346. How to avoid settling in your 20s

Often when we think about sex, we only think about the physical. We only think about the other person's enjoyment or what sex should  look like rather than what it could look like. Many of us have a very outdated understanding of what good, even great sex feels like and even less of an idea around how to achieve greater levels of pleasure and intimacy. In today's episode, we bring on the incredible Gina Gutierrez, co-founder of the audio erotica app, Dipsea to discuss how we can use story telling, fantasy, self exploration and mental imagery to have better sex in our 20s. We uncover the psychology behind why we love romance novels, how libido and desire changes (and improves) as we reach our 30s and some of the outdated, misconceptions about sex that we need to debunk. Listen now!    For 30 days of Dipsea for FREE follow this link: https://www.dipseastories.com/PSYCH20  Download Dipsea here: https://www.dipseastories.com/  Follow The Psychology of your 20s: https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/       See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

8 Dec 202350min

Confidence truly is the secret to a better life: better friendships, better self esteem, better dates, better romance, better career success. Today, we are joined by the iconic, Tiff Baira known best for her show "Street Hearts NYC", her role as a matchmaker and model, as we explore how having certainty in your worth is the key to your dream life.  We break down the equation for true, undeniable confidence, treating confidence as a skill you can strengthen and train, the truth behind "fake it till you make it", learning to reject those who aren't capable of seeing your value and the changes you will begin to notice in your life. Listen now!  Follow Tiff on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tiffbaira/?hl=en  Follow Tiff on Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tiffbaira?lang=en  Follow The Psychology of your 20s: https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/       See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

5 Dec 202340min

In 2021, Ellie Middelton received a diagnosis of ADHD and autism at the age of 23. It was one of the best things that happened to her. Today, she joins us to discuss why neurodivergence is typically overlooked in women, the misconceptions we have about ADHD and autism, unmasking and how to navigate a diagnosis later in life. She also discusses how to manage neurodivergence in our 20s, why self diagnosis is valid, and why the path people want you to take, may not always be the one for you. Listen now!  Follow Ellie here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemidds/?hl=en  Purchase Ellie's book, Unmasked: https://www.amazon.com.au/Unmasked-Ultimate-Guide-Autism-Neurodivergence/dp/0241651980  Follow The Psychology of your 20s here: https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

1 Dec 202351min

Do you ever feel like you need to be perfect, that you are responsible for the emotions of others, you’re the organiser in the friendship group, highly self reliant, an overachiever, constantly being told your mature for your age? I would make a good guess that you are the eldest daughter.  In today's episode we break down the psychology behind 'eldest daughter syndrome' and how birth order and gender combines to create a certain personality profile and way of behaving and seeing the world. We explore ideas around:  Birth order theory Parentification  The mental load  Friendships between first borns and last borns Delayed teenage rebellion  Role modelling theory  Daughtering  We also share tips for healing and taking care of yourself as the eldest daughter, especially in our 20s. Listen now.  Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast  Follow me on Instagram: @jemmasbeg  For business enquiries: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com     See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

28 Nov 202342min

Living in sharehouses in our 20s are like their own weird, social experiment. We put together a group of people with different upbringings, personalities, lifestyles and standards under one roof and expect it to work out. Sometimes it does, other times it doesn't and we see social harmony break down. In today's episode we discuss:  The four styles of roommates The Cinderella Roommate  The psychology of freeloading  The influence of personality Living with friends  The role of communication  Conflict, stonewalling and the silent treatment  When its time to move out!  Listen now as we break down the psychology of roommates and sharehouses. And don't forget to share your horror roommate stories!    Follow us on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast  Follow me on Instagram: @jemmasbeg For business enquiries: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

23 Nov 202342min

Attractiveness and beauty is something we all inevitably find ourselves considering. We question whether we would be happier if we lost weight, would find love if our skin was better, would be more successful if we looked more like her or him. Our obsession with beauty is psychological and deeply rooted in our biology and evolution as a species. In today's episode we break down the existence of pretty privilege and beauty standards in our 20s and how they are impacting our mental wellbeing, sense of self worth and even our financial decisions. Listen now!    Follow us on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast  Follow me on Instagram: @jemmasbeg  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

21 Nov 202338min

In our 20s there are four things we worry about more than anything else: love, money, the future, and our friendships. As we grow and change, the relationships around us will also naturally change and we may begin to notice how we are seeing our friends less and less, watching certain friendships fizzle out or completely outgrowing each other. It's not the same as it once was. This can cause a lot of panic. But underneath the fear of our changing friendships is a more primal fear of being alone.  In today's episode we break down the psychology behind our evolving friendships, the four types of friendship breakup, and how to adapt to these new kinds of relationship in our 20s, alongside the biggest friendship misconceptions that keep us in unfulfilling situations. All of that and more. Listen now!    Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/  For business enquiries: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com     See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

17 Nov 202343min

Have you ever had the experience of leaving a conversation and feeling like something you said was off, you sounded weird, you were awkward, worrying about what this person may think of you? This experience is much more common than we think and in today’s episode we break down the psychology behind why we replay conversations, exploring: Rumination The illusion of control Social approval Hypervigilance Rejection sensitivity dysphoria Social anxiety, and more We often place the perceptions and opinions of others on a pedestal and try to closely manage their judgements of us, but that may not always be helpful. We also explore ways you can break out of the thought spiral and regain control. Listen now!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

14 Nov 202330min