Do they benefit from your response to their hurtful behavior?
Some hurtful behavior can have a secondary benefit to the person hurting you. Some behaviors can cause you to react in such a way that brings the hurtful person benefit. Because of that, they know how...
3 Feb 202139min
The slow disintegration of the deepest part of who you are
Emotional abuse has an insidious way of disintegrating the very core of who you are. It's a process that can turn you into a shell of your former self. You can rebuild, but to do so sooner than later ...
10 Jan 202127min
The guilt from believing you could have done more
A mom wrote to me and said that she is blaming herself for not doing the right job parenting her abusive son. Guilt is plaguing her and she wants to move forward. In this episode, I share what guilt a...
30 Dec 202040min
You have to protect the most important person in your world from hurtful behavior
The very core of who you are is what can get compromised when you are in an emotionally abusive relationship. That's why many victims of emotional abuse say that they became a shell of their former se...
10 Dec 202024min
If you've tried everything to stop the hurtful behavior, what's next?
You've tried talking with them, expressing your hurt or unhappiness, but they still don't seem to want to change their behavior. If you've done what you can, what is the next step? Emotionally abusive...
21 Nov 202051min
Sometimes things need to be perfectly lined up to make the big decisions about the relationship
There's a point of either intoleration or breakdown that you sometimes have to reach in order to finally make a decision that you need to make about a toxic relationship. When that moment comes, it ca...
4 Nov 202051min
Understanding the addict in the manipulative relationship
Dealing with a manipulative and controlling relationship is bad enough, but what happens when the person doing the bad behavior is also dealing with addiction? What if the addiction is the reason for ...
19 Okt 202034min
Should you try harder to please the emotionally abusive person?
One of the constants I've seen over and over again in emotionally abusive relationships is when the victim tries harder to please an unpleasable person. No matter what they do or how hard they try, th...
30 Sep 202026min
