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Join my FREE masterclass on How To Parent With A Narcissist: https://carolinestrawson.com/parenting-masterclass  Order my NEW book here: https://carolinestrawson.showit.site/book   On today's episode of Trauma and Narcissism Redefined, I'm discussing the difficulties of parenting alongside a narcissist - even after separation. Narcissists will often try to use your children against you, whether that be through forcing you to rely on them financially, influencing their opinion of you directly, or using the court system against you in the case of divorce.   In fact when you go through a divorce with a narcissist the abuse doesn't stop, it often escalates. This is known as post-separation abuse, and only through understanding their methods and healing yourself can you break out of the cycle.   Key topics covered in this episode: The impact of narcissistic abuse on parenting and self-worth Strategies for setting boundaries through parallel parenting Techniques for managing your emotions and nervous system The difference between changing the situation and managing your internal response   Join me for my free How To Parent With A Narcissist masterclass, live on Sunday 15th September. In it I'll be covering key strategies like parallel parenting, nervous system regulation, and the importance of putting your own oxygen mask on first before supporting your children. Sign up even if you can't attend live as I'll be sending out the recording afterwards   Resources: Join my FREE Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse Access my low cost Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/ Find me on TikTok!: https://www.tiktok.com/@carolinestrawson My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

10 Sep 20249min

Join the waitlist for my Narcissistic Trauma Informed Coaching Certification: https://carolinestrawson.com/ntic-waitlist Order my NEW book here: https://carolinestrawson.showit.site/book   I've dedicated my life to understanding and overcoming the devastating effects of narcissistic abuse. In this episode, I take you on a deeply personal journey, sharing how my own harrowing experience with a narcissistic ex-husband opened my eyes to the insidious nature of this form of domestic abuse.   When I was trapped in that toxic relationship, I thought my ex was simply a "cheat" - but as I delved deeper, I realised the betrayal ran far deeper. The silent treatment he used as a tool of manipulation and control was just one of the many ways he systematically eroded my self-worth and sense of self. By understanding the complexities of behaviours like silent treatment and cheating, we can begin to break free from the cycle of abuse and reclaim our power.   Key topics covered in this episode: The insidious nature of silent treatment as a tool of narcissistic abuse The impact of narcissistic abuse on one's sense of self-worth and how to heal from it The complexities of cheating and its role in narcissistic relationships Distinguishing between healthy and abusive silence   Resources: Join my FREE Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse Access my low cost Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/ Find me on TikTok!: https://www.tiktok.com/@carolinestrawson My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

3 Sep 202411min

Join the waitlist for my Narcissistic Trauma Informed Coaching Certification: https://carolinestrawson.com/ntic-waitlist   Order my NEW book here: https://carolinestrawson.showit.site/book   In this episode, I explore the importance of addressing trauma and narcissistic abuse not just through traditional talk therapy, but also through somatic and nervous system-based approaches. I am passionate about advocating for a "top-down and bottom-up" approach that combines cognitive processing with healing the body and nervous system.   I share my own journey of discovering these somatic modalities and my frustration at being dismissed by the mainstream mental health system for not having a psychology degree, despite my extensive training and success in helping people heal. I am on a mission to bring more awareness to the need for integrating somatic practices into trauma and abuse recovery.   In this episode, we will explore: Why you can’t JUST talk about trauma and narcissistic abuse The importance of also feeling, processing, and healing the nervous system My personal experience with traditional talk therapy providing leading me to believe you can’t heal through talking alone My discovery of somatic modalities like EMDR, brain spotting, and breathwork to address the nervous system and body Resources: Join my FREE Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse Access my low cost Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/ Find me on TikTok!: https://www.tiktok.com/@carolinestrawson My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

27 Aug 202416min

Order my NEW book here: https://carolinestrawson.showit.site/book   In this episode, I explore the concept of reactive abuse - how narcissists can provoke their partners to react in ways that make the partner appear to be the abuser, when in fact they are the victim of the narcissist's manipulation.   I also discuss the feeling of not recognising oneself due to the changes in behaviour brought about by being in a relationship with a narcissist. I explain the dynamics of reactive abuse and provide guidance on how to navigate this challenging situation safely.   In this episode, we will explore: Understanding Reactive Abuse: What it is and how narcissists use it to manipulate their partners Navigating Safety and Exit Strategies: Prioritising safety when leaving a relationship with a narcissist Managing Emotional Reactions: Techniques for regulating the nervous system to avoid being provoked   Resources: Join my FREE Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse Access my low cost Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/ Find me on TikTok!: https://www.tiktok.com/@carolinestrawson My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

20 Aug 202413min

Order my NEW book here: https://carolinestrawson.showit.site/book   Are you aware of the hidden relationship between ADHD and Trauma? Today I delve into ADHD and trauma, exploring how these two conditions often overlap and influence each other. By understanding this crossover, we can better support those affected by both ADHD and trauma.   ADHD and trauma can create a complex interplay of symptoms and challenges, often making it difficult for individuals to navigate daily life. By shedding light on how these conditions intersect, we aim to provide valuable insights and practical advice for those seeking to understand and manage their experiences better.   In this episode, we will explore: The connection between ADHD and trauma and how they can coexist How trauma can impact ADHD symptoms and vice versa. The importance of proper diagnosis and tailored treatment plans. Effective strategies and therapies for managing symptoms and improving quality of life.   Resources: Join my FREE Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse Access my low cost Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/ Find me on TikTok!: https://www.tiktok.com/@carolinestrawson My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

13 Aug 202419min

Order my NEW book here: https://carolinestrawson.showit.site/book   Are you stuck waiting for some external validation to prove that you are enough? That you deserve to be happy? Well guess what, you DO deserve to be happy, but you don’t need a knight in shining armour to come along and save you to prove it.   It’s easy to tie your worth to another person, but their validation may be narcissistic behaviour pretending to be “the good guy”. You are worth it for who you are, not for what people say about you.   In this episode, we will explore: The motivations behind narcissistic behaviour Recognising the signs of a narcissist posing as your knight in shining armour Why you are a worthwhile person for who you are, not for how you are perceived   I also discuss some of my core wounds to help you see how I broke free of the narcissistic cycle, and how you too can prove to yourself that you are enough.   Resources: Join my FREE Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse Access my low cost Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/ Find me on TikTok!: https://www.tiktok.com/@carolinestrawson My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

6 Aug 202415min

Order my NEW book here: https://carolinestrawson.showit.site/book   There are ten distinct types of narcissism, but the most prevalent is the communal narcissist. 'Communal Narcissism' is characterised by the same sense of entitlement and grandiosity familiar from traditional narcissism, but is often hidden under the guise of doing the right thing.   When you first encounter a communal narcissist, it's unlikely that you will immediately recognise them as such. It often takes time to discern their personality traits and realise that their intentions may not be as sincere as you initially thought.   If you notice someone portraying themselves as the "good guy" in public but acting quite differently in private, there is a strong possibility they are a communal narcissist.   In this episode, we will explore: The signs of communal narcissism Why people become communal narcissists How to set boundaries around narcissists   Resources: Join my FREE Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse Access my low cost Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/ Find me on TikTok!: https://www.tiktok.com/@carolinestrawson My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

30 Juli 202414min

Order my NEW book here: http://carolinestrawson.com/pre-order   It’s official – my new book has launched, and I’m absolutely thrilled to share it with you all! Never in my wildest dreams did I imagine that I would be writing about my journey through a relationship with a covert narcissist. Eleven years ago, I hit rock bottom, both mentally and financially. Each day was a struggle to stave off panic attacks as I battled complex PTSD, feeling trapped in an endless nightmare.   In my book, I open up about the darkest period of my life and share how I managed to overcome these seemingly insurmountable obstacles. My hope is that my story will inspire and offer support to those facing similar struggles - because even in our darkest moments, there is always a path to recovery and renewal.   In this episode, we will explore: The Journey of Healing Recognising Covert Narcissism Surviving and Thriving After Abuse Raising Children Amidst Chaos   Resources: Join my FREE Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse Access my low cost Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/ Find me on TikTok!: https://www.tiktok.com/@carolinestrawson My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

23 Juli 202415min