Letting Go of Control: How to Stop Forcing Love and Start Trusting Ep. 147

In this episode, Sylvia delves deep into a common modern dilemma: the irresistible temptation to check up on our exes via social media. With the accessibility of today's technology, this seemingly innocuous habit has become prevalent. Sylvia explores the motives behind it, its impact on our well-being, and shares strategies to break free from this cycle. Episode Highlights: Emotional Connection through Digital Connectivity Sylvia uncovers the emotional pain of loss, leading individuals to seek any means of reconnecting, even if it intensifies their pain. Research draws parallels between post-breakup emotions and those experienced in addiction, shedding light on the power of this impulse. Curiosity and Seeking Closure Even years after a breakup, curiosity about our ex-partners' lives may linger. Sylvia emphasizes the importance of understanding our motives in seeking answers, emphasizing healthy closure. Yearning to be Irreplaceable Sylvia delves into the desire to leave an indelible mark on our exes, hoping they'll realize their mistake and return. She warns against falling into the comparison game, which often leads to seeking validation through social media. Winning the Breakup Game Sylvia addresses the desire to see who is "doing better" post-breakup. She cautions against placing too much value on this perceived sense of victory, highlighting its potentially destructive nature. The Quest for Closure and Unanswered Questions Sylvia acknowledges the common impulse to seek answers through social media, especially when closure feels elusive. She advises caution, as conclusions drawn from online interactions may lead to even more unanswered questions. The Impact of Ex-Stalking Research findings from Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking reveal the negative effects of maintaining digital ties or engaging in ex-partner "stalking." These include prolonged distress, heightened negative emotions, increased sexual desire, and longing for the ex-partner, all of which obstruct the healing and moving-on process. Resisting the Temptation Sylvia offers practical advice, emphasizing immediate awareness of how you'll feel after succumbing to the temptation. She encourages redirecting energy positively by engaging in enjoyable activities. Journaling for Emotional Processing Sylvia suggests using a journal as a tool for expressing feelings and emotions, focusing on the emotional aspect rather than dwelling on negative thoughts or hypothetical scenarios. The Breakup Survival Guide Listeners are invited to access a free guide with practical tips to navigate through the healing process. Details can be found at www.sylviasuwan.com. Conclusion: Sylvia reminds listeners that healing is not a linear process. She offers words of encouragement, emphasizing their strength and capability to overcome this challenging phase. Thank you for joining us in this exploration. We look forward to connecting with you in the next episode! Show Notes: Introduction Emotional Connection through Digital Connectivity Curiosity and Seeking Closure Yearning to be Irreplaceable Winning the Breakup Game The Quest for Closure and Unanswered Questions The Impact of Ex-Stalking Resisting the Temptation Journaling for Emotional Processing The Breakup Survival Guide Closing Thoughts Connect with Sylvia: Website: www.sylviasuwan.com Instagram: @breakup2blessing

26 Okt 202315min

In this episode, Sylvia addresses the most pressing questions women face when blindsided by a sudden breakup. She empathetically explores the turmoil of seeking closure when the person you trusted and loved deeply has hurt you. Sylvia offers valuable insights into understanding the situation, even if answers seem elusive, and highlights the value of self-growth in such challenging times. Episode Highlights: Why Did They Break Things Off? Sylvia emphasizes the importance of open communication in a relationship. She urges listeners to reflect on their own listening skills and encourages healthy dialogue as a key to understanding and avoiding blindsides. Was There Someone Else? Sylvia advises against assuming infidelity without valid evidence. She stresses the importance of using the breakup as an opportunity for self-growth rather than fixating on potentially baseless explanations. Did I Do Something Wrong? Sylvia advocates self-compassion, reassuring listeners that no one is perfect in a relationship. She encourages acknowledging one's best efforts and avoiding self-blame. Did They Even Really Care About Me? Sylvia provides perspective on abrupt breakups, emphasizing that they often stem from the discomfort of difficult conversations. She reminds listeners that the actions of others are not always a reflection of their worth. Is There a Chance We May Get Back Together? Sylvia urges against holding onto false hope, which can hinder the healing process. She highlights the importance of living independently and confidently, allowing space for personal growth. How Can I Possibly Move On When I Can't Stop Thinking About Them? Sylvia encourages starting small and taking one day at a time. She emphasizes the necessity of engaging in activities that bring joy and gradually shifting focus away from the ex-partner. Will I Ever Find Love Again? Sylvia emphasizes the importance of putting oneself out there to increase the chances of finding love. She advises against rushing the process and encourages enjoying the experience of meeting new people. Conclusion: Sylvia reminds listeners that they hold the power to shape their own future and find love again. She encourages self-compassion, open communication, and embracing the opportunity for self-growth following a breakup. Remember, the answers lie within you. Show Notes: Introduction Why Did They Break Things Off? Was There Someone Else? Did I Do Something Wrong? Did They Even Really Care About Me? Is There a Chance We May Get Back Together? How Can I Possibly Move On When I Can't Stop Thinking About Them? Will I Ever Find Love Again? Conclusion Connect with Sylvia: Website: www.sylviasuwan.com Instagram: @breakup2blessing

25 Okt 202318min

In this episode, Sylvia, a breakup and relationship therapist, shares her personal journey of transformation from a hectic business owner to a compassionate coach. She reveals how her own divorce became the catalyst for helping others navigate the often treacherous terrain of heartbreak. Episode Highlights: From Business Owner to Breakup Coach Sylvia reflects on her transition from a demanding business to her current role as a breakup and relationship coach. She emphasizes the importance of acknowledging personal growth during this period. Navigating a Painful Divorce Sylvia candidly discusses the challenges she faced in her marriage, acknowledging the profound impact it had on her life. She highlights the significance of recognizing when a relationship has run its course. Breakup as a Crossroads: Blessing or Curse? Sylvia shares a pivotal realization: a breakup can either be a transformative blessing or a prolonged curse. She emphasizes the power of choice and the importance of allowing oneself to heal. Inspiration from Jay Shetty Sylvia draws inspiration from an interview with Jay Shetty, who prompts individuals to envision their future and assess if it aligns with their aspirations. She applies this insight to the context of post-divorce life. Breaking Free from the Post-Divorce Rut Sylvia observes the lives of women who remain stuck in post-divorce turmoil and unhappiness. She underscores the importance of taking proactive steps to rebuild and rediscover fulfillment. Creating a New Narrative: Life After Divorce Sylvia provides a glimpse into her own journey of transformation, including selling her business, pursuing counseling qualifications, and establishing her thriving coaching practice. Healthy Co-Parenting and Respectful Relationships Sylvia highlights her amicable co-parenting relationship with her ex-husband, emphasizing the value of mutual respect and effective communication for the well-being of their children. The Journey of Inner Healing and Growth Sylvia acknowledges the challenges she faced in her pursuit of healing and personal growth, emphasizing the deep sense of pride and fulfillment she now experiences. Conclusion: Sylvia expresses her excitement for the upcoming episodes, where she will delve into a wide range of topics related to breakups, relationships, and personal development. She extends her support and guidance to listeners embarking on their own journeys of healing. Don't miss out on future episodes! Hit the subscribe button to stay updated. Thank you for joining us on this transformative journey. See you in the next episode! Connect with Sylvia: Website: www.sylviasuwan.com Instagram: @breakup2blessing

24 Okt 20236min

Real, unfiltered advice to help you heal after heartbreak and build a life even better than before. Welcome to Breakup to Blessing – a podcast created for anyone navigating the difficult and often isolating journey of a breakup. I know the pain firsthand. My own divorce became the unexpected turning point that reshaped my life. Along the way, I made plenty of mistakes, felt completely lost, and struggled to find advice that truly resonated. That experience inspired me to create this space for you. Here, you'll find: Honest conversations about the emotional process of healing. Fresh perspectives – including insights into what your ex may be experiencing. Unfiltered, practical advice to help you move forward. My mission is simple: to help you not just recover from your breakup, but to create an even better life than the one you left behind. It won't happen overnight, but it is possible – and I'm here to walk alongside you on that journey. Hit follow to start transforming your breakup into a blessing.

8 Okt 20231min