Ethical Sluts & Radical Ecstasy: Desire, Consent, and Coming Into Power with Janet Hardy

Ethical Sluts & Radical Ecstasy: Desire, Consent, and Coming Into Power with Janet Hardy

What happens when surrender becomes sacred? When boundaries are not barriers—but bridges to deeper intimacy? Meet one of the most influential voices in modern kink culture. Janet Hardy is today’s guest. She’s the co-author of the revolutionary The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures and Radical Ecstasy: SM Journeys to Transcendence … to name just two of her books. She has a wealth of knowledge and experience.

Listeners of The Weekly Hot Spot podcast, sent in a lot of questions and inspired this intimate conversation.
Topics include:
The intersections of power, pain, love and liberation.
Myths and fears about ethical non-monogamy in kink spaces.
Details about the new Workbook for The Ethical Slut.

When Janet shares about how real change begins with honest self-inquiry, not permission from others, all three women talk about claiming their own personal erotic power.
What does it mean to really choose who you are in your relationships?
And, what is beyond tolerating a relationship. Hint: it’s not always easy or safe to open up to this view of love and pleasure. Janet talks about building emotional resilience when having these vulnerable conversations.

You’ll hear Mistress Olivia’s personal reflection on how Radical Ecstasy transformed her understanding of Dominance and submission — not as control, but as co-created surrender. “Pain is not the goal. Surrender is.” That one line shifted everything. Together, they explore how power exchange is one of the most intimate acts we’re capable of — a dance where trust becomes tangible, and vulnerability becomes strength.

We also tackle real listener questions:
  • A trans woman shares her experience of feeling Dominant with male partners and submissive with female ones — is this a known dynamic? Janet offers thoughtful insight into gendered power dynamics and erotic archetypes.
  • For the nervous beginner — especially the "vanilla wife" being asked to step into Dominance — what are the real fears women face? Spoiler: It’s not about lack of interest. It’s about responsibility, judgment, and the weight of expectation.
  • And then… the eternal debate: Who’s really in control — the Domme or the sub? Janet’s answer may surprise you. (Hint: It’s not a power struggle — it’s a paradox.)
Finally, for those walking the spiritual edge of kink, we explore how to distinguish emotional overwhelm from authentic spiritual surrender — because not every tear in a scene is transcendence. Some are signals. Learning the difference? That’s where true mastery begins.

This episode isn’t just for kinksters. It’s for anyone who’s ever loved deeply, feared openly, or longed to be seen. It’s about coming into power — not over others, but within yourself.

Janet Hardy Website

The Ethical Slut
Radical Ecstasy

Mistress Olivia’s blog: Experienced Mistress

olivia@enchantrixempire.com

Mistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasy

erika@enchantrixempire.com

DISCORD: LDWOlivia and LDWErika

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Being a sissy: what do you want to know?

Being a sissy: what do you want to know?

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23 Jan 202330min

Did you know you can use your foot fetish to seduce a woman?

Did you know you can use your foot fetish to seduce a woman?

Do you love pretty feet, sexy toes and luscious legs?Mistress Olivia and Ms Erika talk about how your foot fetish makes a woman feel really good!Ms Erika calls this episode Fun with Feet but it’s really anything below the waist. The ladies got really frisky planning this episode and decided to give a snippet of what a foot worship call so you can get a taste of the experience. (Yep, pun intended. I couldn’t help it. Sorry, not sorry.)Find out why Ms Erika calls stockings leg jewelry.Ms Olivia says a garter belt frames a beautiful ass like artwork.The ladies touch on stilettos, boots, bare feet and more.Psssst, this isn’t all that adorns sexy feet or legs – Ms Olivia points out that many a footjob leads to cum eating!

16 Jan 202318min

Do you eat your own cum? Fantasy vs reality

Do you eat your own cum? Fantasy vs reality

Mistress Hunter joins Ms Olivia and Ms Erika to talk about cum eating. Why is this naughty taboo so hot for so many men?For many, they only want to fantasize about eating their own cum. Others are upset when they want to do it but lose the desire once they have an orgasm.Ms Hunter says, there are three types of cum eatesr: those who want the fantasy only, those that will do it for their Mistress or a woman that enjoys it; and those that are just cum sluts for whatever reason.There’s a long conversation about the humiliation of a Dominant Woman making him eat his own cum. All three ladies agree that cum eating doesn’t have to be humiliating, it can be a really wonderful way to exert control over a submissive male. It can also be his way of entertaining his Mistress and hearing her laugh at some of the things he does to please his Mistress.Ms Olivia brings up putting a sissy in chastity to make sissy eat cum. The ladies all talk about some cum sluts in their lives and how much fun a sissy can be!Several listeners have questions the ladies answer. Does wanting to eat cum make me gay? If I eat my own cum, will I want to suck cock? What does it MEAN that I want to eat my own cum?Hear all the stories about favorite cum eating experiences in session and in their private lives.If you are a cum slut or a wannabe cum eater, this episode is for you!

9 Jan 202333min

Are You Ready to Expand Your Sexual Boundaries?

Are You Ready to Expand Your Sexual Boundaries?

It’s a New Year! Lots of people make resolutions so Mistress Olivia and Ms Erika decide to talk about expanding sexual boundaries.Ms Olivia has an announcement.The new website that has the transcripts of podcast episodes is finally up and she promises to get the backlog of episodes posted asap. Here’s the website: https://weeklyhotspot.com/Ms Erika points out that hard boundaries are always respected but there are some kinky activities that people are curious about but just haven’t done.Ms Olivia talks about people who listen to the podcast and say, “hey, I want to try that.”Since both ladies love research, they get to talking about some interesting poll numbers. Who watches porn while masturbating. What percentage of men use imagination while masturbating.This leads to a conversation about how Distance Domination and phone sex is different from porn. Hear Ms Erika’s reaction when Ms Olivia asks if she watches porn during her time away from the phones. The majority of people moan or breathe heavily during sex but some (1%) do something that makes the ladies crack up.Did you know that strapons were originally for impotent men in the 1950’s?Did you know that searches for lesbian scissoring is up more than 700%?The ladies have lots of weird sex and interesting insights. You never know what you’ll hear.Oh and Happy New Year!

2 Jan 202331min

Thank you for all the kinky conversations in 2022

Thank you for all the kinky conversations in 2022

As we close out the year, Mistress Olivia and Ms Erika say thank you to listeners.Ms Olivia brings up the growth of The Weekly Hot Spot podcast. Do you have a favorite episode? The ladies talk about the two top podcasts and speculate about why each topic is a favorite for our kinky conversations.Ms Erika talks about why it’s important to get our kink positive vibe out in the world. You know the ladies joke and laugh but we are also serious about being sex positive. Sex should be FUN. Since it’s the end of the year, Ms Olivia lists the top 10 episodes that include:Cock control, tease and denial, guided masturbationFeminization and sissy trainingCum eating and Cock suckingErotic humiliation and so much more.This leads to some sexy conversations about why we love each of those topics.You’ll also hear some ideas about podcasts for 2023.Enjoy and thank YOU for everything this year.

26 Dec 202228min

Turning Your Sissy Fantasies Into sissy training

Turning Your Sissy Fantasies Into sissy training

This episode is all about turning your sissy fantasies into sissy training. Mistress Erika talks about how to keep your sissy training going even when you have to do your feminization on the down low. Ms Olivia loves to combine sissy training and fantasy roleplay scenes. This works really well, especially with the coerced sissy who will do what Mistress says, or else! Ms Erika points out the erotic power of fear of exposure. That might also be part of a sissy humiliation scene.The ladies give details on some feminization training tasks:Wearing panties under male clothes.Using feminine grooming products like bath wash and lotion.Moving in a way that reminds you of your feminine side.Locking up that clitty with sissy chastity.Using cum eating to prepare sissy for cocksucking training.It’s not all raunchy talk. Mistress Olivia asks Ms Erika about the importance of choosing a sissy name that fits your type of sissy. Are you a bimbo or slut? Are you elegant or the girl next door sweet?Mistress Olivia mentions 2 places that do in person feminization.Both ladies talk about some specific sissy fantasies and give their special spin on those hot roleplay ideas.

19 Dec 202226min

Cock control: How to improve your libido.

Cock control: How to improve your libido.

We know holidays can be busy and stressful. Sometimes that means a loss of libido. In this kink podcast, Mistress Olivia and Ms Erika talk about how cock control can improve your libido.Some people can’t do a session, so we have JOI to the rescue.Ms Erika gives tips on finding some private time. There are also options for enjoying some discrete, naughty fun:Sexy texting sessionsEmail masturbation training programsPhone or skype if you do have solo time.Ms Olivia shares a cock edging assignment using bubble wrap - there’s an unexpected twist that will surprise you.Mistress Erika gives ball work instructions - testicular massage works wonders. It can increase your libido and make your erection nice and firm! Ms Erika explains how to do her “O” cock stroking technique.These Femdoms talk about how they design tease and denial sessions for those who love cock control.There are several more edging instructions:Stroking and using cum cubes or ice cubes to pace your delay.Using different hand positions to enhance your orgasm.Using cock exercises to increase your size and enduranceThe mindfuck of a ruined orgasmMasturbating with pantiesAnd moreThis is homework that you will thoroughly enjoy doing!

12 Dec 202227min

How do you celebrate your sexuality?

How do you celebrate your sexuality?

It’s Mistress Erika’s anniversary doing distance domination and phone sex. Ms Olivia asks about Ms Erika’s erotic journey. The ladies talk about how to:How to learn to celebrate your sexualityWhy it’s hard for some people to embrace what makes them feel good.What is “normal” sex and who decides what is outside the norm?Ms Erika’s plans to celebrate her anniversaryOf course, Ms Olivia takes listeners on excursion with a conversation about stripper music versus burlesque music.Both ladies talk about some of the behind the scenes activities. Why sex work is certainly fun, it is also a profession and they are highly skilled professionals.Oh and hear why Ms Erika ends the podcast licking her fingers.You know you want to know.

5 Dec 202229min

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