock Partners, host of the podcast Masters of Scale, and coauthor of Blitzscaling: The Lightning-Fast Path to Building Massively Valuable Companies. What We Discuss with Reid Hoffman: Why creating the best products and services on the market won't mean squat if you don't have the network to get the word out about them. Reid's flexible planning framework that adjusts navigation to suit the unexpected path rather than the imagined destination. How to know when you're informing your intuition with the best available data or just procrastinating to avoid making important decisions. Why "never give up" is terrible advice, and how to separate your winning instincts from your losing ideas. Why an honest partner is almost always your best source of ideas -- and a reminder of where the road paved with the best intentions usually leads. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/207 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Disgraceland is a true crime podcast about musicians getting away with murder. If you love true crime and you love music, get ready to love Disgraceland here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

4 Juni 20191h 1min

Getting a stalker to drop their obsession with you is seldom as simple as just telling them to go away -- if anything, that might just make the problem worse. So what can you do? In this Feedback Friday, we'll try to show you how to disappear from an unstoppable stalker without escalating an already bad situation. And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/206. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: How do you get a mentally ill stalker -- who seems to track you down no matter how many precautions you take -- to leave you alone for good? What should you do when your long-term significant other is an alcoholic in denial who regularly drinks themselves into becoming someone you don't like? You had a breakup because you couldn't commit to marriage after 2.5 years. You want to wait until you're 100 percent ready, but when will that happen? With Jordan in Silicon Valley and Jason in Los Angeles, how do we seamlessly make it sound like we're in the same room for Feedback Friday episodes? After multiple attempts to make it work with your Narcissistic Personality Disorder diagnosed ex, how do you truly move on and work on yourself? You've been mulling over the basics of starting a product-based business. What should you worry about now and what could be put off for later? While reaching out by text to dusty connections per our free Six-Minute Networking course, how do you know when it's time to make a graceful exit from the conversation? There's no doubt that finding a coach to help you through anything personal or professional can be valuable -- but how do you find the right coach? Life Pro Tip: Budget $20-50 for a "just because" gift each month to someone. Recommendation of the Week: BlacKkKlansman Quick shoutouts to John Raynaud and Gene DeFillippo! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

31 Maj 201949min