EP60 - Evolutionary Psychology Insights Regarding Dating and Mating

Welcome to episode 331 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Dr. Morgan. In this episode, we discuss attachment theory, the way different attachment styles affect sexual dynamics and ways in which you can communicate your insecurities.  Meet the relationship coach who's changing the game. With deep expertise in attachment theory and a proven track record of success, she's dedicated to helping women raise their self-worth and find the healthy relationship they deserve.   Her Empowered.Secure.Loved Program is the ultimate guide to secure attachment and long-lasting love. By combining science, data, and her own insights, she's created a transformative experience that takes you from lonely to loved in no time. Ready to take your love life to the next level? She's your secret weapon.  In this episode, you will hear:   Looking at the definition of attachment theory How attachment theory can be the missing piece to the dating puzzle What is insecure attachment style? The way different attachment styles affect sexual dynamics  The importance of communication and emotional connection  Recommendations on what you can do daily with secure attachment  Ways in which you can communicate your insecurities  Knowing what is useful to share with your partner Understanding what it is you need to feel better and more comfortable  Green Chef Thank you to our sponsor Green Chef! Use the promo code Sexology60 to get 60% off at https://greenchef.com/sexology60   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

25 Huhti 202331min

Welcome to episode 330 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Niki Davis-Fainbloom. In this episode, we discuss the common misconceptions around fetishes, dealing with internalized shame and understanding that not all fetishes are sexually connected.  Niki Davis-Fainbloom is a Canadian-born, New York-based sex educator, writer, and coach. Since receiving her Master’s degree studying the psychology of sexual dysfunction from NYU, she has facilitated hundreds of sexual education workshops at locations including Planned Parenthood, New York University, and The United Nations.  Her writing has also been featured in publications such as Mind Body Green, Cosmopolitan, Refinery 29, and Pornhub Sexual Wellness Center. Her work uses up-to-date research, humor, and practical advice to help people develop the skills to have healthier and more satisfying romantic and sexual relationships.  She is an expert in fetishes, and much of her coaching involves working with folks with unique desires as well as navigating ethical non-monogamy and pleasure.  In this episode, you will hear:   What inspired Niki to delve into this line of work Looking at the common fetishes people may desire Understanding the misconceptions around fetishes Analyzing uncommon fetishes such as sneeze fetishes The importance of knowing you’re not alone if you do have a fetish How you can communicate to your partner you have a fetish Why there can be a lot of internalized shame around fetishes Communities you can seek out to bond with others around this  How not all fetishes are sexually connected The importance of consent around fetishes  Green Chef Thank you to our sponsor Green Chef! Use the promo code Sexology60 to get 60% off at https://greenchef.com/sexology60   Foreplay Checklist Want to spice things up a little? Sign up below to invigorate your foreplay tonight. https://exciting-builder-8729.ck.page/2690c062c9 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

18 Huhti 202336min

Welcome to episode 329 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Dr. Eric Sprankle. In this episode, we discuss Eric’s upcoming book on masturbation, the misconceptions about masturbation, and how masturbation positively and negatively affects relationships.  Dr. Eric Sprankle is an Associate Professor of Clinical Psychology and Co-Director of the Sexuality Studies program at Minnesota State University, Mankato. He is a licensed clinical psychologist and an AASECT-certified sex therapist affiliated with the Minnesota Sexual Health Institute. He is also the Director of the Secular Therapy Project, a subsidiary of Recovering from Religion.  Dr. Sprankle received his doctorate in clinical psychology from Xavier University in 2009, completed a postdoctoral fellowship in sexual health at the University of Minnesota Medical School in 2011, and was awarded tenure in the Department of Psychology at Minnesota State University in 2017.  He currently leads the Sexual Health Research Team at Minnesota State examining sexuality, stigma, and secularism, and has published articles on the effects of sexually explicit material, older adult sexuality, and sex worker affirmative therapy.  In this episode, you will hear:   Looking at the content of Eric’s upcoming book around masturbation  How Eric became interested in this subject area The misconceptions around masturbation  Analyzing the differences between low, moderate and excessive masturbation  Is masturbation beneficial for your wellness? Understanding the context of masturbation  Masturbating healthily while in a relationship  Making sure your value systems around masturbation align with your partners value system Communicating to your partner about masturbation  How masturbation can positively and negatively affect relationships   Green Chef Thank you to our sponsor Green Chef! Use the promo code Sexology60 to get 60% off at https://greenchef.com/sexology60   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

11 Huhti 202329min

Welcome to episode 328 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Veronica Cisneros. In this episode, we discuss the weaponization of sex, the need for mutual pleasure in a healthy relationship and learning to step out of your comfort zone for excitement.   Veronica Cisneros is a force to be reckoned with. With a sparkling personality and a passion for helping couples feel heard, loved, and respected, she's transformed countless marriages from feeling like they're on life-support to thriving in a place of deep understanding and connection.  As a licensed marriage and family therapist, marriage coach, course creator, retreat host, and podcast host, she's leaving her mark on the world – and inspiring her listeners to live their best lives.  But it wasn't always this way. For years, Veronica found herself losing herself in an effort to meet the needs of her family. She was on the brink of losing her marriage – until she took the reins and fought back. Today, she's a true inspiration – and proof that with hard work and dedication, anything is possible.  In this episode, you will hear:   What does it mean to weaponize sex? How many women don’t feel seen in their relationship Understanding what sex represents to your partner Ways of not letting day to day life get in the way of sex The need for mutual pleasure in a healthy sexual relationship Knowing the best place to start to improve sex in a relationship The importance of communication and improving communication Learning to step out of your comfort zone for excitement  What you will experience at Veronica’s retreat   Thank you to our sponsor Green Chef! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

4 Huhti 202339min

Welcome to episode 327 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Dr. Alexandra Solomon. In this episode, we discuss maintaining great sex in a long-term relationship, boosting your sexual confidence and learning to step into your erotic self.  Over the last two decades, Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon has become one of today’s most trusted voices in the world of relationships, and her work on Relational Self-Awareness has reached millions of people around the world.   Dr. Solomon is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, and she is on faculty in the School of Education and Social Policy at Northwestern University where she teaches the internationally renowned course, Building Loving and Lasting Relationships: Marriage 101. In addition to writing articles and chapters for leading academic journals and books in the field of marriage and family, she is the author of two bestselling books, Loving Bravely and Taking Sexy Back.   Dr. Solomon regularly presents to diverse groups that include the United States Military Academy at West Point and Microsoft, and she is frequently asked to talk about relationships with media outlets like The Today Show, O Magazine, The Atlantic, Vogue, and Scientific American.  In this episode, you will hear:   Maintaining great sex in a long-term relationship Understanding the dynamics of sex and intimacy  Cultivating self-awareness and relational safety  How you can repair damaged parts of your sex life Ways in which you can boost your sexual confidence Tools you can use to better communicate with your partner Cultivating the positive aspects of your relationship inside and outside the bedroom Learning to step into your erotic self   Thank you to our sponsor FirmTech. Use the promo code Moali20 to get 20% at myfirmtech.com.  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

28 Maalis 202330min

Welcome to episode 326 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Dr. Shemeka Thorpe. In this episode, we discuss sexual self-consciousness, incorporating your spirituality into your sex life and recommendations to improve your sexual confidence.  Dr. Shemeka Thorpe is an alum of Florida State and UNCG, a North Carolina native, and a proud Ravenclaw with first-generation college student status.   A lover of the beach who also loves to read books, her passion for research began during her undergraduate studies. Earning her PhD in Community Health Education has enabled this public health professional's goal facilitating positive sexology narratives about Black people rather than deficit-based ones; she strives to create representative teams that consider community needs when disseminating important information from academic journals into meaningful impacts on population health outcomes.  With over 10 years of research under her belt, she is a wheelhouse of knowledge when it comes to sexuality education. As someone deeply embedded in the community and highly active on social media, not only has she been able gather insights from conversations with Black women - but all these experiences also inform her ongoing studies.   Furthermore, this expertise also sees her playing an important role by sitting on editorial review boards for two well-respected journals dedicated to comprehensive sexology counsels and sexual wellness as a whole.  In this episode, you will hear:   What sexual self-consciousness means  Recommendations to improve your sexual confidence Overcoming the shame spiral that can happen around sex Looking at studies of black women’s sexual experiences How many black women defined pleasure as liberating  Analyzing the different sexual experiences of queer and straight people Understanding the difference between pleasure and orgasm Incorporating your spirituality into your sex life The importance of sexual mindfulness   Thank you to our sponsor FirmTech. Use the promo code Moali20 to get 20% at myfirmtech.com.  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

21 Maalis 202328min

Welcome to episode 325 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Elliot Justin, M.D., FACEP. In this episode, we discuss the benefits of using a cock ring, readjusting your erectile expectations as you get older and how toys such as vibrators have become more normalized to use for men and women.  Elliot Justin, M.D., FACEP, is an Emergency Medicine Specialist and enthusiastic cock ring user for more than 10 years. In his extensive career as a medical professional, he’s seen inadequate resources dedicated to evaluating men’s sexual health issues.    He believes that before there’s erectile dysfunction, there’s erectile fitness. His interest in regenerative medicine and his passion for regular playful lovemaking and its health benefits inspired him to start FirmTech Inc., the world’s first smart male underwearables company.   FirmTech focuses on developing products that encourage fun, enjoyable sex for men of all ages, while empowering them to better understand their health and the impact of medications, supplements, personal habits, vices and exercise on their sexual wellness. We want to give you the data to make the best decisions for your sex health.  In this episode, you will hear:   How Elliot became interested in this line of work  The benefits of using a cock ring  Pros and cons of using medication such as Viagra  The relationship between erectile dysfunction and anxiety  Readjusting your erectile expectations as you get older Looking at other sex tech products available to improve erections How toys such as vibrators have become more normalized to use for men and women Why you shouldn’t compare your sex life to pornography  The way in which sex toys for men are slowly becoming more mainstream Changes you can make such as exercise or better diet to further improve your sex life  Thank you to our sponsor FirmTech. Use the promo code Moali20 to get 20% at myfirmtech.com.  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

14 Maalis 202342min

Welcome to episode 324 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Amir Yassai. In this episode, we discuss Amir’s journey of coming out as a queer Muslim, understanding how sexual shame develops, and recommendations on how you can feel more sexually empowered.  Amir Yassai is a queer Muslim unicorn who won’t shy away from any conversation. Comedy is at the center of everything he does.  Chatting with Amir will be like chatting with an old friend with a lot more sass. He actively battles against racism, transphobia, and body shaming in the queer community.  His courage in speaking out against discrimination and prejudice makes him one of the most engaging people you could talk to: like catching up with your best friend, but spicier!  In this episode, you will hear:   Looking at Amir’s journey as a queer Muslim  Overcoming the challenges of coming out as a queer Muslim How Amir’s relationship with his parents has evolved over the years Understanding how sexual shame develops  How Amir found a community to help with the challenges of being a queer Muslim Knowing that it’s ok to have a variety of sexual attractions  The importance of having open communication with your sexual partners Steps you can take to heal from sexual shame Why it’s healthy to have sexual fantasies  Recommendations on how you can feel more sexually empowered   Thank you to our sponsor FirmTech. Use the promo code Moali20 to get 20% off at myfirmtech.com.  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

7 Maalis 202343min