Why Every Man Needs a “Why”: Loneliness, Leaving, and Becoming the Author of Your Life with Dr. Cody Young

In this raw, revealing conversation, we peel back the layers of what really drives intimacy between men and women—and why so many of us are still missing each other in the spaces that matter most.We talk aging, burnout, and what shifts in the “afternoon of life,” when your energy changes and wisdom starts asking you to do less, but do it deeper.This episode dives into the emotional architecture of masculine and feminine dynamics:how men and women move toward sex differently, why safety and trust are more than buzzwords, and what it takes to actually feel met in a relationship.🔥 Topics we explore:Why women often need emotional connection to access desire—and men often seek desire to feel emotional connection.The invisible weight men carry to protect, provide, and perform—and how it shapes intimacy.The quiet fear women hold around being dominated, overpowered, or unseen—and how safety transforms everything.How culture taught men to “get hard and go harder”—and why softness is the new strength.What women really crave in midlife—and how men can rise to meet that with presence, not pressure.How to create a space where nothing has to be hidden—because everything is welcome.This isn’t therapy. It’s truth-telling, tension-holding, and the kind of dialogue most people avoid. If you’re ready to understand your partner—and yourself—on a deeper level, this one’s for you.🔔 Stay Connected:Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/baruch_halevi/Join our Facebook community: https://www.facebook.com/TheDefiantSpirit#Enneagram #EnneagramType #EnneagramTest #Man #Men #DefiantSpirit #DrBaruchHaLevi #Communication #PersonalDevelopment #PersonalGrowth #SpiritualGrowth

1 Maj 44min

In this compelling episode of The Defiant Spirit, Dr. Baruch HaLevi dives into one of the most profound questions inspired by Viktor Frankl: "Why haven’t you killed yourself?" While the question is stark, its purpose is life-affirming—challenging us to uncover the deeper meaning that keeps us going.Dr. B shares personal insights, explores the power of purpose in overcoming adversity, and unveils his refined message of guiding individuals to articulate and live their unique "why." He also emphasizes the essential role of community, connection, and courage in choosing to thrive rather than merely survive.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:How discovering your "why" can transform your lifeWhy community and authentic relationships are key to resiliencePractical steps to uncover and live your true purposeTune in for a thought-provoking conversation that will challenge you to embrace The Defiant Spirit within and take control of your life's direction.==Join our Own Your Number Enneagram Program just for 98$, and well, own your relationships. Check out here: https://ownyournumber.defiantspirit.org/pages/home🔔 Stay Connected:Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/baruch_halevi/Join our Facebook community: https://www.facebook.com/TheDefiantSpirit#Enneagram #EnneagramType #EnneagramTest #Man #Men #DefiantSpirit #DrBaruchHaLevi #Communication #PersonalDevelopment #PersonalGrowth #SpiritualGrowth

18 Apr 42min

In this episode of Defiant Spirit, we dive deep into the Enneagram as a powerful tool for self-awareness and transformation. We explore how understanding your Enneagram type can help you break free from unconscious patterns and step into your fullest potential. This discussion highlights the intersection of psychology, spirituality, and personal growth, guiding you toward a more defiant, authentic, and awakened life.What You'll Learn in This Episode:How the Enneagram reveals your core motivations and challengesThe difference between living reactively versus responding with intentionPractical ways to use the Enneagram for personal and relational growthHow to harness your unique strengths and break free from limiting beliefsWhy self-awareness is the key to unlocking your defiant spiritKey Takeaways:"The Enneagram is not about putting you in a box—it’s about showing you the box you’re already in and how to get out.""When we become aware of our patterns, we reclaim our power to choose a different path.""Your greatest struggle is also the key to your deepest transformation."==Join our Own Your Number Enneagram Program just for 98$, and well, own your relationships. Check out here: https://ownyournumber.defiantspirit.org/pages/home🔔 Stay Connected:Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/baruch_halevi/Join our Facebook community: https://www.facebook.com/TheDefiantSpirit#Enneagram #EnneagramType #EnneagramTest #Man #Men #DefiantSpirit #DrBaruchHaLevi #Communication #PersonalDevelopment #PersonalGrowth #SpiritualGrowth

3 Apr 43min

In this powerful episode of The Defiant Spirit, we dive deep into the importance of male friendships, emotional support, and the need for authentic brotherhood. Joined by Yehuda, we explore the challenges men face in forming deep, meaningful connections and how structured peer groups can provide much-needed emotional and psychological support.We discuss the struggles many men experience—feeling isolated despite having social circles, the tendency to avoid vulnerable conversations, and the consequences of neglecting emotional well-being. From young men in college to those in their 50s navigating personal crises, we highlight the impact of having (or not having) a strong support network.Uda shares his experience in fostering community and brotherhood in Boulder, including the creation of My Brother’s Keeper, a peer group formed in honor of their late friend, Manny. We talk about the lessons learned from tragedy and how young men can proactively build spaces where real conversations happen, offering support before it’s too late.Additionally, we introduce Man Uprising, a peer group initiative aimed at helping men—both young and old—build authentic friendships grounded in shared values and emotional openness.Key Topics Discussed:The loneliness men experience despite having social groupsThe difference between surface-level friendships and true brotherhoodWhy many men struggle to share personal struggles, even with close friendsThe tragedy of isolation and how to prevent itThe creation of My Brother’s Keeper in memory of MannyThe power of structured peer groups in fostering emotional well-beingHow men of all ages can take action to build meaningful relationshipsNotable Quotes:“What do you talk about with your friends if you can’t share your struggles?”“Men need spaces where vulnerability is encouraged, not shamed.”“We are the sum of the people we surround ourselves with.”“Tragedy can either remain meaningless or be transformed into purpose.”If you’re interested in joining or starting a Man Uprising peer group, reach out! The movement is growing, and we want to help men everywhere cultivate real brotherhood and support. Contact us to learn more about how to get involved.==Join our Own Your Number Enneagram Program just for 98$, and well, own your relationships. Check out here: https://ownyournumber.defiantspirit.org/pages/home🔔 Stay Connected:Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/baruch_halevi/Join our Facebook community: https://www.facebook.com/TheDefiantSpirit#Enneagram #EnneagramType #EnneagramTest #Man #Men #DefiantSpirit #DrBaruchHaLevi #Communication #PersonalDevelopment #PersonalGrowth #SpiritualGrowth

20 Mars 33min

In this episode, we dive deep into the Enneagram and how understanding your type can help you navigate emotions, relationships, and personal growth. We explore the power of recognizing your core motivations, particularly through the lens of Type Eight (The Challenger) and Type One (The Reformer). By examining the role of anger and control, we uncover practical ways to harness these emotions rather than be controlled by them.Key Takeaways:Knowing Your Why: Understanding your deeper motivations helps you navigate challenges with clarity.The Iceberg Analogy: 90% of who we are lies beneath the surface, influencing our reactions in ways we may not realize.Anger as a Tool: Eights express anger outwardly, while Ones tend to repress it, but both can harness it for personal growth.Reaction vs. Response: By creating space between a trigger and reaction, we gain the power to choose our response.Persona vs. True Self: The Enneagram helps us differentiate between the masks we wear and our authentic selves.The Power of Awareness: Recognizing emotional patterns allows us to break free from automatic reactions.Notable Quotes:"If I know my why, I stop focusing on the surface.""Anger isn’t good or bad; it’s how we use it that matters.""Understanding our Enneagram type helps us step back and watch our reactions instead of being consumed by them.""The antidote to being stuck in your type is often written within the Enneagram itself."Practical Applications:Journal about moments when you felt triggered and analyze the deeper motivation behind your reaction.Identify a type that challenges you and try to understand their perspective using the Enneagram framework.When strong emotions arise, pause and ask yourself: Is this reaction serving me or limiting me?Experiment with "faking" traits of another type to break out of automatic responses.Resources Mentioned:The Enneagram as a tool for personal growth and self-awareness.The Jewish perspective on self-identity and the power of "I am."How historical figures like Martin Luther King Jr. and Gandhi harnessed their emotions for a greater purpose.Final Thoughts:Self-awareness is the first step toward transformation. The Enneagram provides a roadmap to better understand ourselves and others, allowing us to move from reactive patterns to intentional responses. Whether you’re an Eight, a One, or any other type, the journey to self-mastery starts with observing, understanding, and ultimately embracing the strengths and challenges of your personality.==Join our Own Your Number Enneagram Program just for 98$, and well, own your relationships. Check out here: https://ownyournumber.defiantspirit.org/pages/home🔔 Stay Connected:Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/baruch_halevi/Join our Facebook community: https://www.facebook.com/TheDefiantSpirit#Enneagram #EnneagramType #EnneagramTest #Man #Men #DefiantSpirit #DrBaruchHaLevi #Communication #PersonalDevelopment #PersonalGrowth #SpiritualGrowth

6 Mars 47min