258. From "I'm So Behind" to Main Character Energy: How Abby got promoted, found community, and attracted her first healthy relationship in her mid-30s

In this episode, Abby shares her late bloomer story with so much honesty and clarity. We talk about what it was like to be in her mid-30s, never having been in a serious relationship, carrying a loud "I'm behind" and "I'm weird" narrative, and feeling totally unsure how to talk about her dating history without spiraling.

Abby opens up about moving to a new city, trying to date while feeling embarrassed about her experience, and struggling with the not good enough voice that made her avoid connection. She also shares what shifted for her as she started to process shame, build community, and trust herself enough to take up more space at work, in dating, and in her daily life.

Inside this episode, you'll hear:

• how Abby learned to identify and quiet the "I'm weird" and "I'm behind" voice
• how belonging helped her stop self-isolating and start connecting
• what helped her ask for what she wanted (down to "I need 25% more texts")
• how she advocated for herself at work while doing two jobs
• how she built friendships, community, and eventually a healthy relationship
• what she wishes she could tell her past self, who felt so far behind

This is a powerful example of what can happen when you stop avoiding your desires and start trusting yourself enough to move toward them.


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