On Purpose with Jay Shetty

How do we build our inner confidence? And how can we stop pretending that we’re okay even if we aren’t? In a world where we're constantly comparing ourselves to others, Jay reminds us of the importance of embracing our unique qualities and building inner confidence. We'll dive into the dangers of comparing our relationships to others and how it can affect our self-esteem. And find out why nurturing inner confidence is key for personal growth and happiness. Jay also shares practical tips for boosting confidence, like embracing our quirks, celebrating our strengths, and shifting from seeking validation from others to validating ourselves. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to build self confidence How to boost your own strengths How to focus more on self-validation Together, let's learn the actionable ways and and empowering wisdom to help you embrace your uniqueness and cultivate unshakable confidence from the inside out. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:45 Getting Lost in Comparison to Other People’s Relationships 05:13 Why We Need to Build on Our Inner Confidence 08:35 Confidence is the Belief That You Matter 12:47 #1: Being Okay with Liking Things That Others Don’t 17:19 #2: Start Noticing Your Own Strengths 18:20 #3: Giving Self-Validation Versus Needing External Validation 24:05 Your Hero is Your Future SelfSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

16 Feb 202428min

Why does trauma manifest as guilt and shame? How do we untrap ourselves from the past? Today, we welcome back renowned speaker on addiction, stress, and childhood development, Dr. Gabor Maté. They dive into the core of human identity and explore the delicate balance between being yourself and seeking acceptance, discovering the liberating truth that authenticity is the ultimate path to self-discovery. Gain insights into the complexities of the human emotional landscape and learn how to navigate and process fear, a powerful force that often holds us captive. Gabor talks about the top five regrets of dying people - a profound insight that serve as a compass, guiding us to live a life aligned with our deepest values and aspirations. He also talks about the intricacies of guilt and shares wisdom on how we can untrap ourselves from it, the universality of pain and trauma, the synergy between logic and creativity in problem-solving. In this interview, you'll learn: How to live with fear and anxiety How to deal with deep-rooted trauma How to handle grief and pain How to improve your personal growth Together, let's explore the infinite possibilities that unfold when we awaken to our true potential and embrace a mindset of continuous growth. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 03:56 How Do You Heal a Broken Man? 07:34 Tell Me Who You Are 11:33 The Small Still Voice Within Us 13:19 Be Yourself or Be Accepted But not Both at the Same Time 17:10 What Are the Most Common Emotions We Feel Everyday? 20:26 How Can We Process and Heal From Fear 28:11 How Can You Help Someone Who Refused to Be Helped? 31:06 The Top Five Regrets of Dying People 36:09 How Do We Untrap Ourselves From Guilt? 43:03 There’s No Path Without Pain, So Choose Which Path to Take 46:53 Embrace Your Freedom Responsibly 48:46 There’s No Hierarchy in Pain and Trauma 51:07 What is Integrative Thinking? 59:27 The Book “Blessed with a Brain Tumor” 01:02:00 Can I Continue to Grow? 01:04:15 How Do Emotions Translate to Physical Reality? 01:13:13 If We Could Just Wake Up to Our Possibilities Episode Resources: Dr. Gabor Maté | Website Dr. Gabor Maté | Instagram Dr. Gabor Maté | Twitter Dr. Gabor Maté | YouTube Dr. Gabor Maté | Facebook The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

12 Feb 20241h 13min

Have you been struggling to get over your ex? Do you want to find healing after a painful breakup? Then this episode is for you. Today, Jay will talk about the complexities of heartbreak and grief, shedding light on the profound emotional and physiological effects of romantic loss. He unravels the intricate workings of the human brain's obsession with love, exploring the biological and psychological mechanisms triggered by heartbreak. There are different physiological changes that occur in the body during a breakup, illuminating the intensity of emotions experienced in the aftermath of romantic dissolution. Through poignant anecdotes and expert insights, Jay navigates through the stages of grief, offering a compassionate understanding of the rollercoaster of emotions that accompany loss. From denial to anger, bargaining to depression, and ultimately acceptance, Jay guides listeners through the transformative journey of healing and growth. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to overcome a breakup The physical manifestations of a heartbreak The different stages of grief Whether you're in the midst of a breakup or seeking to support a loved one through their journey of healing, this episode offers invaluable insights to help you navigate the path forward with grace and resilience. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:19 What Happens When Someone Breaks Our Heart? 03:54 The Human Brain Is Obsessed with Love 04:55 What Happens in the Body During a Breakup? 09:36 Why Breakups Are Comparable to Addiction Withdrawal 11:36 The Rage Room 13:58 The FIve Stage of Grief 16:38 THe First Stage - Denial 20:42 The Second Stage - Anger 23:03 The Third Stage - Bargaining 25:37 The Fourth Stage - Depression 27:33 The Final Stage - Acceptance 29:02 This is the Best Way to Describe GriefSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

9 Feb 202432min

How can you let go of something you love to do? And when is the right time to let go? Today, Jay is joined by Emmy Award winning host, writer, producer, and actor, James Corden. James is also a Tony Award winning and Golden Globe nominated actor; and a multiple BAFTA Award winner. In April 2023, James wrapped up his eight-year run as host of THE LATE LATE SHOW, which premiered on CBS in March 2015. The show garnered Corden four Emmy Award wins and an additional twenty-three Emmy Award nominations. Corden is the co-creator and executive producer of CARPOOL KARAOKE: THE SERIES for Apple TV+ which won five consecutive Emmy Awards and is currently nominated for 2023. The series also won three Producers Guild Awards, a Critics’ Choice Real TV Award and was nominated for a Writers Guild Award. James takes you through the successive successes and inevitable misses that shape our lives, the impact of expectations on our experiences and unravel the true meaning of success. He touches on his love for performance, the driving force behind success, and the reality that not all efforts receive the recognition they deserve; as well as the reflective process during significant transitions and gain insights into the complexities of the narcissistic dream. As the conversation continues, James presents the powerful analogy of letting a balloon go, symbolizing the liberation that comes with releasing expectations. They also touch on the importance of mindful living, questioning how much of tomorrow you're willing to borrow. In this interview, you'll learn: How to effectively chase after success How to pick yourself up after failure The importance of surrounding yourself with good people How to balance family life and career How to make your marriage work How to slow down when things get tough This episode is a reminder to cultivate a life filled with purpose, the art of slowing down, embracing life's pace, and savoring each moment. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:52 The Successive Success and the Many Misses in Between 08:32 The Expectation OF is What Mostly Ruins Things 10:22 What is the True Meaning of Success? 12:56 Love for Performance and the Drive for Success 17:23 Not All Efforts Get Rewarded 20:36 Your Life Can Get Flipped Over Every Single Day 23:38 Reflection Process During Big Transitions 28:13 The Narcissist’s Dream 35:50 The Analogy of Letting a Balloon Go 41:02 Becoming More than the Man You Actually Are 46:44 Sleep is an Extraordinary Gift 49:42 How Much of Tomorrow Are You Willing to Borrow? 53:15 Why Do You Need to Stop Going on a Diet? 56:21 How Do You Keep Good Friends Around? 01:00:32 How to Calmly Talk to Your Child? 01:06:14 Where is the Best Place to Raise Your Family and Kids? 01:11:24 Effective Communication Between Married Couple 01:15:43 The Story of a Man Who Just Kept Going 01:21:08 The David Beckham Statue Prank 01:22:35 Learning to Slow Down and Not Rush Anything 01:32:27 James on Final Five Episode Resources: James Corden | Instagram James Corden | Twitter The Late Late Show with James Corden | YouTube The Late Late Show with James Corden | TikTokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

5 Feb 20241h 40min

Do you want to do more this month? How do you effectively become more productive? Today, Jay will share with us how to maximize your efficiency, ensuring that this month becomes your most productive one yet. Are you ready to unlock your full potential? Jay introduces the concept of 25-minute stretches of focused work, strategically interspersed with 5-minute breaks—a game-changer for heightened productivity. Or engage in job-related tasks for 52 minutes and then take a 17-minute break. Jay sheds light on the wisdom behind the practice of tackling the easiest or hardest tasks first, providing valuable insights into mastering time management. Let's uncover the secrets of distinguishing between creative and logical days, understanding how to harness each for optimal results. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to become more productive effectively How to manage your time without stress How to be more intentional with time management The best way to remain productive is to find ways to eliminate distractions that keep you from accomplishing your tasks. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:20 Do you want to become more productive this month? 03:44 #1: Engage In Job Related Tasks For 52 Minutes And Then Take A 17-Minute Break 06:57 #2: The 25 minute stretches of focused work broken down by 5-minute breaks 11:32 #3: TTC - Task, Time, Calendar 15:44 #4: The Practice of Doing the Easiest/Hardest Things First 17:38 #5: Creative Versus Logical Days 22:00 #6: Energy Versus Time 25:13 #7: Putting Your Phone Away Lessens DistractionSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2 Feb 202429min

Do you feel that you struggle with being authentic? Do you want to overcome the judgment of society's perceptions of what it means to be authentic? Today, Jay sits down with Lil Nas X. Lil Nas X is a 24-year-old award-winning rapper, singer, songwriter from Atlanta, Georgia. Dubbed “an internationally recognized phenomenon” by Billboard, Lil Nas X rose to fame in 2019 when he released “Old Town Road” and shattered genre norms, disrupted the charts and went viral worldwide. After a highly successful EP and several multi-platinum songs, Nas went on to release his critically acclaimed and GRAMMY-nominated debut album Montero in September 2021, which featured the culture-shifting 6x Platinum hit “MONTERO (Call Me By Your Name)”. Following the release of Lil Nas X’s latest single “J CHRIST”, his beautiful new documentary, Lil Nas X: Long Live Montero, debuted this weekend on HBO and is available to stream now on Max. In this vulnerable episode Lil Nas X shares his story from being a shy kid in Atlanta Georgie to achieving his wildest dreams. Lil Nas X has proven that there is power of self-awareness and embracing your true identity, even in the face of loss and grief. He shares with us personal stories that have shaped him into the person he is today, and the person he is working on becoming. The conversation navigates through fears, the misunderstood aspects of Lil Nas' message in his latest single, and the importance of cherishing time with family. They discuss spirituality, the quest for genuine love, dealing with a lack of control, and overcoming inner voices. In this interview, you'll learn: How to embrace authenticity How to deal with societal expectations How to be true to yourself How to genuinely believe in what you love to do How to make peace with your inner voice Tune in for a thought-provoking and heartwarming conversation that validates our humanness, flaws and strengths, and our ability to overcome difficult times. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:42 Fascination for Time Traveling 03:55 Lil Nas X Helped Montero Morph Out of Being a Super Shy Kid 07:04 There’s No Reason to Stop, Even You Mess Up 08:57 What’s Your Favorite Childhood Memory? 10:32 Becoming Self Aware and More In Tune with Your Sexuality 11:24 Losing a Loved One to Cancer 16:22 A Song About not Being Present When a Loved One Needed You So Much 17:39 Appreciating and Cherishing Time Spent with Family 19:27 What Scares You the Most Right Now? 20:56 What Does Positive Chaos Look LIke? 22:14 The Part of Montero’s Message That Got Misunderstood 26:30 My Relationship with My Father 28:52 We All Have Our Own Ideals in Seeing Other People 31:09 Freedom to Explore Your Spirituality 35:05 This One Being That’s Connected to Everything 36:28 Being Authentic and Relatable at the Same Time 38:37 Fully Open to Finding Real, Genuine Love 42:10 Overpowering the Voices in Your Head 45:23 The Ability to Recognize that Everything has Its Place 45:58 Allowing Your Younger Self to Grow 47:35 Things that Haven’t Been Said to My Family Are in the Documentary 50:35 How to Help Others Work on Their Best Self 54:04 How Do We Deal with Our Lack of Control? 56:03 Why We Need to Relax Sometimes to Stay Sane 57:23 The Habit of Watching a Movie to Take a Break 59:34 What Are You Focusing on Over the Next 12 Months? 01:01:39 Do You Believe in Angel Numbers? 01:03:24 What Do You Do When You Can’t See the Signs? 01:05:11 Lil Nas X on Final Five Episode Resources: Lil Nas X | Instagram Lil Nas X | Twitter Lil Nas X | YouTube Lil Nas X | TikTok Lil Nas X | Facebook Welcome to MonteroSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

29 Jan 20241h 9min

Are you struggling to silence your inner critic? Is it becoming too loud and overwhelming? Today, Jay guides you through the art of silencing your inner critic and the reasons behind our tendency to quit. Unpack the various types of criticism influencing our inner dialogue, and discover actionable tips to befriend your inner critic. Jay's insights span from the importance of self-love in catalyzing change to the transformative power of language, urging you to remove the "I Am" statement. Learn the practice of journaling wins, cultivating resilience, and celebrating daily victories. And unpack how to navigate challenges with resilience, staying true to your goals despite the internal resistance. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why your inner critic is so loud How to take control of your inner critic How to think differently about yourself How to celebrate small wins Listen in, reflect, be in tune to a more positive and empowered self-perception. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:00 How To Silence Your Inner Critic When It’s Too Loud 03:29 This Is The Reason Why We Quit Doing Something 05:15 The Two Broad Types Of Criticism 06:35 7 Tips To Befriend Your Inner Critic 08:03 #1: You Can’t Hate Yourself Into Change 12:24 #2: Give Your Inner Critic A Name 12:56 #3: You Heard Your Inner Critic From Someone Else First 16:55 #4: Remove The “I Am” Statement 17:59 #5: Don’t Let Your Inner Critic Stop You From Making The Right Action 23:24 #6: Start Journaling Your Wins And Good Moments 26:04 #7: Write Down 3 Things You Did Well TodaySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

26 Jan 202428min

Do you want to know how to respond when no one believes you? Do you know other people’s perception of you isn’t your reality? Today, Jay Shetty sits down with Daniel Kaluuya. Known for his role as Fred Hampton in Shaka King's American biographical crime drama film Judas and The Black Messiah, Daniel won the 2021 Academy Award, British Academy Film Award, and Golden Globe Award for Best Actor in Supporting Role. His feature film writing debut with Netflix, The Kitchen has received positive reviews. While football is a well loved topic between Jay and Daniel, the conversation shifted on Daniel’s earliest childhood memories that left an indelible mark on his life. We uncover the roots of his resilience and determination and his unwavering interest in writing. Daniel looks back into the challenges he faced for having dark skin and offers his insights on how to change our mindset around racism. We will learn about the cost of chasing our desires, the inspiration behind “The Kitchen”, and the transformative power of bringing ideas into existence. Together they unpack the importance of making peace with people's perceptions, and the courage it takes to share your work and passion with the world. In this interview, you’ll learn: How to pursue your passion How overcome your limits How to turn ideas into reality How to develop resilience Join us on this soul-stirring exploration of life, growth, and the resilience that lies within each of us. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:19 Earliest Childhood Memory That Changed Your Life 06:07 What Would You Do When No One Believes In You? 08:51 How the Interest in Writing Started 11:52 Learning the Art of Improv 14:25 Shared Love for Football 19:27 Getting Shamed for Having Dark Skin 23:37 How to Change Your Mindset Around Racism 25:41 Standing Up For the Decisions that You Make 27:46 The Cost of Wanting Something is High 30:25 The Inspiration for The Kitchen 33:54 Exposing Why People Live the Way They Do 38:36 Overcoming the Fear of Making an Idea a Reality 43:16 The Power of One Idea 48:21 How Bringing Things into Existence can Change You 52:29 Making Peace with People’s Perception of You 58:51 Sharing Your Work and Passion to the World 01:01:36 Daniel on Final Five Episode Resources: Daniel Kaluuya | InstagramSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

22 Jan 20241h 5min