🎙️ FS 78 – Relaunch Episode: Meet the New Hosts; Umah, Sam, Olivia

In today's episode, the Facilitation Stories podcast returns with a brand-new hosting team — Olivia, Sam, and Umah — who share their stories, inspirations, and hopes for the next chapter of the podcast.

They talk about:

• Why they joined the Facilitation Stories team and what excites them about podcasting as a way to connect facilitators and share learning.
  
  

• How their diverse backgrounds — from healthcare and construction to creative arts, community engagement and youth work — have shaped their facilitation practice.
  
  

• The power of collaboration and curiosity in creating spaces for reflection, learning, and human connection and what underpins their hopes for this podcast series
  
  

• And, of course, an important conversation about pets, TV guilty pleasures, and favourite biscuits! 🍪
  
  

"It's about creating space where people can make sense of their own stories — and find belonging in shared spaces."

"Sometimes, facilitation is about slowing down, thinking, and making time for the conversations we don't usually have."

Links

Today's guests are the hosts themselves:

• Olivia Bellas https://www.linkedin.com/in/oliviabellas/

• Sam Moon https://www.linkedin.com/in/theboymoon123/

• Umah Ganeshalingam https://www.linkedin.com/in/umah/
  
  

To find out more about Facilitation Stories and the IAF England & Wales Chapter:

🎧 Facilitation Stories website: https://facilitationstories.libsyn.com/
📧 Email us: podcast@iaf-englandwales.org
🌐 IAF England & Wales: https://www.iaf-world.org/site/chapters/england-wales

Transcript

Helene Hello and welcome to Facilitation Stories, the community podcast of the England and Wales chapter of the International Association of Facilitators, also known as IAF. My name is Helene Jewell and for the last time I am introducing the podcast because I'm going to be passing the baton onto this wonderful new team. We have Sam Moon, Olivia Bellas, and Umah Ganeshalingam. In this episode, you're going to hear Sam, Umah and Olivia talk about their hopes for the Facilitation Stories podcast, some of the work they all do, the kinds of things they're interested in hearing about, and the conversations they're hoping to have. And it just leaves me to say thanks to everybody that I've worked with on this podcast. Pilar Orti, who started the whole thing, Nikki Wilson, we worked together for ages and it has been absolutely fantastic working with both of them and to Rena Kosh as well, who does all the graphics and stuff that go out alongside the podcast and pretty much everybody else that's been listening, all the guests we've had over the last few years, it's been fantastic.

Umah Thank you, Helen, and thank you to you and the team for everything that you've done today and handing it over so nicely to us.

Helene Good luck to you all.

Sam We'll be standing on the shoulders of giants. Thank you Helen. So I'll kick off with the question. What brings you here, Olivia, to the new crew, why was it important for you to be here?

Olivia Podcasting as a format really works for me, so it's definitely a medium that I enjoy for work, for fun. The idea of being part of a crew, a team, building a podcast is really, really exciting to be a bit more behind the scenes. I remember I was at the IAF conference in April in Birmingham earlier this year and seeing this call out to see who's interested. And that was one reason. And then the other reason was actually I tend to collaborate a lot. This year, I haven't been really up until that point and was like, oh, what's missing? And it was that feeling that I was actually, as a facilitator, doing lots of solo work, which I think has value sometimes, but I was really missing more closer collaboration with others. Yeah. What about you, Sam?

Sam I think it's curiosity, which is often very much my kind of North Star towards things and serendipity and an interest in being with others, exploring and discussing what I enjoy and the room and the space to do that with others, and also an excitement and interest in talking about, talking with and sharing conversation with other people who are in the facilitation world. And I think just the opportunity to play with those ideas and experience other people's experiences. Learn a little bit about this realm of podcasting, which I'm not massively familiar with myself. I'm here with openness to the curiosity of what is possible. Really. So Umah, come to you. What brings you here, and why was it important for you to be involved in the IAF podcast as a as a new crew member?

Umah Mine all started with a conversation with Paul, where I had joined as a IAF member and as part of the intro, he spoke to me about the IAF, the podcast and said, oh, if I'm keen, I could be involved in it. And almost the day I joined as a member, I say, yeah, I'll happily get involved with the podcast too. And then it was about finding other people to do it with us, and he mentioned it at the conference, which unfortunately I couldn't attend, but I'm hoping to attend this one. Coming up, in terms of my why at work, it's quite delivery. Whereas this for me is a place where I could slow down a bit, have the space and time to have conversations, think about why we're doing things. Is our approach the right approach? How do other people do things and do a bit more of that philosophizing really, that we don't always get to do? But the thing is, by exploring this with both of you, with our guests in the future, and also the audience who's listening in, it's just really good to get different viewpoints and build that community. I think that's quite key for me.

Olivia I think it's really interesting around sometimes we well, we often get caught up in the doing and the delivery side of things, and it is about looking at what is it we do. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. But yeah. What's my follow up question. Is there a kind of area of facilitation that you're particularly interested in, or is it more about sort of your discovering, you know, through your practice.

Umah I've had quite a few different career changes. So I started off as a clinician and I was seeing pediatrics and adults with hearing and balance difficulties. And how you communicate is key in terms of the impact on their the diagnosis, the management of it. And it's how can we make them feel comfortable, give them that space to explore and ask the questions. So it's facilitating them through this process, right. So I initially started with patient experience journeys that kind of facilitation. How can we make the process better. And then afterwards I had a career change, went into construction and it became more about customer experience or passenger experience when I did airports. It's interesting that you asked me that, Olivia. So before it was the journey, whereas now it's the community, the group. What's the common? People have different needs and different things to attain. At the moment, lots of people are off in different directions. What is the commonality? It's changed that way for me. How about for you? What's your area of practice right now?

Olivia And that's a good point right now adding that bit. I think it does change quite a lot. I've also dipped my toe into quite a few different working worlds. I've come from creative sector, arts culture, worked with artists a lot, and I've brought that into government spaces, charity spaces, public dialogue and also thinking about making teamwork more enjoyable, easier. But I bring a lot of play. So a lot of that kind of creativity, which is naturally how my brain works. But how do we use that as a way into the workplace? I mean, there's a lot of science and evidence that backs up that using playful approaches Really helps us in terms of fresh thinking. So I'd say at the moment I do use a lot of serious play in my work. I do use a lot of other kind of practices like walk and talks, visualization. So that side of things is where I'm focused right now.

Umah Yeah. Sam, we've spoken a lot about, for example, our why. What is it that you're hoping that us together on the podcast is going to do?

Sam That's a good question. My kind of world of work has been twenty five years or so in youth and community, sort of focused. So a lot of my facilitation is kind of through that, through that lens. And I'm earning the last year or so have gone full time freelance by myself. So I've been on a journey of figuring out what it is that I do in that new world. So I'm very much on that story of kind of discovery, but finding myself working a lot in the sort of community Subcommittee film co-production, lived experience, but also being drawn and developing work around kind of impact through means called ripple effect mapping. I'm very much pulled into different things and then began to get get interested in what makes me smile and what creates the energy. So I'm still very much in this discovery stage, but it's also interesting as a kind of work through things is having to remember to be me and follow the things that I like to do and create and facilitate in the way that I wish to facilitate and follow my own path. It's very easy to kind of be looking at all the amazing things that other people are doing and going, oh, that looks great, I should be doing that. And you forget to actually do the things that you do well. Focus on those on those things. And when I remember that and lean back into the things that are me and that I do, the world opens up and I find myself in spaces doing really exciting things and creative pieces of work, which then lead into to other things like this in terms of the opportunities the podcast brings and what we'd like to explore. I'm really interested in speaking to a whole range of different types of facilitation, and really looking at ways in which people can talk about what they're passionate about and what's important to them. But I'm also interested, because of my own passions in facilitation within the community world and other sort of sectors, like that kind of creating space where we're all able to talk about facilitation without competing with another facilitation style or another kind of way of doing things, because I think, well, I'll kind of start off, I might become precious about a certain way of doing things, and then I'll learn another way of doing things and think, well, actually, this really complements this way of doing things. And then you begin to see the gaps in everything that you do. I'm looking forward to creating a space where we can see how things complement one another, and that the enjoyment and what we get from it is shared with each other.

Olivia I agree so much with what you said, like, it's really exciting to hear because I think with facilitation, as we know, it's quite unusual, mostly how people have ended up doing this type of work. I hear the kind of stories of like a, you know, just as we've shared now, really quite different. And so those roots there are fascinating, and they reveal a lot and give you permission to do the things that you just said, Sam. Well, I'll try it like this, but then I can layer it with this and I can look at something else. Yeah. Facilitation exists in so many different ways, and that's what I'm excited about diving into and getting those stories in the least expected places. And with the people that maybe we hear less from. I suppose in facilitation is doing big work, but maybe quiet work as well. So yeah, would definitely love to hear from people who probably don't even call themselves facilitators, but maybe identify with some of the things already said.

Sam Umah, what comes to mind for you of what you'd like to experience and might be possible for the podcast?

Umah I'm quite interested to look at the breadth and depth of the different things that we have available to us, what's worked, and understanding what are the true challenges that we face. We do lessons learned, and it's quite nice to get a chance to ask detailed questions of right. So when that was a challenge, what did you do? And then delve into that. And through that conversation you unlock her. Well, maybe we could maybe we could try this. It becomes it evolves doesn't it? So it becomes a new way of doing things. Let me reiterate my process. I've done this workshop many times. Never once has my workshop ever gone the same way. Different people, different outcomes, different ways of doing things. Even the three of us together, we haven't covered everything. So that's why we bring guests in hearing from audiences. What is their reveal? Something that I've not thought of yet.

Sam To go a little bit deeper with a follow up question on that is what is it about your world of facilitation? What is it that makes you smile about it? What is it that gives you a spring in your step about facilitation?

Umah One thing personally for me is the variety I get to learn about new sectors when I'm facilitating. I could be sector agnostic and really get something valuable for them when I'm in the session, it helps piece the world together for me. I like the variety, I like learning. We're all lifelong learners. I really like that. And exploring what there is. It's seeing when someone is hesitant to say, should I put this idea forward? And you can see that they're a little bit uncomfortable. So we facilitate as facilitators, and they build the confidence and courage to put their idea forward. And then I see them see their team members contribute and grow that idea. Afterwards, they might take it away. They might develop it. You know, we're bigger than the sum of our parts type thing. So for me, that's really what makes me smile.

Sam How about you, Olivia? What gives you a spring in your step about facilitating or your world of facilitation?

Olivia So two things jump to mind. So firstly, I guess it's that sort of very unknown space that I'm realize I'm quite drawn to. So a lot of the facilitation work that I have done, when it's kind of in the community engagement space, it's very unpredictable. It can feel kind of complicated and complex and messy sometimes, but it's work that I really enjoy because I enjoy that kind of sense making part of it. And it's it's weird because it's definitely a kind of uncomfortable maybe space, but I really love navigating it, whether it's in the moment delivering or before that. When you're designing and you're like, what? How is this even gonna work out? And then it somehow the pieces come together. I guess it's also like you were saying as well, how that unknownness is experienced and transformed with the others, with the group then, because we all get that sense, don't we? I also just love the fact of what makes me really, really smile is that I can just go for it and really try things out. A lot of the time with safety, of course, within the group, but sometimes I've come away and kind of go, wow, I'm really glad that we tried this particular route with the group today, and it felt right to do it then. Pushing those boundaries of exploration, of creativity just really suits me as a facilitator as well. Just sharing like we are right now, because I think sometimes if we're honest, this kind of work can feel a little bit lonely. And I think just being really honest when there are fluff ups as well, it's just like it's not all brilliant. Like there's things that are like, uh oh, that was really weird or uh oh, gotta do that again in a different way, you know? And so I'd love to hear more of that as well in this podcast. What went well but what hasn't. And actually, like, can we just share that because we're all going through it. So I think that will bring smiles to probably many people's faces. Yeah. Sam.

Sam So what makes me smile, I think, is that I enjoy the freedom, particularly coming from full time employment and then deciding to move into freelance and self-employment and all the uncertainty that comes with that. So I think there's an aspect of that in terms of not knowing what I'm going to be doing is quite exciting as discovering what I am going to be doing. As I'm figuring that out and things come in. I do a lot of work with stories and lived experience and also story creation. And the ripple effect mapping work that I do is very much held within stories and appreciative inquiry, and the nature of that creates a lot of energy and a lot of connection, creating spaces that nurture relationship and spaces in which people are in relationship with one another is often a joy to experience and be part of. And what also makes me smile is creating space where people can make sense of their own stories by telling their stories, creating space where people can hear other people's stories or hear other people speak from where they're at to make sense of how they are feeling and make sense of what's going on for them. It's just always a privilege to be in a space that the impact of that and the power of that gives people their own agency in their own sort of citizenship. Kind of in that space as well. So I really, really enjoy that. And also I might do work, which is more around what might be termed as hosting, and that's about creating space for the collective wisdom to emerge from the room. And that's what shapes the decisions. I like creating spaces where I might not know what's going to happen and how it's going to happen, and being able to create space to work and fail, but be human in those spaces as well and be open going, okay, this isn't quite working, is it? And be able to name that within those spaces. So shared learning experience as well, that ongoing learning experience for me and listening to the tone of the group rather than listening to myself. It's really lovely being in those sorts of spaces.

Olivia I've heard it a little bit, but this hosting difference, and if you could expand a little bit on that, like what? What would you say is, is there a host and a facilitator might be different things or do they overlap?

Sam We can talk about what it means to me, and I'm and I'm conscious that we can get into some semantics here where where I start to define what facilitation is is, isn't. When I'm using the word hosting. For me, it's around where facilitating space for the collective wisdom of the group or the people you're with, and the energy naturally arises to be able to shape what might emerge, rather than what might be a more linear, focused thing. That sort of hosting approach, maybe within appreciative inquiry, relational relational practice. So it could be as simple as why was it important for you to be here? Or what is the crossroads you're at at this moment in time? And we speak to those questions and then take that back into the room and what is shared and what struck people then might shape the next question. And so it's a form of practice, but it's that gray space. And I caveat that with everyone will possibly have their own version of what that means for them.

Olivia That's so helpful. Thank you. I could feel myself going down a rabbit hole. I don't know if we want to jump into something a bit silly.

Sam But we did have a few personal trivia questions, the first of which was what do we do for fun?

Umah I have a puppy. He's a Saluki from Abu Dhabi, and for me he is the definition of fun and any time spent with him, I really value it. I quite like gaming, strategic games, board games and going for walks, which he definitely enjoys too. How about you?

Sam So I'm also quite. You made me smile. And we could we could quite actually easily just take over the rest of the podcast with this, with this now which is a danger. But I was going to say what I do for fun is board gaming. So for anybody who's listening to this podcast who's not a gamer, I'm not talking about monopoly. For those who may be uninitiated, early entry games might be things like Ticket to Ride or Carcassonne or Settlers of Catan. I meet up with a bunch of friends locally, and we just really enjoy playing board games together, and occasionally we'll book an Airbnb and play games for an entire weekend and enjoy that. So that's what I do for fun. Go to the gym quite a lot now, and that might not be fun for most people, but it helps. I find it really good head clearer for me just to kind of hit the gym every now and then and go for a run. Olivia, what do you do for fun?

Olivia Oh my goodness. Well, just listening to you both my cat whilst we're on the pet vibe. Ziggy she is very cool. She's fun for all the family. The other thing that came to my mind though, I don't feel like I do it loads and loads. It's just moving around and traveling actually. So whether that's within my kind of closest sphere or beyond. As my kids are getting a bit bigger, I'm sort of noticing, oh, I can actually venture out a bit more for fun. It's quite funny. It's around trash TV, so I'm gonna dive into it. I don't really watch TV as a as a general rule, but our household has just got into traitors. I felt quite uncomfortable about watching people be essentially quite like, duping each other and being quite mean to each other. Right? Because, you know, they've got to play the game. So this is kind of like a game where you're tricking people or trying to.

Umah There is a game, there's a game called Mafia, which is this .

Olivia So so you're watching these people like lying to each other. I found series one a really hard watch. Didn't bother with series two or three because I just thought I'm not going there. And then series four is on and it's the celebrity one. And as I'm watching it this time, I've got really into like all the biases, actually that are popping up. People are just making really weird decisions based on what, you know, because no one's actually got really any evidence. And so then it's brought up this kind of now it's more like an anthropological.

Umah Yeah, exactly. It's societal.

Olivia Exactly. Why are they saying that? It must be this guy? Because he's the smartest guy. What have you based that on? It's starting to come up. There's a few articles that people are going. Why isn't the media actually talking about a lot of the stuff that's happening, like first impression bias? You know, there's the kind of groupthink that happens. And, you know, you can start to relate this all to the work that we do.

Umah Exactly how it comes through in the workplace.

Olivia Absolutely. And so, you know, there's you can go really, really deep and into analyzing traitors, the TV show and seeing the parallels just with real life. And that actually you just look at these people and you think there are aspects that we enact as well. Just wanted to mention that as a kind of, you know, yes, it's a reality TV, but it's it's fascinating. Have a read of what's online around this kind of bias, because it's actually it's actually a little bit worrying that this is all sort of happening live on UK TV, and not a lot of people are talking about it yet.

Umah Because it's a microscope, isn't it, into behaviors and you look into it and then some of them might be quite not reflective, but you see an exaggerated version of it.

Olivia Yeah. Exactly. Yeah. Do either of you have trashy TVs?

Umah I don't, I watch K-drama, but not trash TV.

Sam Sorry. What's a K-drama?

Umah Korean TV series. They're amazing.

Sam Oh, right. I'm not familiar with that. My trash TV habit is I'm now a sucker for Deadliest Catch on Dmax, which is the reality TV. There's twenty two seasons of them, and it's about the folks who go crab fishing on the Bering Sea, and it follows a handful of boats that go out and catch crab. It's on for like two hours every morning, and I watch thirty minutes of it whilst I have my breakfast. And bit by bit, I've just started to get to know the different characters. What I find fascinating in terms of observation of people is mainly men who are on the boat, dominantly men. I'd say ninety nine percent men, but just in terms of kind of how men are with one another in that environment, toxic masculinity and fear. And in each episode, you'd see the nuances in terms of how they evolve as people. I find myself tied to that little routine each morning as I start to find out about these fishermen, you go out and catch crab.

Umah I'll watch a clip after this. Recommend me a good episode to watch.

Sam I couldn't do that at first. I really didn't like it because I was put off by the toxic masculinity of it. Shall we finish with the most important question of humanity, as far as I'm concerned, is what's your favourite biscuit or snack if you don't do biscuits. I've introduced mine, but also say how I use this in facilitation myself. So my favourite go to biscuit would be a hobnob. Probably a chocolate hobnob. I also use this as an icebreaker exercise by inviting people to go around the room, shake hands, introduce themselves and say, what's your favourite biscuit? And I'm always struck in when I do this thinking, oh, this is going to be a little bit trite, a bit superficial, but what happens is everybody starts telling biscuit stories. And so the reminiscence that comes out from this activity is quite something. So with that, Olivia, what's your favourite biscuit?

Olivia Um, you know, just basically every biscuit on the planet. I like biscuits a lot, so I like auburn custard cream, jammy dodger. Like it's just. Yeah, I couldn't pin it down. But interestingly, as a warm up, I've experienced it. Rather I've been a participant and it was about sandwiches. And we also had to draw parallels to the sandwich that we've chosen in terms of describing our mood as well. And again, I find these ones that, you know, I still can't work out where I am with like warmers or icebreakers or whatever you call them, because there are some that don't work very well and some that work better. But I do find that anything that's like this, that's quite comforting. Sometimes it's just, you know, what was the last thing that made you smile? And that's usually going to be a positive start. The simpler the better, I think. But I'd love to come back to this because I know many people are very like, I am not doing an icebreaker.

Umah Yea, different preference, isn't it?

Olivia Yeah. What about you, Umah?

Umah Well, favourite biscuit again, Sam. It was really good that you mentioned that people start reminiscing because straight away one came into my mind and that was the malt biscuit, the one with the cow on and when I was a kid, whenever I was poorly, my mum would give me two of those. It was a bit of a comfort, like a blanket around me, and it felt so nice. I like that icebreaker. So, Olivia, what's the headline of what listeners can look forward to?

Olivia Circling back to the start of our conversation, we're interested in stories where we discover a bit more about how facilitators got to where they are. No one studied facilitation at school, did they? Like in a very formal way or pain like this pathway that's set. So understanding that and hearing more about all the different types of facilitation, that's what we can definitely look forward to that we're all committed to drawing out in the future conversations we have.

Umah Sam.

Sam Absolutely. People can look forward to a variety of stories, a variety of guests, and I think we're already shaping it is quite a human space creates a feeling of belonging and connection. It'd be great if we can create a sense that we're in the room with the listeners, and the listeners are in the room with us.

Umah Yeah, I think that's beautiful. For me, I would just build on that, really, and say shared enjoyment, the nerding out on different methodologies like you've already touched on hosting and facilitation, the difference just really getting into some of the semantics actually, and exploring some of that. I think you said it beautifully there, Sam, as well. So thank you. And I feel that's a really nice place for us to end our first episode together as your new host.

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