S2 Ep. 8: How Can I Speed Up Sex, Should I Be Wary of Girly Talk, and Does it Take Longer to Orgasm as You Get Older?
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:1) Please can you suggest a way to speed up sex with my husband? He can last up to an hour at a time. It’s boring and I get sore. He thinks it’s something to be proud of but all I can think of is how to make it end. 2) Should it take longer to have an orgasm as you get older (men and women)?3) I’m a recently divorced man (42) and have been seeing a woman for two months. All is going well but she came over one night after seeing her friends – lots of drinking involved – and confessed she’d told them all about the sex we’ve been having. I think most of it was complimentary but she also told them about an incident that didn’t go well (she found it funny and I didn’t). Am I wrong to be annoyed about this? It’s made me think twice about her. And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUTracey writes a column summarizing the main points of each episode on Medium. Read it at https://bit.ly/3MhkxN4Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
1 Mars 202221min
S2 Ep. 7: When to Go and When to Stay, My Orgasms are Too Intense, and How to Talk to Men about Erection Problems
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:1) I am in a relationship that I’d describe as ‘just OK’. Sometimes it feels perfectly fine and that I should stay. Other times, when we argue, it feels very much like I should end it. I have been ricocheting between a go/leave decision for about a year now. Any clues to help me decide? 2) My partner is 46 and has started to avoid sex. I suspect because he is having erection problems. The last few times we did attempt sex, he couldn’t get hard. We have never been good at talking about sex so I have no idea of how to address the issue with him. Can you help?3) My husband and I have been together for 12 years and have a very active sex life. I have multiple orgasms every time we have sex though never through intercourse (I’m not one of those lucky few). Sometimes my orgasm is so intense I make my husband stop immediately. We jokingly call this the "orgasm of death". I love sex and hate that I can't finish one of these very intense orgasms. A- is this normal? and B -any tips for keep the fun going through the intensity? And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUTracey writes a column summarizing the main points of each episode on Medium. Read it at https://bit.ly/3MhkxN4Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
22 Feb 202216min
S2 Ep. 6: Lubes, Swallowing, and What to Do if Your Unborn Child Might Not Be Your Husband's
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:1) This is something I’m sure you get asked all the time but do I really need to swallow? I don’t mind giving my partner oral sex but really hate the swallowing part. He says it’s like having a hot dog without the tomato sauce. Is this true or is he making a fuss over nothing? 2) You’re always talking about how much better sex is when you use lube. But which lube should I be using? And what about things like Vaseline and baby oil? Don’t they do just as good a job?3) I've just got married and am four months pregnant. I love my husband dearly but, the week before the wedding, I met up with a man I still have feelings for. I wanted to be sure I was marrying the right person (I decided I am) but I’m ashamed to say we ended up having sex. This should be one of the happiest moments of my life but it’s not because I have no idea who is the father: it could be my ex or my husband. What should I do? And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUTracey writes a column summarizing the main points of each episode on Medium. Read it at https://bit.ly/3MhkxN4Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
15 Feb 202226min
S2 Ep. 5: Nocturnal Erections, How to Jazz Up the Same Old Sex Positions, and is a Forced Proposal Something You Should Refuse?
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:1) We’re stuck in a rut when it comes to sex positions and only do it doggy style or from behind. Any suggestions for how to shake things up a bit without going into Kama Sutra like contortions? 2) I noticed that whenever I wake up during the night, my partner has an erection. I asked him one morning if he’d had a sex dream and he looked embarrassed and said yes. I didn’t ask him what it was about but guessed by his reaction that it wasn’t about me. I know we can’t control our dreams, but it’s left me feeling angry and jealous. If I see he’s hard in the night — which he often is — it makes me paranoid. I know I’m building this up to be more than it is but how do I stop?3) My boyfriend of four years has finally asked me to marry him but the proposal has arrived after years of arguing about it. He thinks marriage is an outdated tradition and weddings are a waste of money. I am traditional and want a big wedding and a big dress. We’re already arguing about the logistics. Am I making a big mistake? I feel like I’ve forced him into it. And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUTracey writes a column summarizing the main points of each episode on Medium. Read it at https://bit.ly/3MhkxN4Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
8 Feb 202227min
S2 Ep. 4: First-Time Sex with Someone You Really Like, Inviting Your Vibrator into Bed with Your Partner, and What to Do if Your Husband Leaves You
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:1) My husband has just left me and I honestly don’t know where to go from here. We were married for 19 years but the last seven or so have been hell, after I discovered him cheating, time and time again. He’s now found someone he says he’s in love with and has left me for her. We have two children together but they’re both not living at home anymore. Do you have any advice on what I should do next?2) How do I incorporate using a vibrator regularly into sex with my partner? It works quickly, every time, so would be perfect to speed up love-making sessions. When he uses his fingers or gives me oral stimulation, it takes much longer and sometimes doesn’t lead to orgasm. The trouble is, I feel anxious bringing it up as I don’t want him to feel inadequate or awkward about me preferring the vibrator to his skills. I would enjoy him using it on me but am too scared to ask!3) I’m about to have sex with someone that I really like for the first time. I’m excited but also nervous. Any tips on how to make it go well? And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUTracey writes a column summarizing the main points of each episode on Medium. Read it at https://bit.ly/3MhkxN4Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
1 Feb 202222min
S2 Ep. 3: A Husband Obsessed with His Penis Size, Why Zoom Sex is Better than Sex In-Person, and Where Are All the Good Men Hiding?
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:1) I am single but please don’t tell me to go online to meet someone because I have absolutely no luck that way. Where should I go in person to meet men? Where are they all hiding?2) My husband is obsessed with the size of his penis. He thinks it’s too small and despite years of reassurance, he’s still really paranoid (He measured it and it’s 4.5 inches/11.5cm when erect.) Every time we have intercourse, he says, ‘I know that won’t have been very satisfying for you’. I’m exhausted by it all. How can I reassure him the problem isn’t his size, it’s him going on and on about it.3) I met my girlfriend online during lockdown, so most of the sex we had together at the start was via Zoom. Even though it wasn’t in person, it was awesome. She’d masturbate in front of me, talk dirty – nothing seemed off limits. I couldn’t wait to have sex in person but when we finally did, it was weird. She’s really inhibited and uptight and anxious. It hasn’t got better with time. What’s going on? And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUTracey writes a column summarizing the main points of each episode on Medium. Read it at https://bit.ly/3MhkxN4Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
25 Jan 202225min
S2 Ep. 2: How Much Sex is Normal for Long-Term Couples, Tips on Cringe-Proof Roleplay, and Breaking Up with Your Best Friend
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:1) I’ve been married for 15 years and have sex once a week. My husband tells me this isn’t enough and that other couples do it much more than we do. Is he right? He’s starting to make me feel like there’s something wrong with me for not wanting to do it more often.2) I’ve been with my boyfriend for five years, since I was 18. It’s been a wonderful relationship and I love him dearly but I think I’ve always known it was more friendship than romantic love for me. The problem is I’m not just breaking up with him, I’m breaking up our families and friends as well. Our lives are so intertwined. I can’t bear the thought of hurting everyone and causing so much disruption. What should I do?3) My partner wants to try roleplaying our fantasies but the thought of dressing up and play-acting fills me with dread. At best, I think I’d laugh. At worst, I think I’d die with embarrassment. What should I do? She’s insistent we give it a go. And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUTracey writes a column summarizing the main points of each episode on Medium. Read it at https://bit.ly/3MhkxN4Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
18 Jan 202226min
S2 Ep. 1: Male Virgins, When Does Friendship Turn into Leading Someone On, and Does Viagra Enhance Sex for Women?
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:I have a dilemma. I have lots of women friends in my drama class. They are all very pleasant and I enjoy being in their company. One of the unattached ones has fallen for me. I am attached (and believe it or not do love my partner) and will never leave her, and my friend knows it. But there is a sexual attraction between us, and genuine caring between us. It’s been going on for a few years. We have never kissed, except on the cheek. And we meet and have tea and a chat about once every 3 months, pandemic allowing. Am I being unfair to her to still see her, knowing she has fallen for me, with no prospect of anything really happening? I want to do the right thing by her.I’m a 28-year old healthy female but have some issues with desire. I’ve read that taking Viagra makes sex feel better for women. Is this true and would you recommend women take it?Please help! I’m a straight man in my mid-20s and still a virgin, even though I’m pretty average looking and have lots of friends. I haven’t yet had a proper relationship. I don’t have a problem attracting women, but I don’t ever seem to get past the foreplay stage and then things just fizzle out. What am I doing wrong? And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUTracey writes a column summarizing the main points of each episode on Medium. Read it at https://bit.ly/3MhkxN4Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
11 Jan 202222min
