Lori Gottlieb: Stop Mistaking Calm for Boring! (Follow THIS Simple Rule to Build REAL Love)
When was the last time you felt truly at ease with someone? Do you feel that kind of ease often, or was it rare? In this special live episode recorded at the DAR Constitution Hall in Washington, D.C., Jay sits down with bestselling author and therapist Lori Gottlieb to explore the hidden dynamics that shape our relationships. Together, they unpack why so many of us feel the need to “perform” for love and how fear of rejection, perfectionism, and old emotional patterns can quietly erode connection. Lori shares how true intimacy begins with acceptance, not just of our partners, but of ourselves, and why showing up authentically is the only way to feel genuinely seen. Through humor, warmth, and real audience interactions, Jay and Lori dive into topics like vulnerability, emotional safety, and the balance between “me time” and “we time.” They share how to stop trying to fix or control your partner, how to communicate without defensiveness, and how to build relationships rooted in curiosity and compassion instead of criticism. This conversation is a reminder that love isn’t about finding someone who reads your mind, it’s about learning each other’s language, embracing imperfections, and creating a safe space where both people can grow. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Stop Performing for Love How to Create Emotional Safety in a Relationship How to Let Your Partner Be Vulnerable How to Build Connection Through Acceptance How to Communicate Without Getting Defensive How to Balance “Me Time” and “We Time” How to Love Without Trying to Fix Love is not a performance, it’s a practice. It’s built in the quiet moments when we choose to listen instead of defend, to understand instead of control, and to show up even when it feels uncomfortable. Every relationship, whether romantic or otherwise, becomes stronger when we replace judgment with curiosity and fear with honesty. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:54 Earning Love Through Real Connection 03:16 Why You Should Speak Up Early 06:51 Creating a Safe Space for Vulnerability 11:20 Can You Love Someone Without Loving Yourself? 13:55 How Acceptance Strengthens Your Relationship 20:37 Compatibility vs. Chemistry: What Matters More? 25:07 Do Couples Need Individual Therapy Too? 28:05 A Live Couples Therapy Session 44:06 Communicate Clearly Not Through Assumptions 47:08 Healthy Ways to Approach Conflict 51:28 Understanding the Many Forms of Love 57:46 Are Both of Your Needs Being Met? 01:01:44 Learning to Embrace and Communicate Differences Episode Resources: Lori Gottlieb | YouTube Lori Gottlieb | Instagram Lori Gottlieb | Website Dear Therapists Podcast Maybe You Should Talk to SomeoneSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
29 Okt 1h 6min
Dr. Sara Szal: Stop Ignoring What Your Body’s Trying to Tell You! (THESE Are the Hormone Signals You Can’t Afford to Miss!
Have you ever felt totally off but couldn’t explain why? Did you ever figure out what was causing it? Today, Jay sits down with Dr. Sara Szal, a Harvard- and MIT-trained physician, researcher, and bestselling author, to dive into a topic that affects everyone but rarely gets the attention it deserves: hormones. Together, they break down what hormones really are, how stress and daily habits can throw them off balance, and why understanding these powerful chemical messengers can completely transform the way we think about health. Dr. Sara shares how simple changes, from better sleep and mindful eating to managing stress, can help reset your body’s natural rhythm in just a few days. This is a conversation that beautifully bridges science and self-awareness, revealing just how deeply our biology and emotions are connected. Jay and Dr. Sara also explore one of today’s most misunderstood topics: women’s health and birth control. Dr. Sara explains how the pill, though widely used, can disrupt hormone balance, increase inflammation, and even affect fertility, insights many women never hear about. She breaks down what’s really happening inside the body and offers practical ways to restore balance through nutrition, testing, and natural alternatives. Together, they also discuss how emotional stress and relationships deeply influence hormonal health, and why learning to understand and manage your body’s signals is one of the most empowering steps you can take for your well-being. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Balance Your Hormones Naturally How to Manage Stress and Lower Cortisol How to Reset Your Body in Just 3 Days How to Heal Fatigue by Listening to Your Body How to Transition Off Birth Control Safely How to Support Fertility and Hormone Health How to Regulate Before You React When you slow down, nourish yourself, and make small, consistent changes, you create space for balance to return. Health isn’t about perfection or control; it’s about awareness, alignment, and kindness toward yourself. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:28 What Exactly Are Hormones? 02:30 What Causes Hormonal Imbalance? 04:02 How to Measure Stress Hormones 05:11 When You’re Running on Cortisol 06:01 The Truth About Insulin Resistance 07:45 How Hormones Differ in Men and Women 10:21 Why Measuring the Right Hormones Matters 11:30 Simple Ways to Rebalance Your Hormones 14:19 Why Estrogen and Progesterone Decline 20:19 Why You Should Start with Cortisol 22:19 Four Powerful Ways to Reduce Stress 24:17 How to Turn Stress into Strength 25:58 Breaking Free from Chronic Stress 27:52 Everyday Habits to Lower Cortisol 30:08 Feeling Low on Energy But Can’t Explain Why? 35:09 How to Decompress and Recenter Yourself 39:00 Do Men or Women Heal Faster After a Divorce? 41:37 Creating Healthy Emotional Distance 43:06 The Power of Boundaries in Healing 46:35 People-Pleasing: A Hidden Stress Response 49:06 The Biggest Hormonal Shifts in Life 53:09 What You Need to Know About Andropause 54:09 The Evolution of Birth Control 56:24 Painful Periods Are Not Normal! 57:23 Lifestyle Fixes for Acne and Hormone Health 59:09 The Hidden Long-Term Effects of the Pill 01:01:56 How to Reverse the Pill’s Impact 01:03:47 Does Birth Control Affect Fertility? 01:05:33 The Complexity and Simplicity of Hormones 01:08:31 How to Take Ownership of Your Health 01:09:36 Is Natural Birth Control Effective? 01:11:27 How to Make IUD Insertion Less Painful 01:14:05 Getting Pregnant After Birth Control 01:16:31 What Science Says About Cycle Syncing 01:18:06 How to Safely Transition Off the Pill 01:20:41 Where Science Meets Spirituality 01:25:49 Sara on Final Five Episode Resources: Dr Sara Szal | Website Dr Sara Szal | Instagram Dr Sara Szal | YouTube Dr Sara Szal | LinkedInSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
27 Okt 1h 30min
Constantly Overthinking or Doubting Yourself? (Do THIS 5-Minute Reset to Break Your Negative Spiral!)
Do you ever get stuck in your thoughts? What do you usually overthink about? Today, Jay explores one of the most powerful, yet regularly overlooked, conversations we have every day: the one we have with ourselves. Too often, we become our own harshest critics, speaking to ourselves in ways we’d never speak to a friend. Jay reveals how self-criticism can disguise itself as control or accountability, when in truth, it’s a subtle form of self-sabotage that quietly erodes our confidence, creativity, and motivation. Jay reminds us that rest and reflection aren’t signs of weakness, they’re essential parts of real growth. He explains that progress is never a straight line, and that falling back, slowing down, or taking a break doesn’t mean you’ve failed, it simply means you’re human. His message is a gentle yet powerful invitation to stop tearing yourself down and start lifting yourself up, to trade shame for accountability, criticism for compassion, and restlessness for stillness. Through his words, Jay offers more than advice, he shares a roadmap for healing your relationship with yourself, embracing imperfection with grace, and finding peace in the quiet strength of self-acceptance. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Silence Your Inner Critic How to Talk to Yourself Like a Friend How to Rewire Your Brain for Positivity How to Rest Without Feeling Guilty How to Stop Letting Negativity Control You Healing begins the moment you choose kindness over criticism. Every mistake, setback, or pause is not the end of the journey, it’s part of becoming who you’re meant to be. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 01:02 Is Your inner Voice Blocking You? 02:16 #1: Self Criticism is Self Sabotage 06:32 #2: Negative Self Talk is Counterproductive 10:08 #3: Shaming Yourself Doesn't Build Accountability 13:28 #4: Your Brain is Wired to Focus on Mistakes 17:24 #5: Progress Isn't Linear 20:01 #6: Rest is Essential for Progress 22:35 #7: Self Kindness Builds ResilienceSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
24 Okt 28min
Jay’s Must-Listens: Marriage Isn’t About Finding “The One” (5 Truths Every Couple Needs to Hear Before Marriage!)
How do you know when you’re ready to commit? Do you think love alone is enough? Marriage isn’t a destination, it’s a daily practice. It’s the ongoing choice to show up, grow, and recommit to each other through every season of change. In this special compilation, Jay brings together powerful insights from Jada Pinkett Smith, relationship coach Sadia Khan, psychotherapist Lori Gottlieb, and his own reflections with Radhi. Together, they explore how lasting love isn’t built on fleeting chemistry, but on emotional resilience, self-awareness, and the courage to evolve, side by side. Jada shares how marriage can be a spiritual journey, where your partner reflects both your light and your flaws, guiding you toward unconditional love and deeper healing. Sadia reveals the often-overlooked truths about infidelity, self-control, and discipline, reminding us that love cannot thrive without trust. Lori highlights the power of honest communication, from setting boundaries with in-laws to having the tough conversations about money, marriage, and children before it’s too late. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Build Emotional Resilience in Marriage How to Heal and Grow Through Partnership How to Spot Signs of Emotional Distance How to Create Space for Emotional Openness How to Recommit as Your Partner Evolves Every relationship faces challenges, but those moments can become powerful opportunities for growth when met with compassion and openness. The true beauty of love lies in the willingness to listen, to learn, and to keep building something real, together. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty. Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:28 The Cornerstone of Family Life 03:58 When Divorce Feels Like the Only Option 08:44 The Power of Unconditional Love 14:14 Valuing How People Show Up 18:13 Every Marriage Looks Different 20:14 Rethinking Traditional Marriage 24:13 Do Women or Men Get Cheated on More? 26:19 Choosing a Man with Self-Control 27:59 Why Sexual Discipline Matters 29:45 Don’t Ignore These Red Flags! 32:35 Staying Attuned to Your Partner 34:28 Talk About Marriage Before the Proposal 37:43 Why a Baby Won’t Fix a Marriage 40:41 When Your Partner Doesn’t Stand Up for You 46:36 Building a Safe Space for ConnectionSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
22 Okt 53min
Quinlan Walther: Stop Chasing Love Just Because You’re Lonely! (Do THIS to Attract the RIGHT Relationship)
Have you ever stayed in a relationship just to avoid being alone? Did staying make you feel better or worse over time? Today, Jay sits down with writer and relationship coach Quinlan Walther to explore what it truly means to build healthy, lasting relationships. Quinlan, known for her viral reflections on love and self-trust, explains the difference between wanting a relationship and being ready for one. She compares it to grocery shopping when you’re hungry, a reminder that desperation often drives us to make poor emotional choices. Together, they explore how self-awareness, emotional safety, and self-trust form the foundation for a genuine connection. Quinlan introduces her “Four C’s of Self-Trust”: curiosity, capacity, compassion, and commitment, a framework for strengthening one’s relationship with the self before seeking partnership. Jay and Quinlan confront the hard truths about modern love, how expectations, attachment wounds, and emotional burnout often distort our perception of what love should feel like. They explore the difference between chemistry and compatibility, reminding listeners that while excitement can spark a connection, it’s shared values and emotional maturity that sustain it. Quinlan emphasizes that relationships are not meant to fill our emptiness but to reflect our growth. Through stories and practical wisdom, she explains how the healthiest relationships allow space for vulnerability, accountability, and change, rather than perfection. Jay reflects on his own marriage, highlighting how communication, patience, and self-reflection create emotional safety and deepen love over time. In his interview, you'll learn: How to Know If You’re Ready for Love How to Build Self-Trust Before Dating How to Create Emotional Safety in Relationships How to Tell Chemistry from Compatibility How to Set Boundaries Without Guilt How to Heal After a Breakup How to Stop Repeating Unhealthy Patterns How to Grow Together Without Losing Yourself Real connection isn’t about finding someone to fix or complete us, it’s about growing into the version of ourselves that can give and receive love freely. Every heartbreak, disappointment, and moment of self-reflection brings us closer to understanding that love begins within. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:24 Wanting vs. Being Ready for Love 04:07 The Four C’s of Self-Trust 06:41 Relationships Should Help You Grow 10:32 Building Stability and Emotional Safety 13:27 When Requests Become Unreasonable 15:15 Love Within Someone’s Capacity 17:57 Are You Exhausted From Dating? 22:05 Does the Spark Really Matter? 23:28 When Attraction Misleads You 25:16 Compatibility vs. Chemistry 27:52 How Black-and-White Thinking Hurts Love 31:10 Is Love Alone Ever Enough? 32:43 What True Commitment Looks Like 36:39 Learning to Show Up for Yourself 39:35 Healing Family Wounds and Finding Peace 42:19 Breaking the Criticism–Withdrawal Cycle 49:31 Your Partner Reflects How You Love Yourself 51:14 Dating is Discernment, Marriage is Devotion 55:16 Real Change Takes Time 58:10 Why Every Relationship Needs Boundaries 59:47 How to Set Healthy Boundaries 01:01:21 Stop Compromising Your Own Boundaries 01:02:42 Are Soulmates Real? 01:05:01 What Should Love Feel Like? 01:08:59 Do You Want a Partner or a Spouse? 01:13:11 How to Move On After a Breakup 01:16:47 You Are Not Hard to Love 01:19:32 The Lessons Hidden in a Heartbreak 01:21:40 Quinlan on Final Five Episode Resources: Quinlan Walther | Website Quinlan Walther | Instagram Quinlan Walther | TikTok Quinlan Walther | YouTubeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
20 Okt 1h 28min
You’re Manifesting Wrong! Follow THIS 3-Step Alignment Formula That Actually Works (This is Life Changing!)
Do you believe in manifestation? What are you currently manifesting? Manifestation isn’t about magic, shortcuts, or wishing something into existence, it’s about clarity, belief, and intentional action. In today’s episode, Jay unpacks the biggest myths around manifestation and explains why vision boards, affirmations, and journaling alone often leave us feeling stuck or unfulfilled. Instead, he shows us how to set clear goals, pair affirmations with real action, and create systems that actually move us forward. Through practical steps and powerful research, Jay reshapes our understanding of manifestation, not as wishful thinking, but as the alignment of our thoughts, words, and actions. He reveals why positivity without effort quickly falls flat, how struggle signals growth rather than failure, and why surrender can be an act of wisdom instead of passivity. Jay shows us how to actively create the life we imagine. Whether your pursuit is abundance, purpose, or simply the courage to take the next step, he reminds us that manifestation isn’t about waiting for the universe to deliver, it’s about showing up ready, prepared, and fully present for the opportunities ahead. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Set Clear Goals for Manifestation How to Pair Affirmations with Daily Action How to Break Big Dreams into Small Steps How to Turn Desire Into Direction How to Value Growth Over Outcome Growth is rarely smooth or instant, but it’s always possible when you stay committed to the process. Keep showing up with clarity, with consistency, and courage, because the life you dream of is created one intentional choice at a time. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:50 What is Manifestation? 01:52 Myth #1: Manifestation isn't Magic 05:42 Myth #2: Positive Thoughts Alone Attract Success 08:12 Myth #3: Writing it Down is Not Enough 11:11 Myth #4: The Universe Rewards Wanting 13:35 Myth #5: The Path Will Be Smooth If It's Meant to Be 16:14 Myth #6: Manifesting is Passive 20:07 Myth #7: Manifestation is About StuffSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
17 Okt 23min
Judd Apatow: Fear of Rejection Holding You Back? THIS Trick Will Silence the Inner Critic & Help You Feel Confident to Create
What does rejection feel like to you? What do you usually do to move past that feeling? Today, Jay sits down with legendary filmmaker and comedian Judd Apatow for a vulnerable and inspiring conversation on life, creativity, and resilience. Known for shaping modern comedy with films like The 40-Year-Old Virgin and Knocked Up, Judd opens up about the struggles behind the success, sharing how self-doubt, early failures, and rejection shaped him into the storyteller he is today. He reflects on the power of mentorship, the lessons he learned from icons like Gary Shandling, and why finding your voice often requires patience, humility, and a willingness to fail forward. Together, Jay and Judd explore how comedy can be both healing and revealing, born not just out of joy but often out of pain. Judd talks about the risks he took, the creative experiments that didn’t work, and how those “failures” became stepping stones toward lasting impact. He reveals how therapy, mindfulness, and even family dynamics have influenced his work, and why the most meaningful measure of success is not box office numbers, but whether your work truly connects with people. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Find Your Creative Voice How to Balance Ambition with Presence How to Use Mentorship to Grow How to Push Through Self-Doubt How to Create With Authenticity How to Learn From Rejection How to Protect Your Flow State The setbacks you face today can become the foundation of your greatest breakthroughs tomorrow. Stay patient with the process, stay true to yourself, and keep moving forward with faith that your story has meaning and impact waiting to unfold. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:09 What Made You Laugh Out Loud? 03:52 Raising Children Without Pressure 05:22 Never Limiting a Child’s Potential 08:09 The Most Memorable Interview 09:44 Discovering a Personal Path 10:27 From Fan to Friend 11:58 Running a Show Together 14:24 Growing with Creative Peers 15:58 Why Failure Leads to Success 18:00 The Power of Putting Yourself Out There 20:27 Why Success Takes Time 23:21 Creating Something Original 27:00 A Sliding Doors Moment 28:15 Realizing the Power of Choice 30:22 Becoming Part of Another’s Success 31:40 Confronting Creative Blocks 34:06 Inside a Storyteller’s Mind 35:34 Choosing to Be Part of the Solution 38:00 Taking Creative Risks 40:34 Silencing the Inner Critic 43:27 The Real Formula for Comedy 47:26 The Pitfalls of Mocking Others 48:41 The Promise and Peril of AI 51:39 Letting Go of a Problem-Seeking Mind 54:13 Projecting Childhood Trauma at Work 57:47 Separating Emotions from the Work 01:00:09 Choosing the Right Collaborators 01:02:58 Learning to Lighten Up 01:05:27 What Leads to True Success 01:07:30 The Most Impactful Self-Help Books 01:13:13 The Pain Behind Comedy 01:17:14 Defining True Happiness 01:22:33 Exploring an Ayahuasca Experience 01:24:18 The Secret to a Lasting Marriage 01:28:05 Lessons to Share with Children 01:30:07 Being Direct Yet Constructive 01:31:48 Finding Drama in Good People 01:34:07 Why Mentorship Matters 01:38:09 Judd on Final Five Episode Resources: Judd Apatow | Website Judd Apatow | Instagram Judd Apatow | Facebook Sicker in the Head: More Conversations About Life and Comedy Comedy Nerd: A Lifelong Obsession in Stories and PicturesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
15 Okt 1h 47min
MALALA: The Story The World Hasn’t Heard Until Now
Today, Jay sits down with Malala Yousafzai to uncover the woman behind the global symbol of courage and education. From the very start, Jay sets the tone with an intention rooted in empathy, to help people not just know Malala, but understand her. Together, they revisit her extraordinary journey, from growing up in Pakistan’s Swat Valley under Taliban rule to surviving an assassination attempt at fifteen. Malala shares what it was like to wake up in a hospital far from home, and how she slowly began to realize that the world had already decided who she was before she could decide for herself. As the conversation unfolds, Malala opens up about the emotional aftermath of her survival, the years spent trying to live up to the image of bravery the world created for her while quietly struggling with fear, trauma, and loneliness. She reflects on how therapy helped her begin to process the pain she had long suppressed, and how rediscovering humor, friendship, and love became essential parts of her healing. Malala also talks about her marriage, her insecurities after the attack, and the importance of learning to love herself before fully believing that someone else could. Her honesty reveals a side rarely seen, that even those who inspire millions still wrestle with doubt and self-acceptance. Malala and Jay explore what courage truly means, not as a public act of heroism, but as a quiet, daily choice to keep going. She reflects on her mission to ensure education for every girl, the ongoing fight for women’s rights in Afghanistan, and how real change begins with local voices and global solidarity. Through her words, Malala reminds us that strength and softness can coexist, that healing is never linear, and that every person has the power to turn pain into purpose. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Stay Brave When You’re Afraid How to Heal From Trauma With Time and Therapy How to Find Yourself Beyond What the World Expects How to Rebuild Confidence After Losing It How to Create Change Through Education How to Love Yourself After Feeling Unworthy How to Redefine Courage in Everyday Life How to Keep Hope Alive in Dark Times How to Be the Voice for Those Who Can’t Speak No matter what you’ve been through, your story isn’t over, it’s still being written every single day. Healing doesn’t happen all at once, and courage isn’t about never breaking down; it’s about finding the strength to rise again, even when you feel unsure. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 10:03 The Life Others Tried to Define for You 12:38 Winning the Nobel Peace Prize at 15 16:20 School as a Sanctuary for Children 21:00 When Education Becomes a Privilege 24:42 The Power of Having Someone Stand Up for You 25:45 Why Women Deserve Equal Opportunities to Thrive 27:52 Living Through the Violence of the Taliban 32:33 What Sparked the Activist Within 34:00 Choosing Courage Over Silence 37:25 Surviving the Taliban Attack 45:20 Fighting for Every Girl’s Right to Learn 48:45 When Trauma Returns Years Later 52:49 The Weight of Being a Symbol of Hope 55:45 Healing from Grief One Step at a Time 58:42 The Life-Changing Power of Therapy 01:03:36 Finding Real Friendship and Belonging 01:05:49 Becoming the Unexpected Relationship Guru 01:09:39 Learning to Love and Be Loved 01:20:50 Investing in the Future of Girls’ Education 01:23:39 Changing the Narrative for Equality 01:27:10 Empowering the Next Generation of Women 01:29:10 Thirteen Years After the Attack 01:31:50 The Heart of True Activism 01:34:30 Building Schools That Transform Lives 01:39:41 Malala on Final Five 01:49:45 Child Marriages Should Stop Episode Resources: Malala Yousafzai | Website Malala Yousafzai | Instagram Malala Yousafzai | Facebook Malala Yousafzai | TikTok Malala Yousafzai | YouTube Malala Yousafzai | XSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
13 Okt 1h 49min
