6 Lessons I Wish I Knew in My 20’s & 30’s (This Will INSTANTLY Give You Direction!)

Do you want to know the secret to know if your chemistry will last? Are you wondering why you can't move on from your ex? If you have questions about love and relationships, this episode is for you. Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is back. Esther is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Esther’s TED Talks have garnered more than 40 million views and her bestselling books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, are global phenomena. Esther is also the host of the hit podcast Where Should We Begin? which is available on Apple Podcasts. If you've ever wondered when a relationship is worth saving or why we grieve after a breakup, Esther has incredible insights to share that you can apply to your own relationship. Let's discover the power of accountability in relationships and how it can trigger positive change. We discuss the art of turning conflict into connection. Also, we uncover the negative effects of losing curiosity and how it impacts our connections. The conversation also fearlessly tackles the topics of betrayal, lack of trust, and the intersection of relationships, technology, and mental health. Get ready for a fascinating exploration of the narratives that shape our relationships, the dynamics between rationalists and romantics, and what truly makes a real relationship. In this interview, you’ll learn: How to turn conflicts into genuine connection Why relationships often fail How to save your correct relationship What to do after a breakup How to boost trust and confidence in a relationship It is truly a thought-provoking and heartfelt journey into the essence of human connection. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Thank you to Soho Works 10 Jay in Dumbo for hosting us for this episode. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:12 When is a Relationship Worth Saving? 03:51 Why Do We Grieve After a Breakup? 05:14 Accountability in Relationships Can Trigger Change 10:00 How to Turn Conflict Into Connection 14:10 People Try to Overcome Fear by Gaining Control 17:14 The Negative Effects of the Loss of Curiosity 22:09 Blaming the Other Doesn’t Solve Anything 27:21 How to Make Your Partner Feel Important 29:10 Other Mediums to Express What You’re Unable to Say 36:01 Do New Things Together 38:08 There are Lingering Feelings that Stays Even After Breakup 41:53 We All Fear Betrayal and Lack of Trust 43:35 How to Value and Protect Your Relationship 50:50 The Real Story Before and After Betrayal 55:33 The Intersection of Relationships, Technology, and Mental Health 01:01:50 The False Relationship Narrative that Failed us 01:04:22 The Rationalists and the Romantics 01:06:23 What Makes for a Real Relationship? 01:10:04 Diversifying Long-Term Relationships 01:15:55 Your Partner’s Opinion Matters 01:21:11 The Real Definition of Self Confidence 01:24:59 We Are Drawn to People We Don’t Want to Become 01:28:03 Where Should We Begin A Game of Stories with Esther Perel Episode Resources: Esther Perel | Website Esther Perel | Twitter Esther Perel | Instagram Esther Perel | YouTube Esther Perel | Facebook Esther Perel | Books Where Should We Begin? with Esther PerelSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

15 Jan 20241h 34min

How can you stay motivated in 2024? How can you stay on track when things get though? There is always a challenge, some resistance, or pressure to break your goals and lose motivation. Today, Jay will unpack why it’s become difficult to maintain motivation throughout the year. There are scientifically proven ways to boost your motivation and stay motivated. From investing on people and personalities that is linked to your goal and that can give you positive influence and the three people you need in your life when things get too tough to doing the things that you’ve been planning to do but haven’t got the time to complete, there are options and tips available for you to get that motivation back and stir your path to the right goals. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to stay focused on your goals How to effectively set goals How to bring back motivation How to do the things you’re set on doing There's a wealth of options and insights waiting for you to reclaim your motivation and steer your journey toward the right goals. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:22 There’s always a challenge to break your goal 02:59 Tip #1: The Four Stages of Cognitive Restructuring 07:52 Tip #2: Follow All The Right Accounts That Is Linked To Your Goal 10:26 Tip #3: Tick Off Anything That You’ve Completed In The Day 14:21 Tip #4: The Three People You Need In Your Life When You Lose Motivation 17:04 Tip #5: The Most Important Thing Is How You Feel After You Do Something 20:05 Tip #6: You Got Everything Done Except For The One Thing That You Needed To Do 22:10 Tip #7: Your Fitness And Wellness Is Based On The Quality Of Your Sleep 24:01 Tip #8: The 20-Minute Routine You Need To PracticeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

12 Jan 202427min

Do you want to learn how to strengthen your relationship over time? Do you want to have better communication and expectations with your partner? On this very special episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty sits down with the former First Lady of the country, Michelle Obama. During Michelle’s time as First Lady, Michelle launched several initiatives, including "Let's Move!" which aimed to combat childhood obesity, and "Reach Higher," promoting higher education. Her memoir "Becoming," released in 2018, became one of the best-selling books of that year and took the world by storm. Today we sit down to talk about her most recent book, “The Light We Carry.” In this raw conversation, Michelle opens up about her thoughts on marriage, fame, and public service. She talks about the toxicity of social media and technology that affects our mental health and how to be open to the changes and possibilities people bring with them. She also talks about how negative news and social updates are affecting our society and the community we are in. We also dive deep into relationships and why we put so much pressure on our marriage, how to choose the right person for you and make the relationship work even when it isn’t perfect, and how to practice constructive arguments with your partner. In this interview, you’ll learn: How to think freely and independently How to take care of your mental health How to become a supportive partner How deal with negativity How to become an effective leader How to make your marriage last Together we’ll learn how to find calm amid life's noise, give people the space to be seen and heard, and explore topics that resonate with the very fabric of our personal growth journey. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:18 What is the Best Part of Being You? 02:16 What’s Your Longest Friendship? 03:16 The Struggle of Leaving the People You Love Behind 06:36 Be Open to the Possibilities of People 11:36 What’s the Hardest Part of Being You? 14:23 When You Lose a Piece of Yourself 16:48 What Keeps You Up at Night? 19:00 Allow Your Brain to Rest from the Noise 24:26 Mindful Usage of Technology 26:48 We Consume More Negative News Daily 31:03 How Do You Sustain a Successful Relationship? 35:33 The Non-Negotiables in Any Relationship 37:08 You Are Responsible for Your Own Happiness 42:50 What is Your Fight Style? 48:42 Giving People Space to Be Seen and Heard 53:15 What Offends You the Most? 54:39 The Best Personal Growth Moments 59:59 Conclusion with Michelle Obama Episode Resources: Michelle Obama | Instagram Michelle Obama | Facebook. Michelle Obama | Books Obama Foundation The Light We Carry: Overcoming in Uncertain TimesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

8 Jan 20241h 7min

What do you want to change in 2024? What goal do you want to achieve this year? Happy New Year! Today, let’s focus on making your new year’s resolution into a reality. For many, there’s a lot they want to change, overcome, and succeed in but not everyone has the resolve to take action and actually make it happen. As we step into 2024, Jay guides us through four dynamic approaches: a year of learning, experimenting, performance, or thriving. No matter your choice, let's laser-focus on your top goals. Remember, even colossal goals can be conquered by breaking them down into manageable chunks. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to set better goals How to make your year productive How effectively achieve your goals Let's make 2024 a year of learning, experimenting, and finding success in life, love, and career! With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 03:10 What Type Of Year Is 2024 For You? 04:22 #1: What is 2024 For You? 05:10 A Year of Learning 08:02 A Year of Experimenting 09:58 A Year of Performance 10:48 A Year to Thrive 12:30 #2: A Year From Now, What Would You Want To Be True About You And Your Life? 15:57 #3 The 1-4-3-1 Method 20:18 Know That You Will Fall Off Your Plan 22:20 Be Compassionate to Yourself and to Others 27:00 Let’s Make 2024 the Year You’ve Been Waiting ForSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

5 Jan 202428min

Do you want to know the secret to living a long healthy life? Do you want to know what the healthiest people in the world drink everyday? Dan, a best-selling author and explorer, shares his extensive research and knowledge on the communities where people live the longest and healthiest lives. As the mind behind the acclaimed book, "The Blue Zones Secrets for Living Longer: Lessons from the Healthiest Places on Earth," and the visionary behind the Netflix docu-series, Dan Buettner brings a wealth of knowledge about how to live to 100+. This conversation explores the common threads that weave through these diverse group of people, unlocking the keys to a fulfilling and enduring life .From diet and daily habits to the profound sense of community, Dan Buettner offers profound insights into how these lessons from the Blue Zones can be applied to our own lives. Tune in for a thought-provoking conversation that bridges ancient traditions with modern living, and learn how you can integrate the Blue Zones' transformative lessons into your own pursuit of a healthier, more meaningful and longer life In this interview you’ll learn: Practical lessons for a longer life What role your genes play in the length of your life What you can add to your diet daily that will add 4 years to your life How our environment plays a key role in our life Tangible steps we can take to improve our overall well being How plant based diets can significantly improve our health How a sense of purpose and community can enhance our life and longevity Dan’s passion for understanding and unlocking the secrets to longevity has influenced the world and I hope it does the same for you. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What we Discuss: 00:00 Intro 03:40 How much of our genes determine how long we will live 09:23 The secret to a healthy America 14:30 The overconsumption of meat is hurting us 18:15 We spend twice as much time in our cars than we did in the 1980s 20:24 The power of community 24:50 The hack to a longer life isn’t based solely on diet and exercise but also community 27:13 Using elders as a longevity strategy for community 30:40 Green tea can add to your longevity 35:33 How beans and grains are cornerstones in the oldest global communities 38:11 What has changed over the years that has added to our mortality rate 43:40 The power of creating a social circle around health 44:35 Reminder to stop eating when stomachs are 80% full 47:27 What the last bluezone 1.0 will be 51:16 What most cities should consider in order to become a blue zone 54:43 How a sense of purpose and clarity can add to our longevity 55:03 Conclusion Episode Resources: Dan Buettner | Facebook Dan Buettner | Instagram Dan Buettner | WebsiteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

1 Jan 202457min

As we approach the close of 2024, this episode is not just about reflecting on the lessons learned; it's about sharing the transformative insights that will illuminate our path forward. Jay poses a question that resonates deeply: How many of us stress about our well-being? From health and meditation to daily journals and affirmations, the pursuit of self-improvement often brings with it a surge of stress. Jay challenges you to explore the idea of stress as a spectrum, a nuanced scale rather than a binary state. This concept is monumental and understanding stress can be a game changer for you this coming year. In this episode, Jay unpacks the idea that sometimes the goal of wanting to be better and do better puts us under greater pressure. Let Jay guide you as he explains positive stress, distress and the lessons he learned this year that are meant to be carried forward and put into practice. It's not just about learning; it's about application, about making these lessons a living, breathing part of our lives. This episode is your go to to close off the year and prepare yourself for a beautiful journey in 2024. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty In this episode you’ll learn: Differentiating positive stress and distress Finding your center Top stressful events for adults Knowing when to be hard on yourself and when to let go What we discuss: 00:00 Intro 03:02 The Big Lesson I Am Taking Into 2024 03:34 #1 Understanding Stress As A Spectrum 04:49 The Positive Side Of Stress 10:30 Living In Distress 17:09 #2 Finding Your Center 20:28: #3 Being More Compassionate And Understanding Of How Others Deal With Stress 21:25 The Ultimate GamechangerSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

29 Dec 202327min

Is it possible to pivot and lean into our passions later on in adulthood? How can you successfully remain true to your identity while following different ventures? Today on the show we have Jay Sean, a renowned global artist whose impact on the music industry has been profound since his debut in 2003 with the groundbreaking album "Me Against Myself." Over the past two decades, Jay has contributed five studio albums, a standout greatest hits compilation, and a collection of engaging mixtapes. With an impressive career spanning 20 years, Jay has consistently demonstrated his musical prowess and fearlessness in embracing new creative challenges while remaining authentically connected to his artistic roots. This episode is a masterclass in self-awareness. Jay provides practical insights into recognizing and embracing change, uncovering the secrets to thriving in transition, and forging a path that aligns with your core values. Tune in and get ready to be inspired, motivated, and equipped with the tools to shape your authentic success story. In this interview you’ll learn: The importance of self-awareness How to let go of fear and embrace new things Insights on how he has let go of self limiting beliefs How Jay has navigated the ups and downs of success Balancing what has brought you success in the past while also leaning into your new passions Remember that embracing new parts of you doesn’t mean you are letting go of yourself. It just means you are meeting different parts of you, growing and evolving. In Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 04:06 Jay shares insights into his upbringing, discussing the influence of his driven parents and their sacrifices. 12:15 The moment Jay knew he wanted to study medicine and pursue a musical career 18:27 When it clicked for him and changed the trajectory of his life 25:39 Dreams feeling within reach 35:14 The importance of not keeping yourself in a box 43:40 Lessons learned over the past 20 years 44:45 Why are you doing this? 53:30 Why staying true to himself has helped navigate challenges 58:30 The story of how Ride It came to be 01:01:46 The power of letting go of your ego and leaning into your curiosity 01:13:01 Letting Go of Former Identities 01:17:09 What we can learn from Rocky Balboa 01:19:31 Breaking free from a trapped identity 01:25:38 Conclusion Episode Resources: Jay Sean | Facebook Jay Sean | Instagram Jay Sean | TikTokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

25 Dec 20231h 27min

Do you want to reduce your stress in just 7 minutes a day? Do you want to learn how to make meditation easy and accessible for you? Today, I welcome my good friend Michael Acton Smith. Michael is the co-founder and co-Executive Chairman of Calm, the leading mental wellness brand with the #1 App for Sleep, Meditation and Relaxation. Calm has grown to over 100 million downloads, was the Apple 2017 app of the year, and is the world's first mental health unicorn. Long fascinated by neuroscience, flow states and mental fitness, Michael is passionate about spreading meditation as a simple but valuable skill around the world. Michael discusses the interesting twist of putting an entertainment voice in meditation, challenging myths, and misconceptions surrounding this powerful practice. We tap into the future of mental health, exploring why sometimes we need to step back to find the answers. Patience has always been the secret to success. As the conversation progressed, we stirred into the potential of AI and its role in the next evolution of Calm and potentially address the question: How can technology be harnessed to serve humanity better? There is a future in AI and how it immensely helps spread mental health awareness and promote mindfulness practice. In this interview, you will learn: The many benefits of meditation How to practice mindfulness How to sit in silence and calm your mind How to leverage your creativity The connection between AI and mental health It's an episode packed with insights, laughter, and a sprinkle of mindfulness. Together, let's explore the boundless possibilities of a calm and balanced life together! With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:18 How Did the Calm Partnership Come About? 05:26 Making Meditation and Mindfulness More Accessible 09:06 The Impact of Daily Calm and Sleep Story on People 11:53 Putting an Entertainment Voice in Meditation 15:27 Myths and Misconceptions About Meditation 18:27 What is the Future of Mental Health? 22:01 Why You Need to Step Back to Find Answers 26:29 Why Patience is the Secret to Success 29:46 How Do You Combine Business and Creativity? 32:19 How Can AI Help Humanity? 39:37 The Potential of AI and The Next Evolution of Calm 42:03 How to Find Balance Between Digital and Physical Activities 47:02 The Benefits of Reacting Instead of Responding to Triggers 51:41 How to Positively Introduce Meditation to Children 55:52 How to Develop the Practice of Sitting in Silence Episode Resources: Michael Acton Smith | LinkedIn Michael Acton Smith | Instagram CalmSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

22 Dec 202359min