1226: James Kimmel, Jr. | No Even Scores in the Science of Revenge

Many people don't pursue their true creative, entrepreneurial, career interests because it feels too risky. Vadim and Sergei Revzin from The Mentors Podcast join us to talk about how you can intelligently evaluate that risk and confidently make progress on your plans armed with the best information available. And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/197. If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Have you told someone lately how much they mean to you? Don't wait too long to regret it -- tell them today. You're clinging to a marriage that seems, by all indications, on its way out. How do you overcome the feelings of isolation and loneliness? A recent windfall gives you the chance to take a sabbatical from work and get your health back on track. But how hard will it be to return to the workforce? Vadim and Sergei Revzin from The Mentors Podcast join us to talk about why many people don't take the risk to pursue their creative entrepreneurial interests -- and how you can get better at evaluating that risk. Your immediate boss attempts to stunt your rise in the company behind closed doors, but gives you rave reviews to your face. What's your best move here? Networking can be difficult for people with Asperger's Syndrome. How do you dig the well you need when you're not thirsty but you know you need water? You don't like sharing on social media, but you suspect there's no way around it if you want to successfully market the book you're publishing. Do you have options? What's the best way to turn down a job you've already accepted without tactlessly burning a bridge in the process? Learn how Jordan organizes his network by using Contactually. Recommendations of the Week: Chernobyl on HBO and Animals Rule Chernobyl Three Decades After Nuclear Disaster by John Wendle, National Geographic Quick shoutout to Christine from the nail spa! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

10 Maj 201959min

Moby (@thelittleidiot) is a musician, singer, songwriter, producer, animal rights activist, and author of Then It Fell Apart. What We Discuss with Moby: How Moby's illustrious heritage made it imperative for him to write his own memoirs instead of passing the job off to a ghostwriter. Why, in his early fifties, Moby has not one but two memoirs under his belt. What it was like to grow up as a latchkey kid, impoverished and on food stamps, in the wealthiest city in the United States. Why Moby "was so happy" during the time he lived in an abandoned factory on the crack-infested side of Stamford, Connecticut. How Moby felt at the realization that he was making more for an hour-long performance than his New York City executive grandfather had made in a year. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/196 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! The Art of Manliness Podcast is a show that aims to help men become better men; host Brett McKay explores how to live a life of both contemplation and action while having some fun along the way. Do yourself a favor and check out The Art of Manliness Podcast here!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

9 Maj 20191h 6min

Leon Logothetis (@thekindnessguy) is a global adventurer, motivational speaker and philanthropist, host of Netflix's The Kindness Diaries, and author of Go Be Kind: 28 1/2 Adventures Guaranteed to Make You Happier. What We Discuss with Leon Logothetis: How Leon went from broker to broke world traveler, completely reliant on the kindness of strangers to survive. Why people with the least to offer are often the most giving. How Leon finds what he has in common with strangers to make meaningful human connections. What Leon does to give back to those who help him in his travels. How Leon has overcome otherwise show-stopping hitches by keeping calm and carrying on. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/195 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Listen to Mind Pump Episode 987 to discover why the ketogenic diet might be making you fat. Find it here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

7 Maj 20191h 11min

Being a podcast host has its own set of dos and don'ts, but what does it take to be the best podcast guest in the west -- and east and all points in between? What will ensure that you're the podcast guest who gets invited back time and time again rather than thrown onto the booking agent's "do not call" pile? We've recruited our friend Bobbi Rebell of The Financial Grownup Podcast to give us the skinny. And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/194. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Is undergoing cosmetic surgery to correct a physical trait that makes you insecure 24/7 a worthwhile investment or submission to excessive vanity? As a manager, you love your company, salary, and benefits, but your passion isn't developing others to do their best. Without a college degree, what are your options? One parent died from being in a medicine-shunning cult, and the other has a history of being abusive toward you. Should the loss of one automatically mend your issues with the other? Is it reasonable to put your therapy visits on hold during a new job's six-month probationary period for better chance of retention? You're facing prison and losing your job for being pulled over with less than a fifth of a gram of weed in your car (even though you weren't under the influence). How can you find the motivation to move on? You left a part-time job you loved for a full-time job that pays more but doesn't enchant you in the same way. How do you know if you made the right decision? When you're a guest on someone's podcast, how do you ensure they love you and invite you back -- and maybe make you a regular? Our friend Bobbi Rebell of The Financial Grownup Podcast has answers! You're friendly and nice on the inside, but your face and body don't translate that message. How can you come across as less chilly when trying to network? You got a no-strings-attached monetary gift from a kind person in your wind ensemble to repair your instrument, and you have $50 left over. What's the protocol for gracefully returning it? Life Pro Tip: When your power goes out, pop your phone open and search for Wi-Fi in the area. If the list is empty or shorter than usual, then it's not just you that lost power. Another tip is to get a cheap UPS on Amazon to power your cable modem and Wi-Fi router. That way if the power does go out in your neighborhood, you can get online and figure out when the lights are going to come back on or just relax and watch some Netflix... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

3 Maj 20191h 3min

Mimi Ikonn is a serial entrepreneur best known for Luxy Hair and Intelligent Change, a YouTube influencer with 2.8+ million subscribers, and the author of The Bingo Theory: A Revolutionary Guide to Love, Life, and Relationships. What We Discuss with Mimi Ikonn: How Mimi and her husband Alex keep themselves and their relationship real and grounded under the daily scrutiny of millions of people. Why authentic audience engagement will always count more than any number of likes. The process of building an online business brick by brick. Why dramatically scaling up income often leads to depression. Mimi's QVCA formula: Quality, Value, Consistency, and Attraction. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/193 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! One's a comedian, one's a radio/TV host. Together they bring you The SDR Show -- a no-apologies, not politically correct, not for the faint of heart show that somehow blends the classic energy of a morning radio show into the new era of digital entertainment. Listen to The SDR Show here or where your ears enjoy podcasts most! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

2 Maj 20191h 9min

Rick Hanson (@drrhanson) is a psychologist, Senior Fellow of the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley, co-host of The Being Well Podcast, author of Hardwiring Happiness, and co-author of Resilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength, and Happiness. What We Discuss with Rick Hanson: While you can't count on others or the world, you can count on your own strengths (and why this is a good thing). Why your brain is like velcro for the bad and teflon for the good and what you can do to mitigate your own negativity bias. The two stages by which you develop mental resources: experience and conversion to lasting change. How you can build resilience by focusing on experiences rather than conditions. How to stay informed about current events without letting the news hijack your emotions. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/192 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Stable, happy leaders are in a position to make better decisions and take smart risks. Entrepreneurs who aren't sure how to pay the rent...not so much. Hear all about it on The $100 MBA Episode 1229: How Paying Yourself First Puts Your Business First here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

30 Apr 20191h 11min

Outing a psycho ex who once violently assaulted you might seem like a mission of personal vindication that you'd like to feel is beneath you. But what if you've recently encountered them working in close proximity with people you care about? Is it your responsibility to out that psycho ex for the sake of public safety? If so, how do you do it safely? We'll discuss this and much more in this episode. And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/191. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Should you tell your uncle that one of his employees tried to strangle you seven years ago because the wife he was hiding found out about your fling? You want to be as open and honest as possible, but you often can't make sense of your own thoughts, let alone explain them to others. How can you better express yourself? Has Los Angeles turned your once-favorite sibling into a monster, or are there other factors at play dictating why you can't get along anymore during family visits? How can you learn to be more understanding and less stubborn? How do you deal with a friend who dominates conversations, lacks self-awareness, and is overly sensitive? Since you often have to travel for work, how do you negotiate with your boss on staying a few extra days for vacation? You make excellent money and live a lavish lifestyle, but your work is unfulfilling and most days are miserable. You can't take time off to “find” yourself, so what can you do? What's the right way to tell your religiously devout family that you are no longer a true believer and won't be getting married in a church? Life Pro Tip: Make a great impression at a brand new job by documenting the whole training process in detail — this is often invaluable to small companies and startups. Recommendation of the Week: Saudi Arabia Uncovered Quick shoutout to Mike Posner's Aide-de-camp, Cameron! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Sign...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

26 Apr 20191h 3min

Guy Kawasaki (@GuyKawasaki) is the chief evangelist of Canva, was once the chief evangelist for Apple, and is the author of many paperbound books -- his latest is Wise Guy: Lessons from a Life. What We Discuss with Guy Kawasaki: How to focus on using the success of others as fuel for motivation rather than poison for envy. How we can embrace the unknown when we're looking at new ideas for our business or career. Why Guy believes it's better to be lucky than smart. What we can and should -- and should not -- emulate from visionary leaders like Steve Jobs. What Guy means when he says the key to career success is to get high and to the right -- even though we're in California, it's not what you might think! And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/190 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Find out how 22-year-old Nick Santonastasso inspires Self-Made Man Mike Dillard by listening to his podcast here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

25 Apr 20191h 1min