Breaking the Silence: How Shame and Emotional Disconnection Are Quietly Destroying Men’s Mental Health with Mordy Gottlieb

Breaking the Silence: How Shame and Emotional Disconnection Are Quietly Destroying Men’s Mental Health with Mordy Gottlieb

In this powerful episode, licensed clinical social worker and certified sex addiction therapist Mordy Gottlieb pulls no punches as he exposes how shame, perfectionism, and emotional disconnection are silently eroding men’s lives. From hiding true selves behind masks to living a “living death” at 10% capacity, Mordy shares why most men only seek help after crisis hits (and usually because their partner forced them). He reveals practical ways to drop the armor, feel emotions in the body instead of the head, and finally start living instead of just surviving.

Key Takeaways:

  • Shame’s core belief: “If you really knew me, you wouldn’t accept me” → this creates deep loneliness even inside marriages and families.

  • Perfectionism isn’t strength; it’s a shield that guarantees burnout and disconnection.

  • Most men don’t come to therapy because they want change; they come in their 40s-60s after relationships, work, or addictions collapse.

  • Vulnerability is required for real intimacy; without it, your partner can only love the mask, not you.

  • Experiential therapy works because it gets men out of their heads and into their bodies (focus on physical sensations, not “feeling words”).

  • Hidden disconnection shows up as 6-8 hours of mindless scrolling, numbing, and avoiding what’s really going on inside.

  • First micro-step to reconnect: find anything safe (nature, a tree, a pet, a book) and let yourself feel supported.

  • Biggest myth to retire: “Life shouldn’t be hard.” Accept that struggle is normal; chasing perfection keeps you miserable forever.

  • Men have become “nice guys” who never say no or express needs → this breeds resentment and destroys accountability in relationships.

  • Ultimate fear holding men back: abandonment. Speaking your truth risks rejection, but silence guarantees disconnection.

  • Permission to play: healing isn’t just serious work; it’s also about becoming childlike, having fun, and not taking life so damn seriously.


Connect with Mordy Gottlieb:
Website & Free 50-minute Discovery Session: https://www.thegamechangergroup.com/
(Social media coming soon; Mordy is just stepping into the space!)

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