Ethical Sluts & Radical Ecstasy: Desire, Consent, and Coming Into Power with Janet Hardy

Ethical Sluts & Radical Ecstasy: Desire, Consent, and Coming Into Power with Janet Hardy

What happens when surrender becomes sacred? When boundaries are not barriers—but bridges to deeper intimacy? Meet one of the most influential voices in modern kink culture. Janet Hardy is today’s guest. She’s the co-author of the revolutionary The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures and Radical Ecstasy: SM Journeys to Transcendence … to name just two of her books. She has a wealth of knowledge and experience.

Listeners of The Weekly Hot Spot podcast, sent in a lot of questions and inspired this intimate conversation.
Topics include:
The intersections of power, pain, love and liberation.
Myths and fears about ethical non-monogamy in kink spaces.
Details about the new Workbook for The Ethical Slut.

When Janet shares about how real change begins with honest self-inquiry, not permission from others, all three women talk about claiming their own personal erotic power.
What does it mean to really choose who you are in your relationships?
And, what is beyond tolerating a relationship. Hint: it’s not always easy or safe to open up to this view of love and pleasure. Janet talks about building emotional resilience when having these vulnerable conversations.

You’ll hear Mistress Olivia’s personal reflection on how Radical Ecstasy transformed her understanding of Dominance and submission — not as control, but as co-created surrender. “Pain is not the goal. Surrender is.” That one line shifted everything. Together, they explore how power exchange is one of the most intimate acts we’re capable of — a dance where trust becomes tangible, and vulnerability becomes strength.

We also tackle real listener questions:
  • A trans woman shares her experience of feeling Dominant with male partners and submissive with female ones — is this a known dynamic? Janet offers thoughtful insight into gendered power dynamics and erotic archetypes.
  • For the nervous beginner — especially the "vanilla wife" being asked to step into Dominance — what are the real fears women face? Spoiler: It’s not about lack of interest. It’s about responsibility, judgment, and the weight of expectation.
  • And then… the eternal debate: Who’s really in control — the Domme or the sub? Janet’s answer may surprise you. (Hint: It’s not a power struggle — it’s a paradox.)
Finally, for those walking the spiritual edge of kink, we explore how to distinguish emotional overwhelm from authentic spiritual surrender — because not every tear in a scene is transcendence. Some are signals. Learning the difference? That’s where true mastery begins.

This episode isn’t just for kinksters. It’s for anyone who’s ever loved deeply, feared openly, or longed to be seen. It’s about coming into power — not over others, but within yourself.

Janet Hardy Website

The Ethical Slut
Radical Ecstasy

Mistress Olivia’s blog: Experienced Mistress

olivia@enchantrixempire.com

Mistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasy

erika@enchantrixempire.com

DISCORD: LDWOlivia and LDWErika

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