On Purpose with Jay Shetty

Ever find yourself yearning for a deeper bond with those around you? Creating deeper connections doesn't have to be an exhausting or daunting task. We can still create connections in the simplest most ordinary ways if we make time for it and show sincerity. From the hustle and bustle of everyday life to the moments of solitude, we'll uncover the secrets to forging relationships that stand the test of time. Your social life doesn't have to feel like a performance – let's make it a celebration. Let's explore how broadening your emotional language can be the key to unlocking a world of deeper connections. Say goodbye to surface-level chatter and say hello to discussions that spark genuine connections. From sharing smiles with strangers to using technology to our advantage, each habit is a stepping stone to deeper relationships. In this episode, you'll learn: How to bridge connection gap How to tune into yourself before making connections How to be more vocal about your emotions How to make new memories with old friends How to start engaging conversations Hope you're able to genuinely connect with someone today. Let's make every connection count! With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:36 Do you sometimes feel lonely, or disconnected from the people around you? 07:58 Habit #1: Check in with yourself - Does your social life start to feel like work or when your social life feels like it's non-existent? 14:14 Habit #2: Expand your emotional vocabulary - If you wanna see, hear, and understand and value other people better, you need to expand your emotional vocabulary 17:56 Habit #3: Old new and new old - While we use nostalgia to build connection, try to build new memories with an old friend 20:44 Habit #4: Ask interesting questions - Go for more open and fascinating questions that won’t pressure other people to answer 23:05 Habit #5: Deep versus shallow time - Take the time to invest in creating a small group where you can build deeper connections 26:07 Habit #6: Look for patterns and connections where others don’t see them 27:20 Habit #7: Smile at strangers and say hello creates an energy for small moments of connection 28:40 Habit #8: Use technology to your advantage and connect with people you haven’t talked with in a while or reconnect with them anytime 30:04 Habit #9: Giving creates connect - When you give someone a part of you, a piece of you, a truth about you, it allows you to connect with them 30:52 Habit #10: Invite people for ordinary tasks - It’s okay to spend time with people in boring ways and connect with them 31:34 Habit #11: Connecting with people in all ages See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

1 Sep 202333min

Why do we often struggle when we are trying to build a lasting relationship with someone? Why is love not enough to make two people genuinely care for each other and stay happy together? Let's unpack the conversation I had with Lori Gottlieb. Lori is a psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, which has sold nearly two million copies and is currently being adapted as a television series. In addition to her clinical practice, she is co-host of the popular “Dear Therapists” podcast now in its 4th season. In this digital age, the power of in-person conversations is unparalleled, therefore, face-to-face discussions not only ease challenging topics but also strengthen connections, even in times of disagreement. We will eExplore the fascinating urge to share our stories when conversations turn distant. Uncover the psychology behind this impulse and its impact on nurturing authentic connections. It's important to find the balance between desired traits and the potential for mutual growth. And boundaries aren't about controlling others; they're about prioritizing self-care. In this interview, you'll learn: How to deal with unwanted peer pressure How to master difficult conversations The importance of setting early relationship goals How to balance the qualities we look for in a partner The positive impact of active listening How to navigate relationship triggers Let's uncover the truths, debunk the myths, and reshape the way you perceive and nurture connections. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:02 What should you do if a friend is pushing you to do something that makes you uncomfortable? 03:24 In-person conversations ease difficult discussions; connection persists despite disagreement 05:16 Set relationship goals early; they reveal compatibility quickly 07:47 Social anxiety often mirrors our childhood treatment 11:51 The urge to discuss oneself grows when sensing disinterest or neglect in conversations 16:24 Your potential partner might possess certain preferred qualities, yet not encompass all you seek 18:26 Identify your deal breakers and let go of the relationship fantasies we grew up with 22:25 How to shift from rigidity to actively listening to your partner? 26:47 By comprehending your partner's triggers, you can guide them back to the present moment 29:28 Boundaries involve defining self-care actions, not manipulating others' behavior around you 35:14 Consistency with our self-set boundaries fosters meaningful connections 39:10 Let go of what you couldn’t have and then go find it in someone without trying to change them 41:41 What does money and gender roles represent in your relationship? 44:56 Having an authentic, open, and genuine conversation, even if uncomfortable, isn't unkind 49:22 Dating entails the concessions you're ready to offer and those your partner commits to as well 53:32 You can multitask your pursuits. It's fine to follow your passion while staying in your current situation 57:33 Journaling creates a safe space for self-expression, free from the fear of judgment by others 01:02:02 Journaling offers the advantage of cultivating accountability through increased self-compassion 01:04:45 A breakup is a form of grief, as you've lost a shared past and the gradually constructed future with that person Episode Resources: Lori Gottlieb | YouTube Lori Gottlieb | Instagram Lori Gottlieb | Website Dear Therapists Podcast Maybe You Should Talk to SomeoneSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

28 Aug 20231h 14min

Relationships often start with a spark, but how do you keep that spark alive without getting burnt? It's a common question that many couples face as they navigate the complexities of maintaining a healthy and deep relationship. Today, we will look deep into seeing the differences between a toxic and a healthy relationship and uncover the ways to build a lasting one. Every relationship is different - but understanding these four different toxic traits that are common in relationships will help you move away from something that is not serving you. Moving to a healthy relationship when you’re coming from a toxic one is difficult but finding the courage to do so is a crucial step towards your emotional well-being and personal growth. In this episode, you'll learn: How to prioritize healthy love over perfection How to embrace each other’s unique identities How to avoid over-reliance and codependence How to practice transparent communication Hope that this guides you through a more healthy and happy relationship! With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:32 What is the real definition of healthy vs. unhealthy love? 03:56 Toxic Trait #1: Over-reliance on one person - Do you go to your partner for everything that you need? 11:41 Toxic Trait #2: The idea of trying to change someone - We try to change our partners to be like us but have we ever thought about letting them be them and we be ourselves? 16:36 Toxic Trait #3: Playing games - Are you pursuing peace with your partner or are you pursuing power over your partner? 22:20 Toxic Trait #4: Losing your own identity - Don’t sacrifice your interests and independence for a relationshipSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

25 Aug 202327min

Have you tirelessly pursued a dream, only to discover an underlying emptiness even after achieving it? Many have experienced this paradox of achieving a dream, yet still feeling unfulfilled. It's a common experience where the pursuit of a goal doesn't always lead to lasting contentment. Today, we have a special guest who's been on the podcast before - multi-platinum rapper, singer-songwriter, producer, and best-selling author - Russ. Russ talks to us about his successful music career and the highs and lows that come with fame and excess. He shares his self-development journey and the realizations he's come to by facing his emotions and going to therapy. Russ' fifth studio album SANTIAGO was released on August 18th, 2023. In our quest for understanding, we shatter the myth of perfectionism, revealing its often-hidden undercurrents and the misconceptions around seeking help. We will examine the roles we play in the lives of others and the profound effects of vulnerability on our connections, the profound shift in mindset that dismantles rigidity and nurtures flexibility, and the role of emotional suppression in men's lives. Intriguing conversations lead us to the heart of healthy internal dialogue, providing tools to process thoughts and emotions while nurturing a sense of self-awareness. We contemplate the intricate relationship between our identities and the roles we assume, and the transformative effects of releasing these roles when they no longer serve us. In this interview, you will learn: The emotional struggles of men The misconceptions about being a perfectionist How to have a healthy dialogue with yourself How to get around destructive habits How evolution is part of personal growth How to become flexible in life We invite you to join us on this deep exploration of self, witnessing the power of embracing authenticity and confronting insecurities head-on. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:19 What happens when you keep chasing after something you thought you wanted but you still feel empty? 04:46 Men have become professionals in masking their emotions. What happens when it becomes too much? 08:43 What do men struggle with the most? How are they coping with it? 11:27 The misconception about being a perfectionist and how help is being coded as a form of criticism 14:26 What role do you play in other people’s lives? 16:15 Why are men afraid to show vulnerability to others, especially around women? 19:43 Everyone is at a different place in their journey, wherever you maybe right now is fine 22:57 Stop chasing approval and validation from other people 31:22 What are the practices you’re doing to validate yourself? 34:14 Healthy internal dialogue with yourself can help you process the thoughts in your mind 38:39 If your identity is based on the role you play, what happens when you can longer play that role? 39:49 What does growing up and then growing down mean? 40:58 “I don’t like myself.” Have you felt this before? 42:27 Why does the rejection of your insecurities lead to destructive habits? 45:51 What insecurity have you been holding onto? 48:00 If you can talk to your younger self now, what do you need to hear? 52:07 If you still carry the same beliefs from your younger self after learning so a lot of things then you’re not growing 56:29 The downside of having the mentality that you’re always right 58:41 The shift in mindset that can help you remove rigidity and become more flexible 01:04:01 This version of yourself that has not been shown to the world 01:06:17 Do you create a false sense of safety and security in your life? 01:11:09 Creating music after a book and the message it portrays Episode Resources: Russ | YouTube Russ | Instagram Russ | Facebook Russ | TikTok Russ | WebsiteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

21 Aug 20231h 20min

How can we navigate the challenges of communication in relationships, especially when faced with difficult conversations? How can personal growth and self-development impact our relationships, and what challenges might arise from this? Communication is the lifeblood of any relationship, yet navigating tough conversations can be daunting. And society loves painting relationships with broad strokes, but the canvas of human connection is far more intricate. Today, I am excited to share the conversation I had with Krista Williams of the Almost 30 podcast. We focused on why nobody teaches us about love and how to give and fully receive it. Life has a knack for teaching us lessons that craft intimacy but let's not be swayed by the virtual façade. Instead, let's tear down the walls and unearth the truth behind meaningful connections that transcend screens. Understanding oneself is the gateway to banishing the echoes of loneliness and by exploring love's multi-dimensional essence, we will learn the three focal points that breed growth, trust, and intimacy. We'll uncover the roles we play in relationships and shatter society's molds to find our truth as well as unlock the art of communicating through discomfort. In this interview, you'll learn: The key decisions we make in life How to unlock your truth The real definition of love The different roles we play in any relationship How to deal with relationship struggles How to set the right intentions Your journey to self-discovery and enriched connections starts here. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:40 Here are the four important decisions you will keep making in your life 07:13 How do you get your relationship right? Maybe, allow life to humble you 10:11 The truth is social media doesn’t have much impact on genuine relationships 13:38 If you don't feel you understand yourself, you will feel alone 19:04 Love doesn’t have one definition, it has three key areas you can focus on 25:27 Spark alone doesn’t make a relationship work 29:40 Should people marry their bestfriend? Is it a healthy relationship choice? 32:00 Everyone grows at a different time and at a different phase 37:48 What are the three different roles we play in our relationships? 41:09 46:34 The projection society has for men and women might not be our truth 54:07 Not everyone is going to learn from the resource materials you have learned from 01:19:40 Are women going through personal growth, self-development, and work fatigue? 01:01:00 This is why making other people your purpose doesn’t work 01:04:31 We want to talk about how people behave and or how they act, but we don't want to talk about our intentions 01:09:02 People often struggle in a relationship because they don’t know how to talk about hard things 01:13:11 Books are not meant to be read, it’s meant to help guide you in difficult and challenging timesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

18 Aug 20231h 22min

Change is the only constant, and in this fast-paced world, we strive to keep up with its relentless flow. How can we train our minds to embrace discomfort and uncertainty, unlearning the inner voice that holds us back from taking action? Today, I welcome Ariel Emanuel, the Chief Executive Officer of Endeavor (NYSE: EDR), a global sports and entertainment company, home to many of the world’s most dynamic and engaging storytellers, brands, live events and experiences. The company is comprised of industry leaders including entertainment agency WME; sports, fashion, events and media company IMG; and premier mixed martial arts organization UFC®. In this conversation, we are going into a transformative journey, exploring the power of releasing anger, and understanding the shifting objectives that shape our lives. Learn practical strategies to embrace growth and train our minds to be comfortable with discomfort, allowing us to navigate change with grace and resilience, unlearn the habit of silencing the inner voice that blocks us from taking action, and challenge societal definitions of success and explore the importance of defining our own path and purpose. You will learn: How to embrace discomfort and be comfortable with it When to start listening to your inner voice Why anger is unproductive How to shift your mindset and relearn contentment How to seize opportunities to create the life you desire Why we need to pursue health and wellness Let us awaken the wisdom within us and live a life aligned with our truest values and aspirations. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:50 Change is happening a lot faster nowadays and we’re trying to keep up to it 02:03 How can you train your mind to be comfortable with discomfort? 04:49 Unlearning how to not listen to your inner voice that’s stopping you from taking action 07:27 Anger can only get you to a certain point but there’s nothing more to it 12:36 Did you grow up with a stack of objectives that has changed overtime? 13:50 We don’t often realize when we’re no longer in a competitive state and we find it difficult to shift our mindset 19:17 What’s the difference between success and contentment? 21:13 “Life is not a dress rehearsal, you better get to where you want to get to.” 24:03 How do you build something from scratch and without enough funding? 26:45 Recalling a life event that has completely changed the trajectory of your life 32:14 How do you operate your life? Do you allow others' definition of success to dictate your life? 36:19 “It’s not about living forever, it’s about being healthy while you live.” 39:21 What types of therapies are you taking interest in? 41:37 When you’re making high risk decisions, what do you do? How do you prepare? 45:15 How do you create a space for talents to be able to freely create their content? 48:21 The shift from a full workforce at the office to people having the option to work from home 50:28 What has been the biggest failure in your life? 53:00 How do you get out of the I-got-to-jump-and-respond state? 54:15” You have to work hard and you have to show up.” 56:43 Ariel on Final Five Episode Resources: EndeavorSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

14 Aug 20231h 5min

Have you ever been caught in the intricate web of guilt and shame, unable to discern their differences and the profound impact they can have on our lives? It is in the embrace of these complexities that we embark on a journey of self-discovery, unraveling the layers of guilt and shame to illuminate the path towards growth. In this episode, we shall delve into the depths of guilt, examining its many forms and manifestations. Whether it's the persistent burden of past mistakes, the impact of our actions on those around us, the guilt that stems from unmet expectations and commitments, or the often overlooked sensation of privilege guilt, there are ways to overcome these emotions. As we go through the different types, we shall emerge with newfound insights and perspectives, better equipped to navigate these complex emotions. Through understanding, reflection, and conscious action, we shall rise above guilt's shadows and embrace the light of self-forgiveness, empowerment, and transformation. In this episode you'll learn: The difference between guilt and shame The different types of guilt How to deal with the emotional burdens of guilt How to grow from getting stuck in the past This is a journey of emotional growth, healing, and attaining inner peace that you wouldn’t want to miss. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:37 Let’s understand the difference between shame and guilt and how to define them 05:03 What are the different types of guilt we experience in life? 12:09 The five types of guilt and how you can grow out of it 13:51 Type #1: Do you often think of a past mistake and still feel guilty about it? 19:27 Type #2: You feel guilty when someone tells you how your action made them feel bad 24:03 Type #3: The guilt of not making time for others or letting someone else down 26:46 Type #4: The guilt of not having pain, of having privilege, or having safety and security 28:12 Type #5: The survival guilt, that guilty feeling when you’ve gotten through something difficult when others didn’t See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

11 Aug 202336min

Have you ever found yourself thinking you're fine, only to discover that something is not right within your own body? When is the right time to consciously invest in your health, and just how crucial is it to understand your family's health history? There are so many questions and so many answers are needed for us to get a better understanding of our own health. Today, I am excited to share the conversation I had with Peter Attia. Peter is the founder of Early Medical, a medical practice that applies the principles of Medicine 3.0 to patients with the goal of lengthening their lifespan and simultaneously improving their healthspan. He is the host of The Drive, one of the most popular podcasts covering the topics of health and medicine. We explore the the detrimental effects of over-nourishment and three transformative approaches to address this imbalance and unlock the path to optimal well-being, the concept of glucose control and its profound impact on our overall health, and the consequences of consuming nutrient-deficient plants and unravel the complex interplay between regenerative agriculture and the quality of our soil. In our pursuit of healing, we delve into the profound connection between childhood wounds and maladaptive behaviors in adulthood and identify the self-destructive behaviors that may be hindering your progress. In this interview, you'll learn: How to reverse aging When is the best time to invest in your health How to predict and prevent possible health risks The benefits of changing your diet to address deficiencies in your body The link between physical and mental health How unaddressed big T traumas negatively affect our adult life How to undo your self-destructive behaviors Join us on this transformative journey as we uncover the wisdom and insights needed to cultivate a life of vitality, resilience, and healing. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:14 When you think you’re doing okay but you found out that something is wrong with your body 03:42 When is the right time to consciously start investing in your health? 08:50 How important is it to know your family’s health history? 11:26 What is the best methodology to get a complete family history? 14:16 How do people know how healthy they are? How can you predict health risks early? 19:02 Did you know that over-nourishment is bad for our body? There are three ways to address this 25:31 Do you need to take supplements? If so, what types of supplements are good for your body? 28:39 Are you familiar with glucose control? What is it and how can it help you? 35:50 What happens when you’re eating plants that are less nutrient-dense? 39:11 What is regenerative agriculture and complexity of agricultural soil? 45:09 Should people grow their own vegetable garden, and how can they maintain a good quality soil? 49:04 What is the link between your physical and mental health? 53:10 How do wounded children become adoptive children and become mal-adoptive in their adult life? 55:23 Why is it difficult for us to turn around and acknowledge the root of our pain and suffering? 01:04:54 What are your regrets in life? At the moment, what’s your greatest source of joy? 01:10:39 There are certain things in our life that are non-negotiable 01:17:36 Are there any proven ways to prevent and confront cancer? 01:23:53 Have you identified your self destructive behaviors? 01:28:09 Peter on Final Five Episode Resources: Peter Attia | Website Peter Attia | YouTube Peter Attia | Instagram Peter Attia | Facebook Outlive: The Science and Art of Longevity The Drive Podcast EarlySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

7 Aug 20231h 35min