53. How to Enjoy Porn Ethically

Is porn harmful or beneficial?    With 30million people watching it every second and the average age of exposure being 11 years, porn in today's world has become a pervasive force we can't ignore.    On this episode, Sara and Jye are joined by sex-positive friends Taura Edgar and Ross Gawelek to discuss all things porn. We discuss our personal experiences of porn, from how we discovered it to how its evolved, and the resulting impact on our watching habits.    By sharing the different types of porn we're drawn to - from Bang Brothers to DIY to the ethical variety - we discover the world of porn represents a diversity of our sexual experiences and desires, which we don't have to be ashamed of.    We openly explore the pros and cons of porn, and are reminded that we can afford to be more mindful about what we watch and how we watch it.     --- Want to get even Better in Bed? Download the audio guide. Follow us on Instagram. Detailed show notes for this episode here.  Produced by Jye Smith (@jyesmith, jye@doublestar.co)

19 Nov 201857min

Think swinging is just for leathery, old couples swishing around keys in a bowl? Think again.    Or maybe swing again... and from that chandelier in the sex club!    On this episode, Sara and Jye explore another form of open relationship with married couple, Ben and Fern Bale, who open up about how swinging keeps their relationship fresh and exciting.    They also explain basic swinger terminology ("soft swap, anyone?") and protocol, debunk common swinger myths and as well as give newbies tips on out how to negotiate the highs and lows of swinging.   By being so open with each other and their loved ones about the nature of their relationship, Fern ended up getting her Dad interested in participating in the swinging scene himself!    --- Want to get even Better in Bed? Download the audio guide.  Follow us on Instagram. Detailed show notes for this episode here. Produced by Jye Smith (@jyesmith, jye@doublestar.co)

28 Aug 201856min

Why do we always want what we can't have? And want to do the things we shouldn't do?   Sara and Jye invite Jayde Lovell, the YouTube host of popular science show SciQ to shed some light from the fascinating world of neuroscience.    Jayde helps us understand how the brain is susceptible to the heightened risk and excitement of any forbidden sexual act - thanks dopamine and adrenaline!   We discuss how to overcome the shame around our sexual desires and erotic selves, given that what's "forbidden" constantly evolves with our social and cultural norms. Gay marriage, case in point!     Sara gives some coaching tips on using role play, fantasy and open conversations to "hijack" our brain chemistry and harness the energy of the "forbidden" as a positive force in our lives.    --- Want to get even Better in Bed? Download the audio guide. Follow us on Instagram. Detailed show notes for this episode here. Produced by Jye Smith (@jyesmith, jye@doublestar.co)

16 Juli 201854min

Fintech, edtech, healthtech... and now, what is sextech?    Sextech refers to any technology or tech-driven venture that enhances the human sexuality experience. Its the US$30 billion industry that you've never heard of... and no, its not just sex robots and VR porn.    On this episode, Sara and Jye's worlds collide as we talk all things sextech with Gavin Heaton of Disruptor's Handbook. Together with Bryony Cole, Gavin is also part of the team that hosts the Future of Sex global hackathon and accelerator series.   Gavin gives us his thoughts on the opportunities and challenges for sextech companies, and how they're changing the world. He explains why sextech is at the point where social media was years ago, and how its recent exponential growth has been driven by female founders.       We then talk about Asia's first sextech hackathon that took place in Singapore in May - what it is, how its structured, what the winning ideas were and how you can get involved!   --- Want to get even Better in Bed? Download the audio guide. Follow us on Instagram. Detailed show notes for this episode here  Produced by Jye Smith (@jyesmith, jye@doublestar.co)

17 Juni 20181h 7min

How well acquainted are you with ... tops, bottoms, otters, wolves, bears, cubs or twinks?    Sara and Jye take a lighthearted look at some of the most common terminology used in the gay world with their guest Tom Attenborough this episode.    Tom shares his views on the classic "nature vs nurture" debate, and questions if it really matters. We also discuss the biggest stereotypes about gay people, whether the "gaydar" actually exists, and how the gay scene in Hong Kong compares with the rest of the world.    We then debunk the biggest myths around gay sex, and discover why there's a lot more to gay sex than "one person bending over, and the other smashing it in"!     ---   Want to get even Better in Bed? Download the audio guide. Follow us on Instagram Detailed show notes for this episode here. Produced by Jye Smith (@doublestarco, jye@doublestar.co)

27 Maj 20181h 7min

Love it or hate it, we all have to play the dating game to stand a chance of finding love or even getting laid.    Sara and Jye discuss the triumphs and travails of dating in today's world with the very entertaining Elena Gabrielle. As a comedienne from touring dating show "Story Party" and host of sex-positive, underground variety show Dirrty Cabaret in Berlin, Elena has heard it all.     From stories of bad boys with ankle bracelets, to second cousins and anal speculums, Elena shares the good, bad, and truly filthy dating stories that she's picked up on tour.      We also talk about sex on the first date, "ghosting" and how online dating has changed the game. So stop swiping and start listening!    ---  Want to get even Better in Bed? Download the audio guide. Follow us on Instagram. Show notes for this episode here. Produced by Jye Smith (@jyesmith, jye@doublestar.co)

28 Feb 20181h 5min

There's lots to feel happy - or even "hysterical" - about on this episode, because its all about sex toys! Sara and Jye record their very first mobile podcast at Hong Kong's female-friendly, intimate lifestyle store Sally Coco, surrounded by all the wonderful things that vibrate, pulsate and oscillate. We follow the personal journey of founder Vera Lui, who talks about how a vibrator changed her life and led her to start Sally Coco. Discover the unlikely origins and evolution of sex toys, as well as what benefits they can bring to your sex life. We discuss what constitutes sex toy etiquette with a new partner, and Vera gives her special recommendations on how to choose a sex toy. So whether you're a nervous beginner, adventurous couple, busy mom or student on a budget, its time to get buzzing! --- Want to get even Better in Bed? Download the audio guide. Follow us on Instagram Show notes for this episode here Produced by Jye Smith (@doublestarco, http://doublestar.co)

12 Feb 20181h 7min

Need yet another reason this year to hit the gym? Well, tune in and drop it like a squat! On this episode, fitpreneur Mack Pijewski of MackFitt joins Jye and Sara in the studio to deconstruct the link between sex and fitness, and the discussion spans neurochemicals, nutrition, mobility and more. Find out if "coregasms" actually exist, why pelvic floor training is beneficial for both sexes, and whether sex has an impact on performance before a big sporting event.  --- Want to get even Better in Bed? Download the audio guide. Follow us on Instagram Show notes for this episode here Produced by Jye Smith (@doublestarco, doublestar.co)

29 Jan 201859min