Life Uncut

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. Every week we are live across the country on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials. What's on the show Can you judge someone by the bread of their dog Cyber farting a criminal case MAFS expert John Aiken Ben exposed himself on TV Angie Kent and her IVF journey You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

9 Feb 47min

We’ve said it a hundred times; communication is everything. But we aren’t really ever taught how to actually communicate. What makes someone a good communicator? And why is it so important? People aren’t just born good communicators and it’s something that we can all improve our skills on. Joining the podcast today is Pulitzer prize winning reporter and author Charles Duhigg. Charles’ most recent book titled ‘supercommunicators’ investigated the simple and tested methods for communicating and connecting with anyone. Charles went deep on what exactly makes someone THE person that everyone wants to have conversations with; whether it be in your romantic relationship, at work, with friends and even with strangers. We speak about: How having ‘different types’ conversations with partners is likely why you feel misunderstood or not listened to Becoming ‘neurally entrained’ and using the ‘matching principle’ to be a good communicator How to ask the right questions The communication of conflict and how to avoid it - ‘when you’re feeling furious, get curious.’ Can you ‘learn’ to use communication in a manipulative way EQ, unlike EQ is learned, not born with The difference between true vulnerability and fake vulnerability You can find more from Charles at his website You can follow Charles’ InstagramHis book “supercommunicators - How to unlock the secret language of connection’ is available in hardcopy and audiobook on audible and spotify. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

6 Feb 54min

Hey Lifers! Lola turned 4 and Matt would apparently prefer a mango than... intimate time with Laura. Mangoes are particularly juicy at this time of the year though.Britt has been very busy for the last few weeks working on a secret project that she can finally reveal! We speak about how Ben felt when he first found out, why the show has such a spicy reputation overseas and how she's been going with her partner! Are celebrities 'renting' wombs?Surrogacy is nothing new to the celebrity world but the response to Lily Collin's baby arrival was quite unusual. Comments like: "Surrogacy becoming a trend between celebrities is one of the finest expressions of capitalism," and "You are so rich that you think you can use a woman as an incubator and you can purchase a baby." We unpack whether we feel differently about surrogacy if a surrogate is commissioned for non medical reasons. In a world where women are told they can 'have it all and be it all,' do we have a problem when a woman outsources her pregnancy? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

4 Feb 48min

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deepest dilemmas!Last week we learned that Laura was in her mid twenties when she realised how chickens procreated. It turns out, she was absolutely not alone! Which voice do you like your robots to have? Are you into the simple factory setting Siri or would you prefer a bit of hot guy ASMR? Vibes for the week:Laura - The Six Triple Eight film on NetflixBritt - The Telepathy Tapes PodcastKeeshia - The Traitors US on 10Play Then we jump into your questions! USED CONDOMI was with my ex for almost 3 years when we had a baby. The baby was 1 and things in our relationship went downhill. We called it off due to my partner needing space. 3 weeks after breaking up we had a chat and agreed that we would see each other again and not see anyone else. I have now found a used condom in the bin. Some background context; he got asked to be a sperm donor by a friend and has said that he masturbated into the condom to save it. Am I wrong in not believing why the condom was used? FAST MOVING RELATIONSHIP AND THEFTI have been seeing a guy for about 6 months. It’s one of those romances that moves quite fast and feels so perfect. I have not had many adult relationships, never felt this loved so it’s all full steam ahead. I’ve had a few comments from friends and family about the speed we are moving but that’s probably expected. We are currently applying for houses so we can live together. He has kids from past relationships that he has a lot of the time. I love kids so no problem here.My question is I have just found out that he has some legal proceedings coming up this year. He used someone else’s bank details to purchase items for himself, so effectively stealing/fraud but he stands by that he was told he could spend the money on himself even though he thought it seemed a bit odd at the time. He will be pleading guilty as his lawyer advised this will be the best outcome for him. I am so conflicted as I have never felt this loved by someone and felt like I was really finally getting my fairy tale ending after watching everyone else get theirs. Is it a bad idea to stand by and support him while he goes through this knowing he has stolen from someone? I can’t even fathom having to try and find someone else at this point as I really want kids of my own in the next few years and it took me 10 years to find someone. WE ELOPED AND MY PARENTS ARE ANGRYMy husband and I recently eloped overseas. We made the decision to keep it a surprise and tell everyone at the same time with individual messages to our immediate families and social media informing all other family and friends. Everyone so far has been extremely happy for us and shared that excitement, mainly my husband's family. My parents however have not contacted me since we told them over 2 weeks ago, absolute radio silence. I preempted this reaction from my mum seeing as my MIL was actually on the holiday with us and was able to be at the elopement. I knew this would upset her, however I still hoped she could put aside her personal hurt to still be happy for us. I am angry at my parents for their lack of interest in such a pivotal point in my life and am adamant that I am not the one who needs to reach out at this time. Am I right to leave the ball in their court to reach out? Every day that goes by seriously affects how our relationship looks in the future. Please note my mum is often a selfish person who is always the victim. My dad hurts more though as he appears to have sided with mum in not messaging me even personally. DEALING WITH MY MILMy MIL plays a minimal role in our daughter's life, but recently we have asked her to mind our little one for an hour each week. When the MIL comes over, she is always calling me a ‘mean mum’ to my daughter. For example, we were heading off for a big swim in the river, the furthest I would have ever swam and I had made myself some food which was different to my daughter’s dinner as I have lots of food allergies. Of course my daughter wanted some of mine, but I was trying to encourage her to eat her own food. My mother in law then called me a ‘mean mum’ over and over again. Our daughter is 18 months and will probably begin to understand the animosity here soon. I always play nice and laugh it off. She NEVER does this when my husband is around, so when I tell him about it, as much as he believes me, it makes it tricky to bring up. I have tried saying things like, ‘Hey, that’s not very fair or kind’, but she continues. Any further suggestions? My family lives 4 hours away and I really need that 1 hour break so I can go exercise with my husband and we have time together. Our second baby is on the way and I can’t afford to damage the relationship further. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2 Feb 55min

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. Every week we live across the country at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials. What's on the show Building resilience in kids Ben joins us from Italy Can you parent another persons kid? We have feelings about Tim from MAFS Bonnie Blue vs a teenager's mum Laura's Beef with Matt You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2 Feb 39min

Toni Lodge is a comedian, the author of ‘I don’t need therapy’ (and other lies I’ve told) and half of the Toni and Ryan podcast! The perfect way to sum up today’s episode is ‘dark humour’. Toni is truly one of the funniest people we’ve ever met and she shares two of the most ‘vulnerable’ accidentally unfiltered stories we’ve ever heard.We speak about Toni’s rise to being one of the most popular podcasters in the country after being told that she wasn’t quite the right fit for the microphone when she was in radio. We speak about the different ways that people reach success in media these days and not having to check the same boxes that people used to. We take a bit of a behind the scenes tour into how podcasting actually works, how it’s monetised, who owns what etc. We speak about: The dynamics of relationships when you work with one of your closest friends Choosing to be child free and finding peace with that decision Grief can look different to what we expect it to Feeling like it was really hard to casually speak about her mum after she passed away Toni wants people to stop saying “sorry” when someone passes away Achieving things after losing a parent and wanting to be able to tell them Handling grief and sad things in general with humour creates a split crowd Writing down your non negotiables - 5 things that you will not leave this life without achieving You can find more from Toni on her Instagram and her podcast You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

30 Jan 57min

Ciao Bellas!Britt has some very exciting news! She knows how to order ice cream, wine and ask where the toilet is of her new 'home' and frankly, what more do you need? Matt has done a 'tucker trial' in the jungle and Britt is revisiting her worst memories of the jungle that include spitting a half chewed pig's nipple at Robert Irwin's shoe...Vote to save Matt here!MAFS is back and we unpack the over production and whether you'd give someone a second chance! It brought up some questions about whether people can actually change, whether timing is a factor or whether some people are just manipulative and reality TV literate. We've realised that after so much self development over the course of this podcast, we've still got some lessons to learn. Have you ever heard of something called 'cash for comment'? It's a bit of an industry phrase that we all have to abide by but today we're questioning whether this particular example was worth 'cracking' down on. We discuss some other examples of when it’s happened but there haven’t been repercussions for other media personalities, and whether those situations were actually more shady and manipulative. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

28 Jan 47min

Hey Lifers! Laura's past is coming back to haunt Britt and this time it's in the form of 8 legged creatures! Also just a reminder that this is not a national geographic podcast and you should take our animal facts with about a 50% accuracy assumption... Vibes for the week! Britt: Nektech MassagerKeeshia: Diddy: the Making of a Bad Boy on BingeLaura: An Update On Our Family Docuseries on Binge Then we jump into your questions! MY TWO HOUSEMATES ARE SLEEPING TOGETHERWe recently found out that two of my housemates are sleeping together and I can’t help but be a little pissed off at them. The guy recently had a messy breakup in the first week of our lease where his partner (one of my best friends) had to move out. The house is only just recovering from this. The girl he is sleeping with (our other housemate) has lived with us for two and half months so she was also living with the guy's ex. I’m finding it hard to be nice to them around the house but have been told by my partner for the sake of the house to be pleasant.What should I do? FINGER UP THE BUMThis was a hot topic out for dinner with my girlfriends…. if you man sticks his finger up your butt during foreplay/sex what does it mean? Is it for your pleasure? Because he wants the same in return or could it be that he wants to try anal? Or is it just a simple finger in the butt that shouldn’t be questioned? ROOMMATES CATS DAMAGING PROPERTYI live in a shared house with two other girls. One of the girls has adopted two cats that now live with us. The cats are damaging property in the house that belongs to me like countless houseplants and scratching/making pulls in the couch. Am I within my right to ask for financial reimbursement for damages to my property or asking her to replace these items? She doesn’t apologise for the damage or destruction/death of plants and instead blames me. How should I approach this and is it fair to ask for financial reimbursement? BOYFRIEND DOESN'T WANT TO TALK ABOUT EXESIs it ok For your boyfriend of 3 years to not want to talk about his exes ? I feel like for me it’s not a big deal. Your past is your past, which is something you should be able to share with the love of your life: It’s part of who you are and why and how you’ve grown? Why should it matter if you have moved on? Why can’t or doesn’t he want to talk about it? He is 32 and I’m 28? Any suggestions or thoughts? We spoke about the episode with Haven Shepherd that you can watch here! You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

26 Jan 43min