On Purpose with Jay Shetty

Do you think your “type” limits you? What’s one unrealistic dating expectation you’ve had? Today, Jay welcomes back one of the most insightful voices in modern dating and relationships, Stephan Speaks. If you’ve been searching for clarity in love, struggling with self-worth in dating, or wondering why you keep attracting the wrong partners, this conversation is a must-listen. Jay and Stephan kick off by breaking down one of the biggest struggles in today’s dating world—the negative perception of men and women. They explore how sensationalized online narratives and personal biases shape our beliefs about relationships, often distorting reality. Stephan explains how social media and exaggerated dating horror stories create unnecessary fear and distrust, making it harder for people to embrace love. If you’ve ever felt like you’re stuck in a cycle of failed relationships, Stephan reveals that understanding yourself first is the key to finding the right partner. He emphasizes three critical factors: first, accepting the differences between men and women instead of resisting them; second, knowing yourself before entering a relationship, as many people struggle because they aren’t even clear on what they truly need; and third, prioritizing healing, because unresolved pain from past experiences will continue to affect every new connection. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Stop Letting Dating Myths Mislead You How to Attract the Right Partner by Knowing Yourself How to Heal Before Your Next Relationship How to Communicate With a Closed-Off Partner How to Break the Cycle of Failed Relationships If you’ve felt frustrated, discouraged, or like love just isn’t in the cards for you, remember this: the right relationship isn’t something you chase, it’s something you attract by becoming the best version of yourself. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free Monk Mode newsletter. Subscribe here. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:28 The Difference Between Average Men and Women 11:30 Why Men Often Don't Date Ambitious Women 17:28 Understand Who Your Partner Really Is 23:55 Negative Perception of Men When Dating 28:52 Coveting the Desirables 32:27 How to Not Love Bomb Your Partner 40:32 If He Wanted to He Could 43:59 Emotional Maturity in Relationships 48:28 Always Be Open to Connection 53:34 Insecurities and Jealousy 01:01:15 How Do You Initiate Open Communication? 01:09:56 All Is Not Lost in Breakups 01:17:35 The Right Person at the Wrong Time 01:22:43 Every Dating Relationship is a Process Episode Resources: Stephan Speaks | Website Stephan Speaks | TikTok Stephan Speaks | Instagram Stephan Speaks | Youtube Stephan Speaks | LinkedIn Stephan Speaks | BooksSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

10 Feb 1h 28min

How do you react when you feel insecure? What past experience boosted your confidence? Today, Jay explores how you can break free from insecurity and build lasting confidence using science-backed techniques and practical mindset shifts. Jay opens the episode by addressing the invisible forces that keep us stuck in self-doubt, such as fear of failure, scarcity mindset, and negative self-talk. He explains that our brains are wired for survival, not confidence, which means that many of our insecurities stem from a natural instinct to protect ourselves from perceived threats. Jay introduces seven powerful strategies for retraining the brain for confidence. First, he explains the importance of stopping the brain’s “threat detection system”, which makes us perceive challenges as dangers rather than opportunities. He then highlights unconscious competence, where we often fail to recognize the skills we’ve already mastered. By tapping into this, we can use our existing strengths as a foundation for greater self-assurance. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Overcome the Fear of Being Judged How to Let Go of What No Longer Serves You How to Take Control of Your Confidence How to Shift from Self-Doubt to Self-Belief How to Train Your Brain to Build Lasting Confidence Confidence is not about being perfect; it’s about showing up, learning, and giving yourself the grace to evolve. You have everything within you to shift from doubt to self-trust. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:09 Why Does One Feel Insecure? 06:55 #1: Learn How to Rate a Threat 10:47 #2: Harness Your Unconscious Competence 16:23 #3: Face Your Fear of Not Being Seen 20:25 #4:  Understand the Power of Sunk-Cost Fallacy 22:52 #5: Reclaim Your Control of the Locus of Control 25:05 #6:  Utilize The False Consensus Effect 26:11 #7: Break Free from Imposter Syndrome  Using Cognitive DissonanceSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

7 Feb 30min

How do you define success beyond money and career? Do you think wealth should come with a responsibility to give back? Today, Jay Shetty sits down with one of the most influential innovators of our time, Bill Gates, to explore the intersection of personal growth, technological innovation, and philanthropy. Bill reflects on his journey from a curious child fascinated by computers to building Microsoft and becoming a global force for change. Bill shares candid stories about his upbringing, his parents’ profound influence, and the lessons he learned from their high expectations and encouragement. He also talks about his career-long passion for innovation and his views on climate change, the promise of AI, and the Gates Foundation’s life-saving work, such as developing vaccines and tackling malnutrition. His insights are not just about the cutting edge of technology but also about humanity’s moral responsibility to harness it for good. A deeply reflective portion of the episode focuses on grief, as Gates discusses the loss of close friends like Paul Allen and Kent Evans, and how their influence continues to guide his mission. Jay and Bill share thoughts on how service and philanthropy can redefine success and leave a lasting legacy, with Bill underscoring the importance of giving back and the moral imperative for the wealthy to use their resources to create equity. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Innovate with Purpose and Impact How to Lead with Empathy and Collaboration How to Turn Failure into a Learning Opportunity How to Use AI to Solve Global Challenges How to Honor the Legacy of Mentors and Loved Ones How to Find Joy in Lifelong Learning Whether it’s pushing the boundaries of innovation, building meaningful relationships, or giving back to make the world a better place, we all have the capacity to create positive change. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:27 Early Exposure to Computers 04:18 Different But Exceptional 06:27 Pressure to Live Up to Parents Expectations 08:15 Genuine Parental Support and Connection 14:09 Growing Up with a Supportive Father 22:58 Are Schools Failing Children? 27:33 Motivate Your Kids Right 29:57 Undiagnosed ADHD and ASD 33:18 How Do You Deal with Grief? 40:21 Working with Steve Jobs 45:31 Healthy Competition in Business 49:46 Turning to a Life of Service and Giving Back 56:11 Politics and Humanitarian Effort 59:27 The Importance of AI Policies 01:04:14 Innovation Against Human Limitation 01:09:11 Tough Form of Self Love 01:11:37 Bill on Final Five Episode Resources: Bill Gates | Website Bill Gates | Facebook Bill Gates | Instagram Bill Gates | Youtube Gates Foundation Source Code: My BeginningsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

3 Feb 1h 25min

What’s one habit you think is draining your energy daily? Do you ever feel exhausted after certain conversations? Today, Jay will break down the hidden habits that are silently draining your energy and preventing you from living your best life in 2025. If you feel like you're constantly exhausted, unmotivated, or stuck in negative cycles, this episode is a wake-up call. Jay reveals three powerful habits that will help you reclaim your time, mental clarity, and emotional well-being. He challenges the everyday energy leaks we often overlook—like engaging in gossip, absorbing unsolicited opinions, and surrounding ourselves with people who only talk about themselves. By cutting these out, you’ll unlock 52 minutes of your day to reinvest in your dreams, passions, and meaningful connections. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Avoid Unsolicited Advice and Protect Your Peace How to Break Free from Toxic Conversations How to Stay Focused on Your Own Growth How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others How to Make 2025 the Year You Protect Your Energy Your energy is one of the most valuable things you have, don’t waste it on negativity, distractions, or people who drain your power. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:06 Why Do We Miss Out on Our Goals? 04:55 #1: Stop Talking About Other People 10:31 People with Superiority Complex Often Comes as Arrogant 12:28 You Can’t Empathize If You Haven’t Experienced It 16:47 Hidden Deep-Seated Feelings of Inadequacy 21:38 #2: Stop Giving Unsolicited Views, Opinions, and Feedback 26:16 #3: Stop Talking Just About YourselfSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

31 Jan 29min

What’s one goal you want to manifest? Have you tried visualization before? Today, Jay welcomes neuroscientist, executive advisor, and bestselling author Dr. Tara Swart for a deeply engaging discussion on the intersection of ancient wisdom and modern neuroscience. Tara, author of The Source: The Secrets of the Universe, the Science of the Brain, shares her journey from a dual-cultural upbringing in North London to becoming a leading expert in neuroplasticity, manifestation, and the science of purpose. Tara explains how rewiring the brain through neuroplasticity can help us shift our mindset and align with our goals. She introduces the concept of "magnetic desire," the alignment of one’s head, heart, and gut to pursue authentic and meaningful aspirations. The conversation explores the importance of moving beyond societal noise and external expectations to create a life of abundance, gratitude, and love. Jay and Tara discuss how ancient practices such as chanting, drumming, and spending time in nature have been essential to human well-being for centuries and are increasingly validated by neuroscience today. Together, they unpack how practices like visualization, mindfulness, and connecting with nature are more than philosophical ideas—they are scientifically proven tools for personal growth and transformation. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Rewire Your Brain for Success How to Use Visualization to Achieve Goals How to Balance Ancient Wisdom with Modern Science How to Transform Negative Thoughts into Positive Actions How to Build an Action Board for Manifestation How to Overcome Limiting Beliefs and Self-Doubt How to Create Lasting Change with Neuroplasticity Whether it’s through cultivating gratitude, spending time in nature, or embracing the power of visualization, every small step brings us closer to the life we envision. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:38 Parallels Between Modern Science and Ancient Wisdom 07:44 The Power of Possibility 09:37 Extrinsic and Intrinsic Motivators 12:25 Six Themes of the 12 Laws of Attraction 19:43 Does Every Thought Count? 24:19 4 Steps to Practice Belief Change 29:08 How to Stop Criticising Yourself 33:30 Reconnect with Your Childhood Dream 35:15 Access Your Inner Self Through Nature 40:49 The Nature of Consciousness 45:39 Use Creativity to Open Up Your Consciousness 54:41 The Neurological Impact of Chanting 57:06 Well-Bonded Couples Calm Each Other 59:08 Infusing Stressful Situations with Love 01:01:40 The Mental Prison We Create 01:03:14 Living Life to the Fullest 01:08:35 Digital Detox 01:13:19 Does God Truly Exist? 01:16:46 Tara on Final Five Episode Resources: Tara Swart | Website Tara Swart | X Tara Swart | Instagram Tara Swart | LinkedIn Tara Swart | BooksSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

27 Jan 1h 24min

How long can you stay focused on one task? What distracts you the most when you’re trying to focus? Today, Jay chats with neuroscientist and author TJ Power to uncover the science behind our brain’s chemistry and how it shapes our emotions, habits, and overall well-being. TJ, known for his expertise in optimizing dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, and endorphins (the "DOSE" chemicals), explains how modern lifestyles can disrupt our brain’s natural balance and offers practical strategies to realign it for a happier, healthier life. TJ and Jay begin the discussion with the brain’s evolutionary design and its mismatch with the modern digital age. TJ explains how our ancestors earned dopamine through hard work and perseverance, but today’s quick-fix solutions like social media, instant gratification, and other overstimulating activities lead to addiction, low motivation, and even burnout. They shift into actionable steps to break free from these patterns. From implementing a simple morning routine, such as resisting the urge to check your phone first thing, to engaging in cold water therapy, TJ emphasizes the importance of earning dopamine through effort rather than shortcuts. He also shares the groundbreaking idea of "phone fasting" and how small, consistent breaks from screens can reset your brain chemistry, improve focus, and enhance productivity. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Start Your Day with Action How to Detox from Your Phone in the Morning How to Earn Dopamine Naturally How to Improve Sleep by Cutting Sugar and Screens How to Practice Gratitude Daily How to Reset Your Mind in Nature Small changes, like starting your day with action, spending less time on your phone, and practicing gratitude, can have a profound impact on your mental well-being. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Visit https://jayshettyshop.com - 100% of Proceeds are donated to National Alliance on Mental Illness. NAMI is the nation’s largest grassroots mental health organization dedicated to building better lives for the millions of Americans affected by mental illness. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 03:19 What is DOSE? 05:13 Social Media Triggers Rapid Rise in Dopamine 07:40 The 30-Minute Window Discipline 09:32 The Benefits of Phone-Fasting 12:42 Take Action as Soon as You Wake 14:36 How to Start the Day Phone-Free 19:16 Fast Release Leads to Low Motivation 21:06 Build Healthy Dopamine 26:25 How to Motivate Yourself to Keep Going 27:47 Pornography Addiction 34:25 Destressing Through Orgasm 36:04 Optimizing Dopamine 37:29 Slow Pleasure for Better Relationship 39:09 Dopamine and Flow State 42:53 Staying Focused and Improving Concentration 45:23 How to Improve Your Sleep Quality 47:39 Dealing with Boredom While Phone-Fasting 51:13 Positive Reinforcement of Dopamine at Home 52:58 How Oxytocin Affects Your Day 56:19 Grateful Thinking Works 58:46 Difference Between Procrastination and Overthinking 01:00:04 Focus on What You Can Do 01:02:42 High Stress and Burnout 01:04:42 Phone Detox is Necessary 01:07:13 Spend More Time in Nature 01:08:16 TJ on Final Five Episode Resources: TJ Power | Instagram TJ Power | X TJ Power | LinkedIn The DOSE Lab The DOSE EffectSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

24 Jan 1h 12min

What’s your biggest challenge with sticking to a fitness plan? What motivates you to stay consistent with workouts? Today, Jay welcomes Dr. Andy Galpin, a leading expert in human performance science, muscle physiology, and strength training, to guide you toward a healthier and more fulfilling life. Dr. Galpin shares practical insights grounded in science and years of experience training elite athletes, from Olympians to professional sports stars, offering advice that anyone can apply. Andy talks in-depth about the fitness fundamentals, starting with the importance of consistency and personalized routines over rigid approaches. Andy emphasizes the key pillars of fitness: looking good, feeling good, and performing well, tailoring these goals to individual needs and life circumstances. He explains how simple adjustments in routines, like incorporating progressive overload and balancing structured cardiovascular training with strength training, can yield transformative results. Andy and Jay provide actionable strategies for improving recovery, enhancing brain health, and battling common challenges like brain fog and stubborn fat; and breaks down the science of hydration, sleep, and nutrition while busting myths about intermittent fasting, the anabolic window, and the role of cardio. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Set Fitness Goals You’ll Actually Stick To How to Build Muscle Without Spending Hours at the Gym How to Balance Strength Training with Cardiovascular Exercise How to Improve Recovery with Better Sleep and Nutrition How to Prevent Burnout with Smarter Workouts How to Use Strength Training to Boost Longevity There’s no one-size-fits-all solution, and the key to success lies in finding what works for you, whether it’s starting with just one workout a week, improving your sleep habits, or focusing on better nutrition. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:56 The Best Routine to Gain Muscles 06:34 What’s Your Fitness Goal? 14:39 Bad versus Good Fitness Coaching 20:50 What is the Pursuit of Fitness? 23:53 The Real Strength Training Process 32:17 Walking or Running? 42:09 Realistic Fitness Goal 43:42 Varying Recovery Requirements 48:29 Ideal Protein Intake 54:12 Post Exercise Anabolic Window 01:02:28 How Important is Proper Hydration? 01:08:55 How to Deal with Brain Fog 01:11:36 What’s Andy’s Schedule Like? 01:18:52 Is Evening Workout Effective? 01:23:17 Ideal Workout for PCOS and Menopause 01:29:26 Andy on Final Five Episode Resources: Andy Galpin | Website Andy Galpin | X Andy Galpin | Instagram Andy Galpin | Youtube Perform Podcast See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

20 Jan 1h 34min

What makes you feel stuck right now? How do you tackle time-consuming tasks? Today, Jay sits down with Grammy-nominated rapper, multi-platinum artist, and first-time author, Big Sean. This special episode marks Sean’s third appearance on the show, but this time, he’s here to share deeper insights into mental health, purpose, and his debut book, Go Higher, set to release in January 2025. During the conversation, Big Sean reflects on his personal battles with anxiety, depression, and letting go of control. He shares the transformative role of spiritual practices in his life and how they inspired him to write a book that offers tools for self-care, growth, and purpose. Sean opens up about one of the toughest lessons he's ever had to learn — accepting the things he can't change — and how that acceptance became his pathway to peace and clarity. Jay and Sean also explore the power of "separating self from success," where Sean explains why money isn’t the true measure of success. Instead, he defines success as the feeling of living in alignment with your purpose and positively impacting others. In a vulnerable moment, Sean discusses the grief of experiencing a miscarriage and how he and his partner found light in the darkness. He also opens up about his journey with fatherhood, the process of quitting Adderall, and how he manages trauma through intentional strategy and meditation. From music to mindfulness, Sean reflects on his evolution as an artist, a man, and now, an author. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Redefine Success on Your Own Terms How to Use Radical Acceptance to Overcome Life’s Challenges How to Separate Self-Worth from Wealth and Achievement How to Attract Purpose Instead of Chasing It How to Embrace Spiritual Growth for Mental Clarity and Peace Every challenge you face holds the seed of transformation. When you accept your reality and stop resisting, you open yourself up to new opportunities for growth. Let Big Sean’s wisdom guide you on your journey to go higher. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 04:05 Sharing Personal Hardships Through Writing 06:36 Define Your Idea of Success 10:17 The Power of Separation? 12:41 The Kobe Mindset 16:43 Acceptance Isn’t Giving Up 20:07 Attracting Energy versus Chasing Energy 27:09 Learnings From Being a Father 31:39 Living Through Your Kids 33:33 Healing Generational Trauma 35:06 Teach Your Child to Be Confident 38:08 How Do You Become Strategic? 41:42 Effectivity in Being Strategic 45:58 Learn to Set Boundaries 49:35 Respect Your Self 52:55 Don’t Lose Yourself 55:01 Exercising Boundaries 58:00 Affirmations, Gratitude, and Journaling 01:02:44 What’s Your Meditation Practice? 01:07:00 Different Approaches to Therapy 01:08:24 Battling with Addiction and Depression 01:14:26 The Importance of Education 01:17:32 Giving Up Music 01:18:42 Last Conversation with Kanye 01:23:53 Staying Optimistic After Miscarriage 01:26:18 Finding Hope in Dark Times 01:27:34 Living with Miracles Everyday Episode Resources: Big Sean | Website Big Sean | X Big Sean | Instagram Big Sean | Tiktok Big Sean | Youtube Big Sean | Facebook Go Higher: Five Practices for Purpose, Success, and Inner PeaceSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

17 Jan 1h 29min