Are Your Desires Really Yours? How to Recognize and Reclaim What You Truly Want with Luke Burgis

Are Your Desires Really Yours? How to Recognize and Reclaim What You Truly Want with Luke Burgis

In this episode, Luke Burgis explores the question, “Are your desires really yours?” and how to recognize and reclaim what you truly want. He discusses how to tell the difference between “thin desires (fleeting, imitated wants) and “thick desires” (the deeper longings that bring lasting fulfillment), and why discerning between the two can change the direction of your life. Luke also shares practices for uncovering your true hierarchy of values, creating alignment between what you want and who you want to be. Explore how to pivot from “I don’t want to” to “I do want to, I just dono’t feel like it” and how to feed the desires that lead to meaning instead of comparison or regret.

Exciting News!!!

Coming in March, 2026, my new book, How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!

Key Takeaways:

  • Exploration of the concept of mimetic desire and its origins in the work of René Girard.
  • Discussion on how desires are often imitative and influenced by others rather than being inherently personal.
  • The importance of discerning between beneficial and harmful desires in one’s life.
  • The parable of the two wolves as a metaphor for the internal conflict between positive and negative desires.
  • Differentiation between “thin desires” (fleeting and influenced by external factors) and “thick desires” (deeply rooted in personal values and identity).
  • The role of self-reflection and narrative in understanding one’s desires and motivations.
  • The significance of establishing a hierarchy of values to guide decision-making and desire cultivation.
  • The impact of social interactions on shaping desires and the responsibility individuals have in influencing others.
  • The concept of “stalking your greatest desire” as a means to align personal desires with one’s life mission.
  • The importance of having a trusted partner for exploring and communicating desires, emphasizing the value of attentive listening.


For full show notes, click here!

Connect with the show:


If you enjoyed this conversation with Luke Burgis, check out these other episodes:

How to Find Zest in Life with Dr. John Kaag

Finding Zen in the Ordinary with Christopher Keevil

By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you!

This episode is sponsored by:

Persona Nutrition delivers science-backed, personalized vitamin packs that make daily wellness simple and convenient. In just minutes, you get a plan tailored to your health goals. No clutter, no guesswork. Just grab-and-go packs designed by experts. Go to PersonaNutrition.com/FEED today to take the free assessment and get your personalized daily vitamin packs for an exclusive offer — get 40% off your first order.

Grow Therapy – Whatever challenges you’re facing, Grow Therapy is here to help. Sessions average about $21 with insurance, and some pay as little as $0, depending on their plan. (Availability and coverage vary by state and insurance plans. Visit growtherapy.com/feed today!

Delivering the WOW; Check out Richard Fain’s new book, a behind-the-scenes look at how he transformed Royal Caribbean into a world-class company through culture, innovation, and intentional leadership. Available now on Amazon and wherever you get your books.

AGZ – Start taking your sleep seriously with AGZ. Head to drinkag1.com/feed to get a FREE Welcome Kit with the flavor of your choice that includes a 30 day supply of AGZ and a FREE frother.

Smalls – Smalls cat food is protein-packed recipes made with preservative-free ingredients you’d find in your fridge… and it’s delivered right to your door. For a limited time, get 60% off your first order, plus free shipping, when you head to Smalls.com/FEED! No more picking between random brands at the store. Smalls has the right food to satisfy any cat’s cravings.

LinkedIn: Post your job for free at linkedin.com/1youfeed. Terms and conditions apply.


See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Avsnitt(944)

The Power of Kindness:  Stories from the Best of Humanity with Lucia Knell & Gabe Reilich

The Power of Kindness: Stories from the Best of Humanity with Lucia Knell & Gabe Reilich

In this episode, Lucia Knell and Gabe Reilich discuss the power of kindness through stories of the best of humanity. They are on a mission to showcase the extraordinary impact of simple acts of kindness in the digital age and are dedicated to spreading positivity and compassion to capture the essence of human goodness. With their deep understanding of the digital landscape and its effects on mental well-being, they bring forth a refreshing perspective on the profound influence of heartwarming stories. Understand the impact of social media on mental health and how to navigate it effectively Discover the power of following positive news accounts on Instagram to boost your mental well-being. Learn how to improve mental health through mindfulness techniques and practical tips Hear inspiring stories of human kindness and the profound impact they can have on mental health and community support To learn more, click here!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

3 Sep 202453min

How to Build Resilience after Heartbreak with Florence Williams

How to Build Resilience after Heartbreak with Florence Williams

In this episode, Florence Williams explores how to build resilience after heartbreak. Through her in-depth conversations with leading neuroscientists, psychologists, and researchers, Florence delves into the physiological and emotional complexities of heartbreak, providing valuable insights into the profound impact on individuals. Her work explores the science behind emotional distress, highlighting the correlation between heartbreak and its effects on the body. With a focus on evidence-based findings and personal experience, she offers several practical strategies for building resilience and finding meaning in the face of adversity. In this episode, you will be able to: Discover effective strategies for coping with heartbreak and loneliness Explore the transformative power of nature for improving mental health Learn how to build resilience and find new beginnings after divorce or heartbreak Cultivate awe and beauty as powerful tools for healing and self-discovery Uncover the significant benefits of social connections on overall well-being To learn more, click here!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

30 Aug 202450min

How AI Can Elevate Spiritual Intelligence and Personal Well-Being with Deepak Chopra

How AI Can Elevate Spiritual Intelligence and Personal Well-Being with Deepak Chopra

In this episode, Deepak Chopra, a renowned figure in the fields of holistic health and spiritual wellness, discusses how AI can elevate spiritual intelligence and personal well-being His expertise in integrating Eastern philosophy with Western medicine has made him a leading voice in the dialogue surrounding the impact of AI on spiritual intelligence, suicide prevention, and mental health awareness. Through his insights and initiatives, Dr. Chopra continues to inspire holistic well-being and enhanced spiritual awareness among individuals seeking personal growth and fulfillment. In this episode, you will be able to: Discover how to unlock the power of Dharma in your life Explore the profound impact of AI on expanding your spiritual intelligence Learn effective strategies to address mental health challenges in young people Uncover powerful techniques for overcoming depression and reclaiming your joy Embrace the role of technology as a tool for enhancing your overall well-being Deepak Chopra is the founder of the Chopra Foundation, a non-profit entity for research on well-being and humanitarianism, and Chopra Global, a modern-day health company at the intersection of science and spirituality. He is a Clinical Professor of Family Medicine and Public Health at the University of California, San Diego and serves as a senior scientist with Gallup Organization. He is also an Honorary Fellow in Medicine at the Royal College of Physicians and Surgeons of Glasgow. He is the author of over 95 books translated into over forty-three languages, including numerous New York Times bestsellers. For the last thirty years, Chopra has been at the forefront of the meditation revolution, and in his latest book, is Digital Dharma. TIME magazine has described Dr. Chopra as “one of their top 100 most influential people.” To learn more, click here!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

27 Aug 202444min

Finding Courage in Life's Daily Struggles with Kelly Corrigan

Finding Courage in Life's Daily Struggles with Kelly Corrigan

In this special collaborative episode, Kelly Corrigan and Eric come together to discuss wide range of topics with an overarching theme of how to find courage in life's daily struggles. From Eric sharing his overcoming addiction story to Kelly sharing her overcoming cancer story, they explore the many challenges and uncertainties of life.  In this episode, you will be able to: Discover how to curate a social media feed that uplifts and inspires Explore the impact of technology on mental wellness and how to harness its benefits Learn effective strategies for breaking free from addiction and reclaiming control Embrace the power of intellectual humility to foster deeper connections and understanding Uncover the courage within ordinary moments and the transformative impact it can have To learn more, click here!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

23 Aug 20241h 6min

A Story of Friendship and Mental Illness with Jonathan Rosen

A Story of Friendship and Mental Illness with Jonathan Rosen

In this episode, Jonathan Rosen shares a deeply personal journey of friendship and mental illness, shedding light on his best friend, Michael’s battle with schizophrenia. Through his poignant storytelling, Jonathan delves into the challenges Michael faced, the complexities of the mental healthcare system, and the societal misconceptions surrounding mental illness. He captures the emotional turmoil and thought-provoking reflections on the cultural and personal dimensions of this devasting mental illness. In this episode, you will be able to: Discover the transformative power of a morning gratitude ritual and its impact on mental well-being Explore heartwarming friendship stories that shed light on navigating mental illness with support and understanding Gain insight into a personal journey with schizophrenia, understanding the challenges and triumphs Uncover the far-reaching impacts of deinstitutionalization on mental health and society as a whole Navigate the complex landscape of mental health legal dilemmas and the implications for individuals and communities To learn more, click here!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

20 Aug 202451min

How to Manage Our Internal Chatter with Ethan Kross

How to Manage Our Internal Chatter with Ethan Kross

In this episode, Ethan Kross explores various tools for how to manage our internal chatter and work with negative emotions. He brings a wealth of knowledge and insight, making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable for audiences seeking to navigate their internal dialogue more skillfully.  His practical strategies are sure to enhance your emotional well-being and improve mental resilience.  In this episode, you will be able to: Master the art of managing your emotions and thoughts effectively Discover the powerful benefits of distant self-talk for mental resilience Uncover the role of nature in reducing internal chatter and negative emotions Implement practical strategies for emotional regulation in everyday life Explore the impact of environmental cues on your mood and emotional well-being To learn more, click here! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

16 Aug 202450min

Brain Chemistry and The Science of Connection with Dr. Julie Holland

Brain Chemistry and The Science of Connection with Dr. Julie Holland

In this episode, Dr. Julie Holland discusses her latest book about brain chemistry and the science of connection. Eric and Julie explore the profound influence of technology and social media on mental and physical well-being. Dr. Holland offers practical strategies for restoring balance and fostering genuine connection in the digital age, drawing from her extensive experience and research. With a unique perspective as a psychiatrist and author, she provides valuable insights for those seeking to understand the impact of technology on mental health and the significance of authentic human connection. In this episode, you will be able to: Uncovering the healing potential of MDMA for PTSD therapy Exploring the transformative power of psychedelics in overcoming addiction Mastering effective strategies for nurturing and maintaining healthy relationships Understanding the profound impact of childhood experiences on adult well-being Harnessing the benefits of oxytocin for bonding and emotional healing To learn more, click here! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

13 Aug 202456min

How to See Yourself Through Darkness with Mariana Alessandri

How to See Yourself Through Darkness with Mariana Alessandri

In this episode, Mariana Alasandri shares how to see yourself through dark moods and learn to embrace difficult emotions without shame. Her journey of understanding emotional pain and the societal pressure to always be positive sheds light on the importance of addressing emotional pain without feeling broken. In this episode, you will be able to: Explore how society’s view of dark moods impacts our emotional well-being. Understand the impact of labeling moods as mental illnesses and how it affects our self-perception Discover the power of using metaphors to understand and express complex emotions Release the pressure to maintain a positive outlook and learn how to navigate it authentically Learn effective ways to address emotional pain without feeling broken or defeated To learn more, click here!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

9 Aug 20241h

Populärt inom Utbildning

rss-bara-en-till-om-missbruk-medberoende-2
historiepodden-se
det-skaver
alska-oss
harrisons-dramatiska-historia
sektledare
nu-blir-det-historia
allt-du-velat-veta
johannes-hansen-podcast
roda-vita-rosen
rss-sjalsligt-avkladd
rikatillsammans-om-privatekonomi-rikedom-i-livet
rss-max-tant-med-max-villman
not-fanny-anymore
i-vantan-pa-katastrofen
dumforklarat
handen-pa-hjartat
rss-pa-insidan-med-bjorn-rudman
sa-in-i-sjalen
nar-man-talar-om-trollen