Ethical Sluts & Radical Ecstasy: Desire, Consent, and Coming Into Power with Janet Hardy

Are you curious about threesomes, foursomes and moresomes? This episode has tips on group sex, personal stories and lots of advice.Adult entertainment publicist and author Lainie Speiser joins us to talk about her book: Threesomes: For couples who want to know more.The Weekly Hot Spot podcast listeners sent in lots of questions. How often does a threesome “just happen”?How can you spot someone asking you to be in a threesome?Do you think you’ve ever missed an opportunity for group sex?Should you have a safe word, like in BDSM, for swingers encounters?What happens if you find yourself in a situation where you just aren’t into it and you want to lease?How to negotiate consent with group sex?Who gets to do what?Do men ever get performance anxiety when with two women?What about a couple who want to add another man or, even, a sissy?How to find a threesome if you want to be the third to a couple?How to talk to your partner about exploring non-traditional sex?Hear personal stories, solid advice and so much more.Link to books by Lainie Speiser (get all of them!)Twitter X and Insta:  @MissLainie    Mistress Olivia’s blog: Experienced Mistressolivia@enchantrixempire.comMistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasyerika@enchantrixempire.comDISCORD:  LDWOlivia and LDWErika

1 Sep 32min

Questions about blow jobs? We’ve got answers in this episode with adult entertainment publicist Lainie Speiser.  How do women feel about giving blow jobs?What do these three sexy women like most about giving a blow job?Do porn stars actually enjoy giving blow jobs or do they fake it for the camera?How do porn stars give great blow jobs?Using your hand along with your mouth for blow jobs.Tips for learning to deep throat a big cockHow to control your gag reflex.How to make sure your teeth don’t ruin the blow job.Find out who came up with the term deep throat.What is a fellatio fiesta?Learn about Michael and his blow bros.Find out how many loads of cum Michael the cum junkie has slurped up this year.Freezing cum loadsBDSM, kink and being submissiveDoes a Femdom give a blow job?Can a blow job be part of an elaborate mindfuck?Do porn shoots still use fluffers and how does someone get that job?Listener questions inspire this episode. You’ll learn some sex education, hear intimate behind the scenes stories and so much more!Link to books by Lainie Speiser (get all of them!)Twitter X and Insta:  @MissLainie    Mistress Olivia’s blog: Experienced Mistressolivia@enchantrixempire.comMistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasyerika@enchantrixempire.comDISCORD:  LDWOlivia and LDWErika

25 Aug 36min

Meet Davina: a straight male who likes to crossdress. What is the reaction of the wife? How does the feminine side coexist with the masculine side? Mistress Olivia reads parts of an email from a listener who describes herself as Davina, “I don't mean just someone who dabbles in panties or lingerie behind closed doors, I’ve developed a full feminine persona named Davina — she’s elegant, expressive, grounded, and very real to me.”Mistress Erika and Ms Olivia talk about feminization, crossdressing, gender presentation and gender identity including:Terms and labels used in gender exploration.What is the difference between a crossdresser and a trans woman?Why does wearing women’s lingerie unlock feminine emotions for many men?What is the reaction of the wife of a crossdresser?Does the wife assume crossdressing means her husband is gay or bisexual?Can a wife be jealous of her feminized husband?Who gets to decide gender norms?Mistress Olivia’s blog: Experienced Mistress   olivia@enchantrixempire.comMistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasy   erika@enchantrixempire.comDISCORD:  LDWOlivia and LDWErika

18 Aug 32min

A sissy asks if it’s normal for crossdressing urges to disappear after an orgasm. Short answer yes, but there are nuances, reasons and ideas around feminization urges and the cycles of desire to dress.Is crossdressing more of a fetish or kink thing?Why does someone who identifies as male wear women’s lingerie?How important is submission to a Dominant Woman?Is dressing en femme always about sex?Is feminization drop similar to subdrop for a submissive?Does the type of orgasm matter?Will learning to have a sissygasm instead of a traditional stroking orgasm mean that the feminization urges remain?What role does guilt and shame play in crossdressing cycles?How does the woman in charge or Mistress extend your sissy urges?Role of chastity in sissy training Orgasm denial as part of submission via feminization.Do crossdressing urges go away as people age?While the question about feminization, crossdressing and sissy urges inspired this podcast episode, many of the points also apply to other kinks and fetish play. DISCORD:  LDWOlivia and LDWErikaMistress Olivia’s blog:  Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s blog:  Intelligent Phone Fantasy

11 Aug 34min

Do you like chastity? We have some new ideas for you. Not sure if you want to explore chastity with a Femdom Mistress? Listen and find out why we love chastity.A listener inspired this episode with the following questions:What do women really think of male chastity and being a Keyholder?Are some men meant to be in chastity?What are your favorite chastity devices?Mistress Erika points out that there are different kinds of cages for different kinds of play:A tube style chastity cage that allows for partial erection.Smaller cages can be used for different levels of control.Using the nub for sissy training.Chastity cage with spikes and/or urethral sound so getting an erection is immediately painful.Why would someone want to be in chastity?Submission to the woman that is your keyholder.Freedom from the constant focus on erections and/or jerking off.Refocusing attention on what’s important.Using chastity for sissy training:Silicone cages come in colors including sissy pink!Smaller cages can cause shrinking which reinforces sissy focus.Orgasm denial keeps feminization and submission to Mistress as the sissy life.2 previous episodes mentioned in this podcast:Chastity Interview with William of Mature MetalAndHow do I get my vanilla wife to put me in chastity? Meet Mrs. Mature MetalJOIN the conversation!Our adult social networking site: Enchantrix EmpireDISCORD: LDWOlivia and LDWErikaMistress Olivia’s blog:  Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasy

4 Aug 38min

Sissy Pageant recap: Questions we love include: What are your greatest challenges of feminization? Role of your Femdom Mistress? Sissy play and your life. Many people answered that self-acceptance can be a challenge and that having a Mistress and a supportive community has made all the difference in the world.Other comments touch on:Motivation for consistent sissy training or being femmeFeminine style and who gets to decide how someone should lookBody hair while crossdressing or dressing en femmeMasculine and feminine sides co-existingHumiliation as part of sissy playSubmission to Mistress or Goddess as part of feminization training.Of course, you’ll hear personal stories, our comments on your quotes and even a couple festive trips on safari including:Ms Erika’s favorite body partMs Olivia’s offer of 5 free minutes on your Discord session if you do a specific something.Our free adult social networking site: Enchantrix EmpireMistress Olivia’s blog: Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasy

28 Juli 43min

Lainie Speiser is a legend in the adult industry. She’s worked with all the biggest porn stars and knows the industry from a unique point of view. Today, Lainie answers your questions:Do adult entertainers really enjoy what they do?Does sex ever become mundane for a porn star?Do porn stars worry about cock size or other performance issues?Penis size, porn and an unusual issue for huge cocks.Are any performers in gay porn actually straight?Are huge cum shots real?What do production companies use for fake cum?Is lesbian porn made to appeal to men who want to watch it?What do lesbian women like to watch?Does anyone make erotica for crossdressers or men who like wearing lingerie?Transwomen in the adult industry and why this niche is such a popular porn category.And, finally … a joking question about job benefits like health insurance leads to an interesting conversation about mental health and adult entertainers.Lainie has a wealth of knowledge, a great sense of humor and stories galore. We can’t wait until the next time we speak with her.Lainie Speiser:  Twitter X  @MissLainie  Lanie's books on Amazon, including Confessions of 100 of the Hottest Porn Stars.Mistress Olivia’s blog: Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone FantasyDiscord:LDWOliviaLDWErika

21 Juli 33min

Why does a man want to wear panties? There are a lot of misconceptions around this and it makes for a perfect opportunity for some BDSM or kink education. Topics include:How does panty wearing start? Why would a heterosexual cis man wear panties?Is it always about sex or kink?Can wearing women’s lingerie help a man be more comfortable with expressing his female side?Does wearing panties mean you’re gay, bi or trans?Why does a Femdom Mistress put a man in panties?Feminization or sissificationSending a submissive into subspaceUsing panties to create a certain scene like erotic humiliation or cock controlDoes a panty boi always want to be humiliated?Lots of personal stories, behind the scenes of online Mistress domination, and much more!Mistress Olivia’s blog:  Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s blog:  Intelligent Phone Fantasy

14 Juli 33min