Social Anxiety Solutions - your journey to social confidence!

"You’re not born with social anxiety, it is learned" The words of Gwyneth Moss, an EFT Master (one of the only 29 worldwide) who holds certificates in Neuro Linguistic Programming, Hypnotherapy and the Human Givens approach to Psychotherapy.  She's studied the works of Dr Robert Scaer, a leader in the field of trauma research. She shares: If the way you’re behaving, thinking or feeling doesn’t fit what is happening in the here and now, when you’re not feeling calm for no reason, when you can’t think straight in a situation, or when you can’t act sensibly and resourcefully...  ...you’re being affected by your past! She shares in simple terms how our past affects our day to day experiences and how we can use EFT to release the hold the past has on us, so that we can free ourselves and live lives of calm confidence. She shared how you go from re-living your past to re-telling it; no longer being emotionally connected to your past, being able to live in the now.  QUOTE: With social anxiety your animal brain is going “it’s not safe, it’s not safe!” and your thinking brain is trying to go “yes it is, it’s ok” , but there is no trust and the two are going in opposite directions. And your animal brain always wins because it’s mission is your protection and your pleasure. It wants to protect you and keep you safe. It doesn’t trust the thinking mind cause the thinking mind is slow. If you were in real danger you need your animal instincts to keep you safe. In real danger you don’t have time to think. When there is any sense of danger the animal brain does not trust the thinking brain.  EFT is therapy for your inner animal brain. Overcoming social anxiety is not about your thinking brain, it’s not what you think. It’s about your physical animal you, and helping that to feel safe.  Gwyneth's show notes page My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly:  www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ _________________________________________________________________ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb

25 Juni 201559min

It’s really important for us to have a clear understanding of what the transformational path looks like as we’re moving through it. It makes a big difference for people because it also gives them the ability to when we recognise these small steps we’ve made forward, it gives us the sense of achievement and momentum and so we keep after it." The words of expert "Gene Monterastelli"; a Brooklyn based EFT tapping practitioner who works with people to help them overcome limiting beliefs, anxiety, and relationship challenges.  Gene suffered from specific social anxiety: "I was totally fine performing on stage for 7000 people. But when I was engaging with a person 1 on 1 I didn’t have control because the other person had more agency, they could make choices. And that unpredictability of how they would respond was crippling. For me it was the starting of conversations."  We go into depth on the journey from social anxiety to social confidence and Gene shares what he did to overcome his social anxiety using the tapping, and he also paints a picture of what to expect, and what mindset to take to keep going.  QUOTE: The times that I feel anxious, the times that I feel overwhelmed, the times that I feel insecure it’s because I on some level have decided “my worth is determined by how someone else judges and evaluates me”. When I am in a position where I recognise my own worth, and I am making that judgment myself and seeing myself as worthy because that’s intrinsic about me, then navigating my day is really easy. I’m no longer trying to appease or try to live up to someone else’s definition of success and I’m just simply trying to be me in this moment. And when I do that I have so much more control. And regardless of what comes I’m able to respond with so much more grace.    Gene's show notes page My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly:  www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier _________________________________________________________________ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietys All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb

18 Juni 201548min

"There is hope for everyone" says Sophia Cayer, one of the only 29 EFT founding Masters who has been devoted to a full-time EFT practice and has been teaching EFT since 2000.  Sophia has had more than 12 000 client sessions and is known for finding core issues and working with tough challenges.  We go into depth on the things that prevent people from letting go their social anxiety. We go into why some people stay stuck, and what can be done to get unstuck.  She says: It takes courage to do the work but you will find it worthwhile. And what is great about EFT is the fact that you don’t necessarily have to tell your story and get into detail. There are so many subtle ways to get to the situation, so if there’s a concern to talk about things or reveal things that are uncomfortable, know there are gentle and subtle ways to get to these things and clear them. The process does not have to be horrifying or incredibly painful. Not saying their can’t be or won’t be moments where there will be intense emotion, but for the most part there things can be worked through in a gentle way and you really likely will be amazingly surprised with the process. And with EFT you can work on yourself in between sessions to help you find more calm resolve in daily situations.  We discuss the process of working with a practitioner, and dispel some of the myths and share what to expect.  QUOTE: I absolutely believe there is hope for everyone. I’ve seen people turn things around they thought were impossible. Whatever is causing the social anxiety, those things can be worked through. There are gentle and subtle ways to get to these things and clear them. The process does not have to be horrifying or incredibly painful. And you can find yourself amazingly surprised with the shifts that can happen.  Sophia's show notes page My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly:  www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier _________________________________________________________________ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb

11 Juni 201543min

The most important thing to understand to beat your social anxiety is what we discuss today: "overcoming subconscious resistance". When you don't overcome this resistance, you cannot become anxiety-free. Ever. Lindsay Kenny, one of the only 29 EFT Founding Masters, a Life Coach, and EFT AAMET Trainer of Trainers is the expert on subconscious resistance and shares her wisdom on the podcast.  She says “If you haven’t been able to overcome your problem you have a subconscious resistance to change.” Consciously you want to change, but your subconscious (which is much bigger than your conscious mind) says: “We’re not changing because if I go out into a social situation, I’m gonna get hurt, remember what happened last time?!” She also guides you through an exercise to overcome this subconscious resistance easily and quickly. This is a MUST-listen. QUOTE: Conventional psychology says “let’s desensitise you from that fear by forcing you to face it, little steps at a time where you grid your teeth and bite your finger nails, have your heart pounding and your knuckles white, and you’re just miserable doing it… And all the time your subconscious is yelling NO don’t make me do this!! Sometimes this (forcefully facing your fears) does work, but it’s so hard to do this. The simple thing is to just neutralise the subconscious resistance to changing. Lindsay's show notes page My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly:  www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier _________________________________________________________________ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb

4 Juni 201550min

Rick Wilkes is an Emotional Freedom Coach who has been guiding people for over 23 years using energy healing and EFT Tapping and has worked with thousands of individuals. He blends a unique combination of body-centered and energetic approaches to activate authentic self-expression, personal power, calm confidence, and a warm sense of self-love in his clients. We discuss the fear of rejection, how to overcome it and expand your comfort zone. Rather than push yourself harshly, we speak of how to gently expand it, and listen to your body’s YES and NO’s.  Rick shares “We coach around helping people build enough resilience so they can be out in the world with real people, but also have healthy boundaries that say “ow, you didn’t like what I said? Ow I wasn’t saying it for you”. QUOTE: Many people that have gone through this kind of process (tapping) become much more confident than your average person because you’re building up your resilience. Rick's show notes page My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly:  www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier _________________________________________________________________ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb

28 Maj 201555min

Steve Wells is a psychologist. He has trained to the highest level in provocative therapy, has extensive training and experience in brief strategic therapy, and has been training counsellors and therapists for over 20 years. Together with Dr David Lake he also conducts personal development seminars and professional training workshops in Advanced EFT and Provocative Energy Techniques.  He and Dr Lake developed Simple Energy Techniques (SET) and the unique advanced Energy-based approach Provocative Energy Techniques (PET). Steve shares his 30 day self acceptance journey, and let's you know how overcoming your social anxiety has to start with acceptance because non-self acceptance is a guaranteed way to keep your negative cycle of social anxiety happening.  And paradoxically accepting yourself (starting with accepting where you are) is the beginning point of recovery. QUOTE: A lot of people are doing exposure therapy, feel the fear and do it anyway, and that’s good, but you know what, for some people that’s really harrowing, it’s really tough, and what techniques like tapping do is at the very least they take the edge off at the beginning so that it becomes a little bit easier. And over time, it becomes a lot easier.  Steve's show notes page My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly:  www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier _________________________________________________________________ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb

21 Maj 201554min

This may forever shift your perspective on sensitivity and vulnerability and place it in a perspective that empowers and inspires you.
 Tom’s my close buddy and is an ex-professional MMA fighter. He practices a combination of Energy Psychology and intuitive physical therapy to facilitate deep levels of acceptance. 

 He's been on (and still is) a long journey of intense self-exploration, has lived in the jungle for 6 months, has done a 10 meditation retreat, and is the ideal man to speak to when it comes to owning your sensitivity and feeling safe enough to be vulnerable.  We talk about the necessity of owning your sensitivity and getting yourself to a place where it becomes safe to be vulnerable. Tom grew up in the UK and sensitivity was seen as weak and pathetic. Same for where I’m from. This has set us both on a journey to exploring our sensitivity.  
QUOTE: Being sensitive and being vulnerable is really a huge part of being able to connect with people. The more vulnerable and sensitive you allow yourself to be the more connected you feel with people.  Tom's show notes page My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly:  www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier _________________________________________________________________ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb

14 Maj 201544min

Tania suffered from social anxiety for the longest time and has completely resolved it.  She’s an NLP Trainer, EFT founding Master and Trainer, TAT Professional Trainer, Hypnotherapy Trainer and Practitioner. She’s featured on the BBC TV show Inside Out, as well as on a Swedish TV Show where she helped someone overcome a binge eating disorder. She has extensive experience working one on one with clients clearing fear and nerves in public speaking, including those who experience panic attacks, blushing and social phobia. We go into depth on bullying, share out own personal experiences, and give simple and effective techniques to eliminate (yes, not ease, not manage, eliminate!) the negative effects of bullying. QUOTE: "To me it’s not about “managing it" (the social anxiety), you really want to go for the full deal; it absolutely can be shifted” Tani's show notes page My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly:  www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier _________________________________________________________________ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb

7 Maj 201549min