Principal Software Engineer: Democracy at Work is Overrated
Beyond Coding13 Elo 2025

Principal Software Engineer: Democracy at Work is Overrated

Dario Gieselaar, Principal Software Engineer from Elastic gets brutally honest about what it really takes to succeed in a top tech company. We uncover the uncomfortable truths about the promotion game, why direct feedback is crucial (even when it hurts), and why a "winning" mindset is everything. This is the conversation about career growth they don't have in HR meetings.


In this episode, we cover:

Navigating promotion cycles and advocating for yourself

Giving and receiving critical feedback without being seen as "negative"

The importance of accountability and managing low-performing colleagues

Why a top-down approach can be more effective than team democracy

How to "disagree and commit" to keep projects moving forward


This video is for any software engineer who wants to level up their career, navigate corporate dynamics, and become a high-impact performer in a competitive environment.


Full episode on YouTube ▶️

https://youtu.be/1q7Jjbi5GJ4

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Timestamps:

00:00:00 - Career Progression for Software Engineers in Big Tech

00:00:28 - The Pain and Frustration of a Missed Promotion

00:03:44 - The "Classic Game" of Asking Your Manager for a Promotion

00:05:38 - When Salary Becomes a Trigger for Your Motivation

00:08:09 - Why Recognition is More Important Than Money

00:11:09 - The Challenge of Giving Positive vs. Critical Feedback

00:13:26 - Is Your Critical Feedback Being Labeled as "Negative"?

00:15:36 - When Being Indirect Wastes Everyone's Time

00:17:44 - Why Direct Disagreement Leads to Better Decisions

00:20:16 - The Surprising Impact of Meeting Colleagues In-Person

00:22:43 - How Reorgs Destroy High-Performing Teams

00:25:59 - Why the World's Biggest Codebase is Embarrassing

00:27:58 - Should You Let Your Team Make Their Own Mistakes?

00:30:47 - The Unique Challenge of Building Enterprise Software

00:34:16 - A Hard Lesson: When Your Directness Hurts a Colleague

00:38:45 - The Uncomfortable Truth About Managing Low Performers

00:43:21 - Why High Performers Leave Teams That Tolerate Coasting

00:47:05 - A Contrarian Take: Is Workplace Democracy Overrated?

00:50:54 - How to "Disagree and Commit" Without Wasting Time

00:55:52 - The #1 Instinct to Control When Receiving Feedback

01:01:43 - Mindset Shift: Treating Software Engineering Like a Competitive Sport

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